devianceisus Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 Hello! I've been with her for five years and she went on a student exchange in September for a semester in Spain and broke up with me. We had some unresolved issues and I think that was the main reason of the break up. We heard each other very often for the last six months but she was always calling me a lot and not the other way around. A month ago she started calling me only once a week to see how I am doing but bofore she called me every two days. She came home on Valentine's day and we arranged a meeting to give her her stuff back that was left in my apartment and to grab a cup of coffee. I couldn't meet her until last Tuesday because I really had a lot of work to do se I delayed the meeting to Tuesday last week. The date went quite well as I think. When I saw her I hugged her and kissed her on the cheek. Then she said she was hungry so we went to a restaurant to grab a dinner which she insisted to pay because I brought her stuff back to her she left in my apartment. She was having fun like I did and she was mentioning the good times we had so we laughed a lot. After the dinner we went to grab a cup of coffee in a nearby coffee shop and stayed there for an hour. She mostly talked about her time in Madrid and how it was fun. I just listened and it went quite well I think. She also showed me a lot of photos she took travelling in Spain and Portugal which were great. I also teased her and I was having fun with her and I think she took it quite well because I told her I had to go but she told me to stay so I stayed a little bit longer and after some time I said I have to go to work something and she told me what's the hurry so agreed to go home. I also gave her a goodbye hug. Through the conversation I said we should catch up sometime and drink and go out but she didn't reply. I think that she liked she saw me but I didn't see to get some signals for another meeting. I also told her that I am happy to see her back but she didn't reply... She didn't say anything about our relationship except she mentioned some good and fun times like I did and a few times she called me using our nicknames. She also showed me a photo with a rose someone bought her for Valentine's day but I didn't ask her who bought it. She said that her friend bought the rose and not a lover... I don't know what to do next and how to arrange another meeting with her. I still love her but I don't know if she loves me still because she said in October she is going to apply for an intership in Australia and that will probably be the end of everything. I need some advice how to keep going and how to call her for another date because I don't think she will call me anymore... After seeing her I know I still love her and definitely want her back. After I left I almost started to cry but I didn't. oh, I waited for this day for six months and really want to see her again because I miss her now more then ever... After our meeting she sent me some text messages regarding the stuff I gave her back so we texted for some time and it was quite pleasant and fun. On Thursday she sent me a link with an internship application for this summer in USA because I told her I would like to go to California this summer. She also told me she would like to go to California also to work for the summer. I don't know what that means but I hope it's good. I haven't her of her since Thursday but I would like to arrange another date with her and see how it goes. Any advice will be great because I don't want to do something wrong and then regret it. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 Hello! I've been with her for five years and she went on a student exchange in September for a semester in Spain and broke up with me. We had some unresolved issues and I think that was the main reason. what does this mean? most people that wants to get back together would answer you when texting. they might not initiate it but they will answer. just be careful and dont wait for her. the more you wait the harder it will be to get over her. and the more you initiate contact the harder it will be to get her back. normally i would say that going back with your ex is bad and that things will be better with someone else because the problems will still be there. just because youve been together a long time doenst mean shes ready for a relationship with you or anyone else. i dont think that you should believe that she wants the relationship back just because shes helping you out with something or cause she wants to stay friends. she broke up with you. its not your job to get her back. she lost you and not the other way around. instead of chasing her. make her miss you by not being there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author devianceisus Posted March 10, 2014 Author Share Posted March 10, 2014 Thzank you for the advice. Actually I just ended a phone conversation with her right now. She asked me where is her shirt and I somewhere lost it so I called her to tell her I've lost the shirt. She replied that there is no problem about it so I said I will buy her a new one and she said it's ok and that it's not that important anyway. I said I have to go but she started talking and we talked for 45 minutes. I tried to go but she asked me a lot of questions and I answered them politely. The conversation was pleasant and fun but I sad to her that I ahve to go so I hang up. She laso told me at the end that we'll see each other and that we will hear each other again next week because I'm leaving town for business. I hope it is some good news.. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 its so hard to tell. but be on your guard. accept that right now youre not together. dont treat her like you are. i bet she will show you if theres something still there. Link to post Share on other sites
Trep Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 It sounds like she just wants to be friends. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 Thzank you for the advice. Actually I just ended a phone conversation with her right now. She asked me where is her shirt and I somewhere lost it so I called her to tell her I've lost the shirt. She replied that there is no problem about it so I said I will buy her a new one and she said it's ok and that it's not that important anyway. I said I have to go but she started talking and we talked for 45 minutes. I tried to go but she asked me a lot of questions and I answered them politely. The conversation was pleasant and fun but I sad to her that I ahve to go so I hang up. She laso told me at the end that we'll see each other and that we will hear each other again next week because I'm leaving town for business. I hope it is some good news.. when you said, We had some unresolved issues and I think that was the main reason. since she broke up with you i assume (she) had some unresolved issues with you? and that you really dont know why she broke up with you. we always try to figure out why because we dont believe what they say. and i dont think you should. you break up with someone for selfish reasons. you dont want to stay with that person and it makes you feel better when single. most normal dumpers will tell you things to make you feel better. for example, lets stay friends. or its not just your fault. thing is. if you dont know what made her break up with you it will be very hard to fix. Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 I said I have to go but she started talking and we talked for 45 minutes. I tried to go but she asked me a lot of questions and I answered them politely. The conversation was pleasant and fun but I sad to her that I ahve to go so I hang up. She laso told me at the end that we'll see each other and that we will hear each other again next week because I'm leaving town for business. I hope it is some good news.. Don't make yourself so available to her. Let her chase you a bit too. Trust your gut. Link to post Share on other sites
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