nohardfelines Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 My stbxw was upset with something I did tonight, so I tried to talk it out with her, but we ended up in tears...again. Some backstory... She split with me two weeks ago, and I told her that I would support her until she got a job and was able to move out. She was very clear, her decision would not change, she would appreciate it if we could only discuss practical things, or the kids, etc. I agreed. She had to go get recertified for her job and attend a class, so she left for a week, returning tonight. All week, every day, I would tell her we were fine, let her talk to the kids for a few minutes and then cut the call short with just 'ok, talk to you later.' Honestly, I did this because the next words out of my mouth would have been 'I miss you, can we talk about this?...' I was trying to make this easy for her, you know, let her be away from me, even enjoy herself without pressure on anything from me. It's over, why make it hard? It was hell for me, why make it that bad for her? Apparantly, she was very hurt by my coldness, and came home angry. The last thing I wanted was for us to be angry with each other, so I tried to explain myself, but we ended up going over the same ground that I thought we had left behind...all the old stuff, and I told her that it was too hard for me to talk with her, and we were both in tears by the end of it. She ran upstairs and I sent her a text that said 'I never meant for all of that to come out. I didn't want to do that to you. I'm sorry.' I thought I knew where we stood, but now i'm completely confused. Wtf is going on? Link to post Share on other sites
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