Hopeful30 Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Recently single (few weeks). Been going out, dressing up, doing my thing. I've really gotten back into my own flow of things, turned back into myself. And with that comes the usual - men don't approach, men are intimidated, I'm horny, I'm bored, no man to bang or at least have good conversation with (I really enjoy a man's company). I guess i'm half venting half asking for advice. I'm a cute girl (from what I've been told) and I'm always smiles and very friendly. But men still have a hard time asking for my number or even approaching me to begin with. My guy friends tell me it's cuz I'm so open and 'cool' but I have a reeeeeeeeeally hard time believing that. What does a non-slutty girl have to do to get laid around here!? (F-buddies don't work for me... I need some intellect and some kind of emotion to be there for me to get aroused enough to want to bang the guy. Pure looks doesn't do it.) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 What does a non-slutty girl have to do to get laid around here!? (F-buddies don't work for me... I need some intellect and some kind of emotion to be there for me to get aroused enough to want to bang the guy. Pure looks doesn't do it.) That's kind of contradictory. What is it that you want? I am reading you want sex BUT you cannot do the FWB. What do you want? A boyfriend? You're just out of relationship, how long was that relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Do guys know that you are single? As I said in your intimidation thread, it's very possible that men think that you're too good to be true (pretty, friendly, single) so they don't bother. When you talk to men you need to let it slip that you are interested in meeting new guys, but do so in a way that isn't desperate or just looking for sex. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hopeful30 Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 That's kind of contradictory. What is it that you want? I am reading you want sex BUT you cannot do the FWB. What do you want? A boyfriend? You're just out of relationship, how long was that relationship? I want great sex with a great guy. 5 months. Do guys know that you are single? As I said in your intimidation thread, it's very possible that men think that you're too good to be true (pretty, friendly, single) so they don't bother. When you talk to men you need to let it slip that you are interested in meeting new guys, but do so in a way that isn't desperate or just looking for sex. Well of course I make it clear in conversation, but there's no way of making that evident when you're just looking at me (it's not like I have a sign on my forehead lol). The problem isn't getting the date, the problem is getting aproached. Link to post Share on other sites
ZipperZapper Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Well, if you really want to become un-bored and have more success, you could actually start asking men out. Asking them out doesn't mean you're slutty or only interested in sex. Sheesh. It never fails to amaze me how women insist that men do all the work in relationships and then blame them if things go sideways. 15 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hopeful30 Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 Well, if you really want to become un-bored and have more success, you could actually start asking men out. Asking them out doesn't mean you're slutty or only interested in sex. Sheesh. It never fails to amaze me how women insist that men do all the work in relationships and then blame them if things go sideways. You think I haven't thought of that? Of course I've approached men, but they think i'm too aggressive. They either get scared or smile when I talk and hardly talk back. Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 non-slutty? What is slutty considering you are posting being so desperate about having sex? 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hopeful30 Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 non-slutty? What is slutty considering you are posting being so desperate about having sex? Really? You're asking the difference between sluttiness and being horny? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Really? You're asking the difference between sluttiness and being horny? Yes. It seems to be different from one person to another on here. Besides, I don't see what's so slutty about taking the steps to getting the horniness taken care of ( which is kind of what you're doing right now...) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hopeful30 Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 Besides, I don't see what's so slutty about taking the steps to getting the horniness taken care of ( which is kind of what you're doing right now...) I never said it's slutty. My point is I wanna get laid without being a sl*t to do it, as in I wanna get laid without doing it with some random guy I just met while dressed in extremely revealing clothing to show I'm available lol! Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 I never said it's slutty. My point is I wanna get laid without being a sl*t to do it, as in I wanna get laid without doing it with some random guy I just met while dressed in extremely revealing clothing to show I'm available lol! I didn't either which is why I asked you… Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Men are conditioned these days to leave women alone in public and the only men that usually cold approach are jerks that just don't care. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 I never said it's slutty. My point is I wanna get laid without being a sl*t to do it, as in I wanna get laid without doing it with some random guy I just met while dressed in extremely revealing clothing to show I'm available lol! Well, there's always online dating. At least there your intentions are obvious. And you are guaranteed to get approached. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ZipperZapper Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Men are conditioned these days to leave women alone in public and the only men that usually cold approach are jerks that just don't care. How did they get that way? Because women started being unapproachable and putting up their bitch shields, and then by treating any man who did approach, however carefully, as a creep. