rahul gupta Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 when joined my college on third day.. i had talk wit a girl..in the collage and when i became her friend in social networking site..we were friends after a days i thought we now good friends and started chatting with her i got a message from her saying stop acting like a desperate beech ...nd i got blocked....when was going to talk with her nd give her some notes ..she didnt even stop ..she was continuously walking..the next day she came and said..y r u following me huh?? she told me so much..i did say even a word..it ws so hurting...nd in the class they made a jokes on me.....many girls in class don't talk with me....they spread rumours every where... nd even guys think different ...nd even sent her message saying i was nt following...from tat day i didnt talk with her....i was depressed wht all they did with me nd was really hurt.....till today they do the same..6 months passed....they all misunderstand me....for hw many people i should clear misunderstanding please help me..... Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 Sorry you are still getting crap from others, but why would you ever try to speak with her ever again after her calling you desperate beech and blocked her? She was perfectly clear she didn't want to talk to you anymore, yet you tried to talk to her again. That is not good. It tells me you don't respect her right to make that decision. It is her right. Leave her alone. Get new friends and don't ever do that again!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author rahul gupta Posted March 12, 2014 Author Share Posted March 12, 2014 it should never had met her this never had happened..i should never had met her ..this **** wouldn't have happened.. :( .....but y..i m treated like this...it really hurts my self respect Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 12, 2014 Share Posted March 12, 2014 Every girl is different. Just because one isn't interested doesn't mean another one won't be. Pay attention to the ones who smile at you. But if they don't want to proceed, you just have to respect that and as long as you do, you will still keep your self-respect. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rahul gupta Posted March 14, 2014 Author Share Posted March 14, 2014 i don't know why after this incident ..i feel inferior to talk with any girl.....i think many times to say hi to girl,,,,,y is this happening with me......if anyone laughs i think there laughing on me......how should i get of this please help ..i don't want to go in depression .......i want to realise the importance of me Link to post Share on other sites
Author rahul gupta Posted March 16, 2014 Author Share Posted March 16, 2014 so i have come to final decision that forget all this crap and begin a new life :) :) Link to post Share on other sites
Author rahul gupta Posted March 26, 2014 Author Share Posted March 26, 2014 still it did not end...people keep asking me....u went propose her nd those stupid stuff but i keeping on saying no no no..still they tease me..still they make fun of me ...i m some hw getting mentally tortured .... Link to post Share on other sites
Survivor12 Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 It is obvious that you are hurting badly. I encourage you to make an appointment with your college counselor and talk to them about what you are experiencing. The will have the resources to provide you guidance in how to "fit in" (clubs & organizations) and help you with your self esteem issues. Please give this a try. Don't just try to bury the feelings you are having. They are very real & valid, and by dealing with them now, you will give yourself the opportunity for a better future. I wish you all the best. Link to post Share on other sites
SerCay Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 You need counseling. You suffer from a terrible low self esteem and coming with that an inferiority complex. This might lead to social anxiety and depression, if it hasn't already. First get therapy and heal, raise your self esteem. Then try to get in contact with girls. Now is not the time for you. You will only get disappointed more and more if you continue like this. You don't have the ability to set your own boundaries yet. You can't jump a ladder from ground to top in 1 step. Start at the beginning. You will get there, but there's no easy way out. I strongly suggest you to stop complaining that others are hurting your self respect. You are doing this. Change starts by looking at yourself. Not at others. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rahul gupta Posted March 28, 2014 Author Share Posted March 28, 2014 she stares at me when i talk with my other college friends who r girls....y she do like that...when i see her doing lik that...i feel for moment to stop talking with my best friends even for a moment Link to post Share on other sites
Author rahul gupta Posted March 28, 2014 Author Share Posted March 28, 2014 You need counseling. You suffer from a terrible low self esteem and coming with that an inferiority complex. This might lead to social anxiety and depression, if it hasn't already. First get therapy and heal, raise your self esteem. Then try to get in contact with girls. Now is not the time for you. You will only get disappointed more and more if you continue like this. You don't have the ability to set your own boundaries yet. You can't jump a ladder from ground to top in 1 step. Start at the beginning. You will get there, but there's no easy way out. I strongly suggest you to stop complaining that others are hurting your self respect. You are doing this. Change starts by looking at yourself. Not at others. she stares at me when i talk with my other college friends who r girls....y she do like that...when i see her doing lik that...i feel for moment to stop talking with my best friends even for a moment Link to post Share on other sites
Author rahul gupta Posted March 28, 2014 Author Share Posted March 28, 2014 It is obvious that you are hurting badly. I encourage you to make an appointment with your college counselor and talk to them about what you are experiencing. The will have the resources to provide you guidance in how to "fit in" (clubs & organizations) and help you with your self esteem issues. Please give this a try. Don't just try to bury the feelings you are having. They are very real & valid, and by dealing with them now, you will give yourself the opportunity for a better future. I wish you all the best. she stares at me when i talk with my other college friends who r girls....y she do like that...when i see her doing lik that...i feel for moment to stop talking with my best friends even for a moment Link to post Share on other sites
Rubypumped Posted April 3, 2014 Share Posted April 3, 2014 She is being very rude and immature by making fun of you and others are being immature for agreeing with her. But you are taking it way too seriously and acting pathetic. You need to get your self esteem back up and forget about her. Once you get your self esteem back up ( which could take a while) if she is still doing it then you can tell her off. It seems like you are both focused on each other in very negative ways, and both of you need to back off. I would understand being so upset if you guys had been good friends and her behavior changed, but she is just a stupid classmate so forget about her. And if you show that you have respect for yourself then others will learn to have respect for you too. (That does NOT mean going up to her and telling her how much she hurt you because she obviously does not respect you and will use it as ammo!) the best way to show you respect yourself is to ignore her and focus on hanging out with your best friends, being kind and confident, and taking care of your looks like good hygiene and how you dress. Don't try too hard!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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