joel Posted January 26, 2005 Share Posted January 26, 2005 i'm tellin u the more freinds a guy has the more girls and dates he will have b/c most relationship out there are based on freinds nowing freinds and networking. if ur a loner then good luck are the ppl here shy just towards dating or also shy towards making freinds? which one are u gals won't and rarely ever do they give out there number to date a guy she met at a coffee bar, bookstore, courses, and never on the street -heard it before but i doubt it-the person was proably just lieing to me. if u haven't or harldy dated any gals its b/c look at how many freinds u have -yea pretty much few to none hey. i am for one a loner and gf-well yea none Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 26, 2005 Share Posted January 26, 2005 Originally posted by joel i'm tellin u the more freinds a guy has the more girls and dates he will have b/c most relationship out there are based on freinds nowing freinds and networking. if ur a loner then good luck if u haven't or harldy dated any gals its b/c look at how many freinds u have -yea pretty much few to none hey. i am for one a loner and gf-well yea none Well, I personally disagree JOEL. See to maintain a big flock of friends it takes a lot of time and energy. You could be spendin' this time and energy on finding and seducing birds (i.e. girls). It is better for a dude to have a few close male buddies and some male acquanitances. AS far as having close female friends I don't think this is a good idea, female acquaintances are OK. The less time you spend with females on a friends basis the better. The more time you spend with females on a romantic/sexual basis the better. This is not to say that the girl you are currently banging cannot be your best friend also, but this comes AFTER you seduce her. Link to post Share on other sites
HeartSprinkles Posted January 26, 2005 Share Posted January 26, 2005 I know what you are saying Joel. I am a loner as well...I lost many of my friends b/c of a huge break up with my BF in November. I am a lady loner. I feel like an outcast, b/c I am 22 years old with no real great friends. I take some very hard classes at school, b/c I am preparing for my PhD in pharmacology. As you see I have no time for friends. I have reconciled with myself to concentrate on school and school alone. To meet a quality girl, not a booty call, you should be aquaintences. Like at the coffee house, don't ask for the number, ask to meet again at the coffee house at a later date. Us ladies have to be careful, b/c there are some super psychos out there, so we don't give out numbers like free candy. I am not shy towards making friends...but I also need friends who will understand my hectic schedule... I see that you are from Vancouver...do you like it there? I live in Florida...it's not so bad here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted January 27, 2005 Author Share Posted January 27, 2005 vancouver is ok rather be sunny flordia-beaches and all u mean u broke up with ur bf and ur freinds also no longer wanted to be ur freinds after that happened hmmm Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 I totally agree with Joel on this one. Generally, it is much easier to pick up chicks if you are more social than if you aren't, which is why a lot of good looking guys are without girlfriends and a lot of average guys have gorgeous companions. I don't think it's as much of an issue with men seeking women, though; we tend to be visually stimulated, in which case, as long as she looks good, we're game. Maybe the women here could explain it better, but my impression is that women generally feel a greater degree of comfort in dating someone in a network. I think women tend to take social considerations into account as well. Maybe women tend to look into the future and see themselves at social gatherings with someone who is socially adept - perhaps social skills give a man a greater degree of value in a woman's eyes. Link to post Share on other sites
HeartSprinkles Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 Being a lady, I disagree with some aspects of that. I really think that it all comes down to who you are, and what type of person you prefer. I like being with someone who has some friends, just so that I am not the only source of entertainment. On the other hand...I also don't like someone whose cell phone is ringing off the hook with God-knows-who on the other end. It all comes down to who or what the guy or gal prefers... Staying in and watching movies Going to the clubs Going to the library Going to the bar....it is whatever he/she prefers. And yes my friends did leave me b/c my BF was a douche, and they are douches for liking him more...the douches followed the douche off to doucheville!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted January 27, 2005 Author Share Posted January 27, 2005 how do u now they are now longer ur freinds? were they his freidns first and then u were his bf and his freinds became ur freinds. ok then i understand. hopw did u make freinds before Link to post Share on other sites
HeartSprinkles Posted January 29, 2005 Share Posted January 29, 2005 Some of them were his friends first...but a couple of them were my best girl buds. One of them slept with my ex and then the others I guess just liked the drama of her situation so they left me for her, and he left me for her... They can alll go to poopville!!! I could have friends if I wanted, or tried harder. I have tons of people I talk to at school, and some people that want to hang out with me. I just don't have the time... I am a very happy smiley type person, and I find that a smile is what gets everybody to say hello and start a conversation.... Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted February 5, 2005 Share Posted February 5, 2005 See, I don't agree with the poster's post at all. I have many many friends. But I've never been on a date and I only had my first kiss recently. I really need to get my **** together though. So many girl problems and the family discovered my dad has been cheating on my mom. A friend of mine recommended counseling - so I'll do that Monday. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted February 5, 2005 Share Posted February 5, 2005 i'd have to agree with alphamale here, he really hit the spot. It is very time consuming to maintain a big circle of friends. Usually most people just have acqauntances, which can be girl or guy. In addition when people reach college or have graduated college, it is not as easy to make friends as it used to be. Most people in general have their own circle of friends, and usually they will have no desire to make a friend nor include you into their circle. But i would say that YES knowing a big circle of people can and will improve the chances of meeting women through them, but no one should ever rely on that alone to meet women. Joel, what you said about women not giving their # out to someoen they just met - you're totally wrong. I know people that have done this, and have succeeded. It's all about eye contact (inviting) and going over and fluff talking and number closing. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 5, 2005 Share Posted February 5, 2005 Originally posted by monkey00 i'd have to agree with alphamale here, he really hit the spot. Joel, what you said about women not giving their # out to someoen they just met - you're totally wrong. I know people that have done this, and have succeeded. It's all about eye contact (inviting) and going over and fluff talking and number closing. thank you MONKEY00. as to the 2nd point. i've met women and gotten their # after talking for 10 minutes. if they like you and are single and available then they give you the #. simple as that! Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted February 7, 2005 Author Share Posted February 7, 2005 where do u give out ur number after 10 min of talking bar or pub right i am guessing. well i don;t go to those places-first i have no friends to go with, second well just no friends to go with. yea but was the numner real or a fake? did u date em anmd how was it Originally posted by monkey00 i'd have to agree with alphamale here, he really hit the spot. It is very time consuming to maintain a big circle of friends. Usually most people just have acqauntances, which can be girl or guy. In addition when people reach college or have graduated college, it is not as easy to make friends as it used to be. Most people in general have their own circle of friends, and usually they will have no desire to make a friend nor include you into their circle. But i would say that YES knowing a big circle of people can and will improve the chances of meeting women through them, but no one should ever rely on that alone to meet women. Joel, what you said about women not giving their # out to someoen they just met - you're totally wrong. I know people that have done this, and have succeeded. It's all about eye contact (inviting) and going over and fluff talking and number closing. Link to post Share on other sites
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