TheyCallMeOx Posted March 12, 2014 Share Posted March 12, 2014 My previous FWB and I were pretty sexually compatible. I felt like I could be myself, without judgment, and I felt that her and I had a sexual connection. Now that I've been single since last October (when my first love broke up with me), I'm starting to get really strong desire to get back into the swing of things. The reason why my previous FWB and I ended our interactions was because she started falling in love with me. She thought I was her "first love" and I made the executive decision to bring her feelings into focus, and allow her to make a decision on what she felt was best. Unfortunately, she thought it would've been best if we had no more interaction. Originally, she tried to stop developing feelings for me, but she couldn't do it. I don't talk to her much unless she talks to me. At first, I was perfectly okay with the decision she made. However, now that she's had a little while to recover from her degree of heartbreak, and now that I'm getting those desires again with her, I really would like to meet back up with her. Her and I rented a hotel room a couple or so months ago, had sex nonstop throughout the night, and it was one of the best days I've had in a while. I want another night like that with her. Most people would say that I should jerk off before I make a decision like texting an ex friend with benefits to see if she's willing to get things going again, but I've tried that. The feeling hasn't gone away, and I'm not going to continue jerking off 24/7 in order to get rid of that desire for a measly 30 minutes. I treated my previous FWB with respect all throughout our interaction. I never once tried to manipulate her, I always was honest with her...and in the end, I gave her the choice on whether she wanted to kick me out of her life or not. In fact, I even offered her advice on how to deal with everything. She knows I wouldn't do anything to hurt her. If I asked her for another hotel night, I wouldn't try to manipulate her into believing that it could be so much more. Morally, it'd be okay on my end. In my mind, there's no hurt in at least asking. However, I don't know if it's the right decision. She's really the only woman I want to have sex with. I promised myself that I wouldn't pursue women (sexually or relationship), and I haven't had desire to have sex with any other woman except my previous friend with benefits. So finding another woman is out of the question -- it's either her, or no one. What would you do? More importantly, what's the right thing to do? Link to post Share on other sites
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