Number of previous partners - following Lindsay Lohan article

[ASG]

So your requirements for a relationship are lower than for a FWB?

 

What?!?! She hasn't met the right person to be in a relationship, so she has FWB. How does that mean that her requirements for a relationship are lower than for a FWB?!?!?!??!?

 

There's nothing wrong with having sex, but you're able to go without it right? Though you're probably thinking why even bother going without sex.

 

I guess it just boils down to your core views on sex.

 

Why would I even bother going without sex, indeed? Why would anyone choose that?

And yes, it boils down to core views on sex. And I don't see why sex needs to only happen in a committed relationship. At all. So why wouldn't I have FWB??

 

I think it's much harder for a man to get a FWB than a woman. I believe it's easier for a man to get a girlfriend than a FWB. I don't have a clue how to meet women that only want sex. Though that doesn't really bug me as I'd probably start getting feelings for a girl if I see her more than a few times.

 

You're looking at it wrong... It's not about finding women who only want sex. I don't set out to find guys who only want sex. I evaluate every partner as a possible match for a potential relationship. Most of them fail on that front but are still good enough to shag. Some don't fail, but are not interested. Some don't fail, are interested and we have a relationship!

[ASG]

As a guy, it's damn near impossible because almost nobody wants to connect with me.

 

As a woman, I believe it's infinitely easier.

 

 

Though how many guys have had feelings for you and you didn't reciprocate?

 

I definitely know how much it sucks when you like somebody and they don't like you back. That's been the story of my life. What I don't know is what it's actually like to be desired. Women truly are lucky to be able to experience that.

 

Have you tried to get into relationships with the hot guys? Or did they just want you for sex? Or did you just want them for their bodies?

 

Re: the bolded - It has happened. The noisy kisser in one of my previous posts? He was interested. And I was as well... on paper. And then the chemistry just wasn't there and I was turned off by a stupid thing like his kissing being noisy.

 

You know... I have slept with all sorts of guys. My ex was MASSIVELY overweight. Another guy I dated for about a year was about 5'3"/5'4". It's not all about the hot guys.

Sure, I do get them sometimes. And yes, sometimes it is about their bodies, other times it's about something more as well.

 

And no, I don't try to get into relationships with the hot guys. Nor do I try to get into relationships with the regular guys. It's something that needs to happen organically.

Just like dates. I've had FWB turn into relationships. You start hanging out, maybe even go on a date or two, then after a few weeks you realise there's actually more to it than just sex. So you have a talk. And it turns out you both feel the same way! Bang! You're dating!

[somedude81]

What?!?! She hasn't met the right person to be in a relationship, so she has FWB. How does that mean that her requirements for a relationship are lower than for a FWB?!?!?!??!?

LOL, I jumbled up the words there. Nice catch

 

I meant lower requirements for a FWB.

 

 

Why would I even bother going without sex, indeed? Why would anyone choose that?

And yes, it boils down to core views on sex. And I don't see why sex needs to only happen in a committed relationship. At all. So why wouldn't I have FWB??

It's up to each individual why they would go without sex.

 

I'm technically choosing to go without sex and haven't had any for almost four months. If I wanted sex for the sake of sex, I'd get a hooker or try some of the methods I used to get sex when I was younger. But I know that having sex with a woman I care about, just feels better for me. My ex was the first woman that I actually wanted to make sure she had a good time, and because of that, sex was completely different with her.

 

 

You're looking at it wrong... It's not about finding women who only want sex. I don't set out to find guys who only want sex. I evaluate every partner as a possible match for a potential relationship. Most of them fail on that front but are still good enough to shag. Some don't fail, but are not interested. Some don't fail, are interested and we have a relationship!

My recent experiences and views on sex and relationships makes it hard for me to understand how somebody could be good enough for a shag but not a relationship.

 

I guess the only way I can understand it is to picture a super hot girl who is horny for me, but is batsh*t crazy. I don't think I'd be able to resist a girl who has my ideal body type and wants me even though she has red flags a plenty. Is that kind of what happens to you and guys you FWB with?

[ASG]

LOL, I jumbled up the words there. Nice catch

 

I meant lower requirements for a FWB.

 

 

 

It's up to each individual why they would go without sex.

 

I'm technically choosing to go without sex and haven't had any for almost four months. If I wanted sex for the sake of sex, I'd get a hooker or try some of the methods I used to get sex when I was younger. But I know that having sex with a woman I care about, just feels better for me. My ex was the first woman that I actually wanted to make sure she had a good time, and because of that, sex was completely different with her.

 

 

 

My recent experiences and views on sex and relationships makes it hard for me to understand how somebody could be good enough for a shag but not a relationship.

 

I guess the only way I can understand it is to picture a super hot girl who is horny for me, but is batsh*t crazy. I don't think I'd be able to resist a girl who has my ideal body type and wants me even though she has red flags a plenty. Is that kind of what happens to you and guys you FWB with?

 

Re the bolded - yes. Basically.

 

There's this guy I've been having a FWB relationship with for almost 3 years now. We don't see each other very often as we live in different countries, half a world away, but we do see each other once or twice a year and chat/skype inbetween. I love this guy. And I mean that in a I really like him way, not in a I'm in love with him way.

 

But I would never date him seriously, even if we lived next door to each other. For several reasons. One of the major ones being that he's had a vasectomy and I want kids.

 

But we get along great! Have lots of fun together and the sex is actually out of this world. Why shouldn't we be getting together and having awesome sex??

 

Why should I go without sex just because I don't have that one person? I don't disagree that sex with someone you love is better. I agree that it is. But if I don't have that person, why should I not have sex?

[somedude81]

Thanks for explaining things to me ASG. I really appreciate it

 

I'm starting to understand where you're coming from.

[GoreSP]

So your requirements for a relationship are lower than for a FWB?

 

There's nothing wrong with having sex, but you're able to go without it right? Though you're probably thinking why even bother going without sex.

 

Not sure how you came to the conclusion I have low requirements or standards for anything - FWB or boyfriend. Requirements are different in both cases but never low.

 

I am able to go without it - but I don't have to. So I choose not to. I don't feel I owe to anyone to not have sex because they don't have sex (whatever their reason for not having sex is…)

[GoreSP]

As a guy, it's damn near impossible because almost nobody wants to connect with me.

 

As a woman, I believe it's infinitely easier.

 

 

Though how many guys have had feelings for you and you didn't reciprocate?

 

I definitely know how much it sucks when you like somebody and they don't like you back. That's been the story of my life. What I don't know is what it's actually like to be desired. Women truly are lucky to be able to experience that.

 

Have you tried to get into relationships with the hot guys? Or did they just want you for sex? Or did you just want them for their bodies?

 

I don't have to date someone just because they like me. If I'm not attracted to someone, I won't date them or sleep with them.

 

And it happens to us too. A lot.