sooshi Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 It happened. It doesn't have to happen again. Are you not willing to delete and block his number? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 Words fail me. The reason I texted him was to ask for my stuff back. At that point I didn't even think he would text me back but he did and he said some surprising stuff. Idk I guess I can post the convo if anyone is interested Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakes88 Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 Of course he'd respond. He dumped you and freed himself up to date other people -- and he knows you have 0 respect for yourself and are still pining away for him and likely willing to keep throwing money/material things his way. Unbelievable that you didn't bat an eyelash at spending thousands and thousands of dollars on someone who didn't even think enough of you to buy you a card -- but you just couldn't bear the thought of parting with a Hello Kitty toaster. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 No, no-one is interested. And as for getting your stuff back, the best way to do that is to have a go-between do the contacting for you. That way, you won't even need to see him, speak with him or have any form of contact with him, or any excuse for doing so, at all. And I have to say, when it boils down to 'stuff', most people find they can eventually live without it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 No, no-one is interested. And as for getting your stuff back, the best way to do that is to have a go-between do the contacting for you. That way, you won't even need to see him, speak with him or have any form of contact with him, or any excuse for doing so, at all. And I have to say, when it boils down to 'stuff', most people find they can eventually live without it. He's getting stationed here after his deployment. He said he will give me my stuff back in person Link to post Share on other sites
sooshi Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 I agree with Tara. If you really, really want your stuff back, get someone else do handle it. But getting it back probably will make you feel worse. And you've lived without that stuff for a while, so you CAN live without it. I agree with snowflakes. He gives you attention because he knows you still want to be with him and he can still get attention from you. But he does NOT feel the way you do. He does NOT care about you the way you are about him. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 You go gurl....! Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakes88 Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 So what happened to your card? Your birthday gift? Your Valentines Day present? Will you have to wait until he's stationed after his deployment to get those as well? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 So what happened to your card? Your birthday gift? Your Valentines Day present? Will you have to wait until he's stationed after his deployment to get those as well? I didn't get to ask him that last night. I'll definitely ask him about that next time we talk though cause I wanna know too Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 Everyone slips up as far as breaking NC..but really? You're going to see this boy in person? He's going to use you for sex and then dump you again and his girlfriend isn't going to know a thing, and you're going to let him. Calling it right now. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 I didn't get to ask him that last night. I'll definitely ask him about that next time we talk though cause I wanna know too But you're NOT GOING TO TALK TO HIM ANY MORE - ARE YOU - ?!!? Forget communicating with him!! Go No contact and stop this messing about! Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakes88 Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 I didn't get to ask him that last night. I'll definitely ask him about that next time we talk though cause I wanna know too I was being sarcastic. Please do not ask him that and risk looking even more pathetic than you already do (if that is even possible). 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 I was being sarcastic. Please do not ask him that and risk looking even more pathetic than you already do (if that is even possible). i didnt even say anything pathetic when i talked to him. he started the conversation cause i simply asked for my stuff back, he was the one trying to have a conversation. and yes if he gets stationed here after his deployment i will see him. doesnt mean i will be back together with him Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 You're right, you won't get back together with him. He will sweet talk you into sleeping with him while he's stationed near you and then he'll dump you as soon as he goes back home to his girlfriend. Unless you are strong enough to cut him out of your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 i didnt even say anything pathetic when i talked to him. he started the conversation cause i simply asked for my stuff back, he was the one trying to have a conversation. and yes if he gets stationed here after his deployment i will see him. doesnt mean i will be back together with himClassic last famous words.... Somehow, I don't think that's believable, even by you..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 Classic last famous words.... Somehow, I don't think that's believable, even by you..... Thanks for the insult. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 It's not an insult, it's the truth. you only have to read this thread, in a detached and dispassionate way to see its accuracy. Read the thread again, and make believe, but really, pretend you have no idea who *Cheerbabe93* actually is. Read it all, then tell me, honestly: What the heck is her end-game? Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted March 18, 2014 Share Posted March 18, 2014 Cheer..you're going to get burned. Badly. Everyone but you seems to realize that. Please just listen to us. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 23, 2014 Author Share Posted March 23, 2014 we were together for 1 year and 10 months. he broke up with me on february 21st and i immediately started No Contact. Unfortunately I broke NC after 23 days and texted him and he actually talked to me, almost as if nothing had happened. we continued to talk for the next few days and it was ok like no fighting i mean. anyways I am back to NC and today is my second day and I was wondering if its normal to re-live those breakup stages? because in those 23 days of NC i was feeling good and it felt good to get over him but now i totally feel sad again, been crying for hours and feel like all my feelings came back. is that normal? and how long or how often will that happen that you kinda "relapse" in your feelings? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 23, 2014 Author Share Posted March 23, 2014 Cheer..you're going to get burned. Badly. Everyone but you seems to realize that. Please just listen to us. i know that hes bad for me and that i need to move on and i was doing really good but gosh i cant forget him. my brain already knows i gotta move on, my hearts not on the same page yet Link to post Share on other sites
Weallwalkthelongroad Posted March 23, 2014 Share Posted March 23, 2014 It's all dependent on how often you decide to break NC. How long it will take is totally up to you. Link to post Share on other sites
iDrumKing Posted March 23, 2014 Share Posted March 23, 2014 we were together for 1 year and 10 months. he broke up with me on february 21st and i immediately started No Contact. Unfortunately I broke NC after 23 days and texted him and he actually talked to me, almost as if nothing had happened. we continued to talk for the next few days and it was ok like no fighting i mean. anyways I am back to NC and today is my second day and I was wondering if its normal to re-live those breakup stages? because in those 23 days of NC i was feeling good and it felt good to get over him but now i totally feel sad again, been crying for hours and feel like all my feelings came back. is that normal? and how long or how often will that happen that you kinda "relapse" in your feelings? When you break NC, you go back to the day you broke up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted March 23, 2014 Author Share Posted March 23, 2014 When you break NC, you go back to the day you broke up. kinda noticed that...sucks man Link to post Share on other sites
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