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Copelandsanity Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Hopeful, where are you going out to do your thing? If you're going to bars and clubs, the ones approaching are likely to be players, wannabe pick-up artists. and "jerks who don't care." That doesn't mean that great guys with intellect don't go to bars, but the chances of one breaking off from his crowd/group and confidently going over to a female stranger in a pick-up attempt is not great. Online dating is one option. You'll get constant and never-ending approaches, lol. You could also try socializing your interests. For instance, tons of men and women where I am do running, so an easy way to meet people is to join a running team or a running group. It's a lower pressure situation, it organically puts you in direct social contact with multiple people of the opposite sex, and generally speaking, the people are good. Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 How did they get that way? Because women started being unapproachable and putting up their bitch shields, and then by treating any man who did approach, however carefully, as a creep. But this is precisely the problem. There's nothing creepier than "being careful". If you act like you're ashamed to be trying to talk to someone, obviously they won't enjoy it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 go online, to a free site like POF or CL. advertise your need to get laid so urgently and you'll have an inbox full of responses. it sounds more like you're looking for trouble, but to each their own. online is your fastest route. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 How did they get that way? Because women started being unapproachable and putting up their bitch shields, and then by treating any man who did approach, however carefully, as a creep. This and the line between what is considered harrassment and just approaching is very very vague. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 this is to be frank, one of the oddest post. A girl comes on here and wants to behave like a slut yet do it with finesse. There is no finesse in that alley. As a person I am turned off by anyone crowing about their need for conquest for the sheer sake of such. Point blank she is the female version of a player. So learn the technique that players use and have at it. Its your life and your reputation. I'm sure it will be all that you wish . 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 this is to be frank, one of the oddest post. A girl comes on here and wants to behave like a slut yet do it with finesse. There is no finesse in that alley. As a person I am turned off by anyone crowing about their need for conquest for the sheer sake of such. Point blank she is the female version of a player. So learn the technique that players use and have at it. Its your life and your reputation. I'm sure it will be all that you wish . Is there a need to insult her like that? She just wants some guys to come up and talk to her. It's a shame that these days we have created such a climate that people are afraid to even talk to the opposite sex and I think that is the source of her problem. It does not make her a slut. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 shes just after some much wanted attention from the opposite gender, what is wrong with that? 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 Recently single (few weeks). Been going out, dressing up, doing my thing. I've really gotten back into my own flow of things, turned back into myself. And with that comes the usual - men don't approach, men are intimidated, I'm horny, I'm bored, no man to bang or at least have good conversation with (I really enjoy a man's company). I guess i'm half venting half asking for advice. I'm a cute girl (from what I've been told) and I'm always smiles and very friendly. But men still have a hard time asking for my number or even approaching me to begin with. My guy friends tell me it's cuz I'm so open and 'cool' but I have a reeeeeeeeeally hard time believing that. What does a non-slutty girl have to do to get laid around here!? (F-buddies don't work for me... I need some intellect and some kind of emotion to be there for me to get aroused enough to want to bang the guy. Pure looks doesn't do it.) 1. So you are on a rebound...don't you think taking some time out to reflect on what went wrong with the last one, and then working on those issues before jumping into another one? 2. Yes....conservatively or screaming am available come and have me? 3. That screams desperate to me, and am sure a mechanical device can be purchased for that task if need be Link to post Share on other sites
topaMAXX Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 Recently single (few weeks). Been going out, dressing up, doing my thing. I've really gotten back into my own flow of things, turned back into myself. And with that comes the usual - men don't approach, men are intimidated, I'm horny, I'm bored, no man to bang or at least have good conversation with (I really enjoy a man's company). I guess i'm half venting half asking for advice. I'm a cute girl (from what I've been told) and I'm always smiles and very friendly. But men still have a hard time asking for my number or even approaching me to begin with. My guy friends tell me it's cuz I'm so open and 'cool' but I have a reeeeeeeeeally hard time believing that. What does a non-slutty girl have to do to get laid around here!? (F-buddies don't work for me... I need some intellect and some kind of emotion to be there for me to get aroused enough to want to bang the guy. Pure looks doesn't do it.) Many would consider me to be a quality guy (well, at this point in my life anyway). I wouldn't be interested in dating a girl that thinks this way. It sounds like you're looking for quick sex. Have you tried OLD or Craigslist? Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 What kind of guy friends are these that don't try to bang you while you're single? Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 What kind of guy friends are these that don't try to bang you while you're single? There is probably something those guys know that we don't.......just saying I have turned down 2 women that wanted me so bad in the last month...it's not all about sex 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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