soosad Posted January 25, 2005 Share Posted January 25, 2005 I just wanted to thank everybody at Loveshack for reminding me how many loving and caring people there are out there. It’s been so beneficial to me reading everybody’s posts. Sometimes I feel as if I am weird and out of place for struggling with my break up, but then I realize here that many of us do. The reason I am saying this is because my 2 best friends have told me stuff like “omg your still upset over her”, “Get over it”, What the hell are your waiting for go out and get a girl”, “If I got divorced I would have a new girl in bed that same day”, “When your hung over the best thing to make you feel better is a beer …well breakups are the same way when your heartbroken you’ll feel better after sex”, “You are lucky now you can see as many people as you want without any repercussions”, “you have to be kidding me”, and “omg you must be gay why won’t you call that girl you met”. My response is always the same “I am not ready yet”. I sometimes think how the hell can my friends be so uncaring and cold and think that maybe I shouldn’t feel so deeply but then I realize that I wouldn’t be true to myself if I did that. One is single and afraid of commitment the other is unhappily married and was a womanizer prior to being married constantly telling me how he wants a divorce. Thank you all soosad Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 25, 2005 Share Posted January 25, 2005 Hang in there Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean Posted January 25, 2005 Share Posted January 25, 2005 Dear soosad, I know what you're saying...it was to the point that I felt I was going to scream if one more well-meaning friend said "oh, just move on" But how can you expect them to understand - they are not the ones who invested their emotions in this person, like you did. You're feeling deeply because the relationship was important to you. You are going to be okay Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted January 25, 2005 Share Posted January 25, 2005 We're here for you! llama Link to post Share on other sites
beejsea2 Posted January 25, 2005 Share Posted January 25, 2005 Sosad, I know how you feel about friends etc. The other day I was talking to a sister and her comment was get over it all ready...at the time it hadn't been three months and when I told her it hasn't even been three months she said it seemed longer than that!! So I've pretty much stick to L.S. and my therapist about my break-up...I've decided that my family and friends don't understand where I'm coming from so I just refuse to let myself become a burden to them. Link to post Share on other sites
debs Posted February 3, 2005 Share Posted February 3, 2005 aw sosad it does get better! I didn't think I would reach this point and it has been hmmmm 11 months since he moved out to life with his 20yr old g/f! But I lived through it and I survived it! Friends mean well but jellybean your right they aren't the ones going through it! Carry yourself with your head up and your shoulders back! As they say don't be sad it happened be happy you had the chance to experience it! Analyze it and see what good came from what you have experienced you will be amazed! Hang in there we have been down this path and are here for you! Link to post Share on other sites
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