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why has his kissing style changed?


jacg89

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We are so happy together. We are always in touch when we are at work, and we are always together at home. We have been together since about October, and knew each other almost 2 years...(he lives upstairs from me..and I moved in with my gradmother downstairs. shes known him for years and they love each other)

 

So I just wanted to know what was up with this...when we first started dating and hanging out, we would make out and really get into it. Now, it seems that when we kiss, I feel like i can't make out with him because he just...kisses me. Kisses me a lot, but not really making out. We only make out and get into it when we are having sex, but we used to make out just...watching tv, with him laying down on my lap...am I overthinking things?

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Hello_is_it_me

As a guy, making out is one of those things that by itself, is fun for a short time in the new stages of a relationship.. But to me it loses its luster. I wouldn't look too much into it or worry about it as long as your sex life is still running at a normal pace.

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This is typical! Thinking back to every relationship I've had or every guy I've dated, this isn't out of the ordinary. I would not worry about this at all. Like the previous poster said, making out is fun in the beginning stages, but it does in fact lose its luster.

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Lernaean_Hydra
this is like a question from a 16 year old.

Is this a real problem.

 

lol Move on, no contact

 

Oh come on, cut her some slack. I'm 23 and have experienced this as well and it did cause me to wonder/worry at first.

 

OP, after a while, 'making out' can be fun, the desire to do so for long periods of time diminishes after a while. I've found myself having to remind him from time-to-time that um, hello, I'd still like to be passionately kissed for longer than it takes to remove our clothes! Which sort of pissed me off at first, but from talking to other people I've realized, after x number of months or years, 'making out' sort of loses its appeal.

 

Gone are the hour+ 'make out sessions' that go on for so long that when you finally unlock your lips you find the credits rolling on whatever movie you were watching or hear the deafening silence of the sound of your MP3 playlist having finished. Especially if sex is practcially a given thereafter.

 

If you genuinely mind his lack of kissing, or find it offensive, tell him so! Everyone's style is different and changes over time, so while some guys and girls get "bored" of kissing after a while, others find it the most thrilling of foreplay or bonding. If you fall in the second category, let him know that and make it clear you need a bit more lip-locking to feel satisfied or secure. No shame in that.

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Once you are intimate, the long make out sessions tend to disappear. If you talk to him, perhaps you can make more a part of your foreplay but it will never go back to the way it was when kissing was all there was.

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devilish innocent

Things tend to be more intense in the very beginning because it's so brand new. That's typical. It doesn't mean the relationship is any less special later on.

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