Babolat Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 I had never heard of this before last Saturday. I went to a 2 hour relationship communication seminar, and the basis of the seminar was Yin and Yang. At first I thought "here we go again..yet another relationship theory...." I found it very interesting. A LOT of it applies to the relationship I just ended (we both ended it really). And, looking back, I can see a lot of Yin & Yang in all of my relationships. Has anyone else read up on this? Do you think it applies to your relationship, relationships in general? What I struggle with, is which am I, where do "I fall"? I exhibit qualities of both femine and masculine; though I am more masculine Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 I went to a 2 hour relationship communication seminar... Of your own free will? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Copelandsanity Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 Of your own free will? Yeah, you better have gotten laid with some Yang Link to post Share on other sites
TheyCallMeOx Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 I think it over-complicates things by adding gender roles in it. The important thing is you have to know who you are in general so that you can present your best qualities more often and limit your worst qualities from coming out. Chicks want a guy who is confident, and you can't be confident in yourself if you don't know yourself. If you don't know who you are, you're more likely to "change." People don't want to date people who are still trying to figure themselves out because that causes risk when considering the possibility that tomorrow...they could decide in having promiscuous sex for the rest of their lives instead of participating in monogamy. I want a woman who knows who she is. If she knows she's got a great ass, she's more likely to wear jeans that show it off. I like that. If I've got a great ass, a woman would expect me to do the same. Maybe if I had big biceps, she'd expect me to wear shirts that hug around the biceps to show it off. If I don't know that I got biceps to be proud of (currently I don't have the biceps I used to have), then I wouldn't know which clothes to buy for myself. If I have to get a woman to pick out clothes for me, that's basically treating me like a child because I'm unable to pick out my own clothes that accentuate my physical qualities. No woman wants to treat their man like a child. A woman wants her man to look good on his own, and she'd be glad to help him look better when the time comes. Meet her halfway, and she'll meet you halfway. Essentially, I do believe in a "universal balance," but it's more of a weight kind of thing rather than yin and yang. In relationships, you both have to do your fair share. Equal sacrifices. For instance, I see this scenario sometimes: a woman wants a man to stop watching porn because it makes her feel like she's not good enough for him. However, she has a low sex-drive. If a man stops watching porn, he's going to want sex more often. If a man is willing to make a sacrifice but a woman isn't willing to give him a blowjob or have sex with him to help him resist the temptation to watch porn, there's an imbalance...therefore, a problem. I'd be more than happy to quit my porn addiction provided I know that I've got a hot and horny woman waiting for me. But if I quit porn and have nothing to fall back on? That's a bunch of BS. It doesn't have to be that complicated. In general, some important concepts I can agree with, but I'm not convinced in the concept. Just another theory to me. Whatever works for you, though, is what's important. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Chocolat Posted March 10, 2014 Share Posted March 10, 2014 Hmmm, I just did a cursory read-up on this. I like it but at the same time it's just another way of expressing what you already knew, which is that your (now ex) gf was not a good match for you. Was it introvert/extravert, yin/yang, love language, personality or something else? Anyway, back to Yin/Yang. I suspect that just about all single women with kids tend to be "female-male," which, based on what I read, means the ideal relationship would be with a "male-female." Isn't this what you had? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Babolat Posted March 10, 2014 Author Share Posted March 10, 2014 Of your own free will? Yup, I like that kind of stuff and try to learn from it. It was a health and wellness fair, and they were doing all kinds of seminars. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Babolat Posted March 10, 2014 Author Share Posted March 10, 2014 Anyway, back to Yin/Yang. I suspect that just about all single women with kids tend to be "female-male," which, based on what I read, means the ideal relationship would be with a "male-female." Isn't this what you had? Yeah, I was thinking the same when I read up on the ideal match. Her and I agreed I have some male-female "in me" and she was exhibiting "female-male", but only out of necessity as it's not really who she is, she is female-female. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts