Loveless21 Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Separated from husband... Weve been having sex this whole time.. Just to get our basic needs met. Not snything great, no kissing, no intimacy etc... He told me last week its not enough for him and if it doesnt get better he wants to start having sex with other ppl.. What do u ppl think of this? Is it possible to stay separated and not have sex with others? If he would have sex its definitely a done deal for me. Not like hes so great as it is, of hes having sex on top of it i have zero interest. Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Are you trying to reconcile? If so, work on that and don't sleep with other people. If not, stop sleeping with each other. It's just preventing you from moving on. Are you satisfied with the sex you're having with your H? It sounds more like a chore than something I'd look forward to. I live in a state where you have to be separated for a year before divorce and then it's often several more months (or more) before the divorce is actually final, so I know many, many people who start dating while separated--some even cohabitate and some get engaged. Only you can decide if you're comfortable seeing other people (or even want to) while separated. Link to post Share on other sites
bv120 Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Stop the torture. Enough with the sex with the H. In my state absence of marital relations is required for separation. Start dating. It may not be easy for you but you've got to start at some point. Why not now? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loveless21 Posted March 10, 2014 Author Share Posted March 10, 2014 We r not sure if we are reconciling. Up to this point we were faithful but now he wants out if "sex isnt better". Seems like a bullying technique to me.. He says he just needs his basic needs met.. Also i dont agree with sleeping around until the ink is dry but i guess most ppl sleep around once they r on break Link to post Share on other sites
notbroken Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 If either of you sees other people, your marriage will likely be over. Make sure that's what you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loveless21 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Share Posted March 11, 2014 I dont know if its what i want but its very obvious hes playing the field, looking to see what single girls are out there etc.. Chsrming his way out there.. And then comes to me for sex only. So beyond hurtful i cant even put it into words Link to post Share on other sites
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