Cheerbabe93 Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 My boyfriend left me for some other girl three weeks ago. He then talked a lot of **** about me to pretty much everyone and my best friend told me about it. He said things like he never even took our relationship serious and that I was nothing to him. He is about to turn 29 and I just turned 21 so he is a little bit older. It bothered him that I was still living at home with my parents, currently going to college and working on getting my drivers license. I think that was the reason why he left me for some other girl but I do not know for sure. Do you think if I work on myself and accomplish those things he will want me back? I mean we never had any fights really so I don't see what else made him want to leave me. I guess he just did not understand that he was a little ahead of me in life since he is older Link to post Share on other sites
jphcbpa Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 Do your things and do them for you regardless of what he does. If this is the motivation you need, then great, but do it for you and your future. What else do you want to do and accomplish? What goals do you have? What are your passions? Make lists Also ask yourself, why do you want to be with a man who would up and leave you for another woman? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Share Posted March 11, 2014 Do your things and do them for you regardless of what he does. If this is the motivation you need, then great, but do it for you and your future. What else do you want to do and accomplish? What goals do you have? What are your passions? Make lists Also ask yourself, why do you want to be with a man who would up and leave you for another woman? I mean I am gonna do those things regardless since that is a part of growing up I guess but I am just wondering if once he found out that I am progressing that he would want me back? Link to post Share on other sites
894hjk Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 U r only 21, moving out and trying be grown up for him is stupid! He would have loved u no matter what if he had loved u. Moving out and being more independent wont change a thing. Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 In a word...no. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. There will be plenty more guys who are even better than he is who come into your life, and when you're ready, you'll settle down with one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Share Posted March 11, 2014 I think it's better to be with someone who loves you as you are, rough edges and all. We are all works in progress. Well, if you only saw him 5 times in a year, there's not much time to argue, now, is there? we already dated for one year before he moved away, so its not really that we didnt have enough time together to argue Link to post Share on other sites
jphcbpa Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 I mean I am gonna do those things regardless since that is a part of growing up I guess but I am just wondering if once he found out that I am progressing that he would want me back? you are powerless over him...what he does, thinks or feels. let that idea go. take care of you. love yourself. how about these questions... What else do you want to do and accomplish? What goals do you have? What are your passions? Make lists Also ask yourself, why do you want to be with a man who would up and leave you for another woman? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Share Posted March 11, 2014 you are powerless over him...what he does, thinks or feels. let that idea go. take care of you. love yourself. how about these questions... this is gonna sound really pathetic but pretty much all of my dreams were about me and him having a future together. it wasnt that crazy since we talked about getting married, he even told me he already had a ring for me waiting for when i visit him the next time. i dont really have any typical life goals to be honest. sometimes i understand why he left me and didnt want to be with me anymore because i wouldnt want to be with myself if i had the choice. but its not like i can leave myself really... Link to post Share on other sites
jphcbpa Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 this is gonna sound really pathetic but pretty much all of my dreams were about me and him having a future together. it wasnt that crazy since we talked about getting married, he even told me he already had a ring for me waiting for when i visit him the next time. i dont really have any typical life goals to be honest. sometimes i understand why he left me and didnt want to be with me anymore because i wouldnt want to be with myself if i had the choice. but its not like i can leave myself really... good for being honest. now do something about that. you are your own person. take this time for you. focus on you and your future. start writing out who you want to be, what do you what to do, where do you want to go, what do you want to create, what do you like. Link to post Share on other sites
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