FrostBlaze Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 (edited) Boys will say no, Girls will say yes, probably. Please justify your answer, curious on why you think the way you do. Should this be in off-topic or what? Idk: WHat i will say might make me seem like a ass...bare with me. As for me, i say something in the middle . Because it's just very simple to slip some attraction in there, by just a missplaced hug or kiss. You can be platonic with a girl, sure, but the true fact is, that if she is isn't repulsively UGLY, if given the right opportunity you would bang them. The only thing that stops them/(men) is... 1-he is gay 2-kept on a leash but hopes to still bang u 3-strong principles, but would still do it xD. 4-you're ugly That is what i am lead to believe after some debating, curious as to what others say. Before i honestly thought they could be, now, not so much. Edited March 14, 2014 by FrostBlaze Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I have several strictly platonic male friends. One of my best male friends is married and I'm also friendly with his Mrs, even though I wouldn't necessarily consider her my friend. He's always been with her since we met and became friends. Another male friend has known me since I was 6. He was my best friend's older brother. He sees me only as a younger sister. I dated his best friend at one time and I remember him being completely shocked that his friend found me attractive. He couldn't see past the younger sister thing. Sure, sometimes there can be some sexual feeling on either part. I've had male friends I'd like to sleep with. It never happened and I moved on and I'm still friends with them. And vice versa. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 14, 2014 Author Share Posted March 14, 2014 I have several strictly platonic male friends. One of my best male friends is married and I'm also friendly with his Mrs, even though I wouldn't necessarily consider her my friend. He's always been with her since we met and became friends. Another male friend has known me since I was 6. He was my best friend's older brother. He sees me only as a younger sister. I dated his best friend at one time and I remember him being completely shocked that his friend found me attractive. He couldn't see past the younger sister thing. Sure, sometimes there can be some sexual feeling on either part. I've had male friends I'd like to sleep with. It never happened and I moved on and I'm still friends with them. And vice versa. So yeah if given the chance you would of done it, since you felt it.(deep down in yer mind) Even if it didn't happen, you would of wanted to. Well thanks for your reply. It's all i am trying to find out, i guess the right question would of been. Can you be friends without wanting to f you friend? xD Sure there are those rare cases like u stated, a guy that act's like your brother or something...but i still think he would do it. Same goes with the married man, he is faithfull, his principles are stoping him from doing it, otherwise i am sure he has at least "THOUGHT" about banging you. My opinion based on talking with friends, why i opened this topic. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 So yeah if given the chance you would of done it, since you felt it.(deep down in yer mind) Even if it didn't happen, you would of wanted to. Well thanks for your reply. It's all i am trying to find out, i guess the right question would of been. Can you be friends without wanting to f you friend? xD Sure there are those rare cases like u stated, a guy that act's like your brother or something...but i still think he would do it. Same goes with the married man, he is faithfull, his principles are stoping him from doing it, otherwise i am sure he has at least "THOUGHT" about banging you. My opinion based on talking with friends, why i opened this topic. Sure. But then everyone thinks about it, about every single person you meet. Or are you saying Gay guys can't be friends with other guys? Or lesbians with other women? Most gay guys I know are friends with other gays and there is nothing sexual going on there. Same for the lesbians I know. Thoughts of sexual nature occur all the time. Being a friend is going beyond that. What if I was bi? would that mean I could have NO friends, because I'd be attracted to both men and women??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 14, 2014 Author Share Posted March 14, 2014 (edited) I didn't imply any of that, like not having any friends...lol. All i said is that everyone has sexual thoughts about most people they meet, and would also like to act on it, and that most of your friend's would wanna hit on you. You also said so in your previous post, i agree to that. That doesn't mean you can't be friends with them, it's just that one fact that people seem to deny. My "girl" friends just deny it, they are convinced most if not all of their male friends don't think of them "that way" . I assure them they are wrong... >_> boy talks. All that i imply is that you can't be friends without some sort of sexual tension(if not from you, then from the other person, men surely), a thing most ppl seem to deny. So again, my title is missleading, i believe i ended up asking the wrong question, should rephrase it. Edited March 14, 2014 by FrostBlaze Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I have male friends I'm not the least bit interested in sleeping with. I see why their partners/wives find them attractive, but it doesn't do it for me and I wouldn't touch then, even with a free pass. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I had the opposite problem as a male. Women couldn't be friends with me without emotional entanglement or wanting a physical relationship. I had no issue in being friends with women without wanting to bang them. I seem to not be attracted to every pretty woman who crosses my path, even when I was single and looking for sex. I still have some female friends who are friends with both my wife and I, and she has a few male friends from her college days of which only her best friend is gay. With the right people, it can be done. Grumps 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I have plenty of male friends who are 100% not attracted and are appalled by the idea of having sex with me. I'm not hideous, they're just not interested. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I have plenty of male friends who are 100% not attracted and are appalled by the idea of having sex with me. I'm not hideous, they're just not interested. How do you know that? I remembered your picture...You're an attractive woman of childbearing age. They would probably bang you... I can tell the op how this thread is gonna go. Most men will say no, and most women will say yes. Women are very invested in the idea of platonic male friends for whatever reason. The heart of heterosexual cross sex friendships consist of denial and projection. Frankly, if men and women were so adept at being platonic, barriers like marriage and kids wouldn't be necessary. I have yet to have a guy friend who didn't want to f. If a man is hanging around a woman of childbearing age he probably wants to f. In these friendships, somebody has feelings for the other person, I promise. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 How do you know that? I remembered your picture...You're an attractive woman of childbearing age. They would probably bang you.... I know this because they've said so to my face. Occasionally a stranger will see me with my male friends and assume I am dating one of them, make a comment, and then the poor guy has to explain to that stranger that yes, I'm nice and a lovely person, but no, he doesn't see me that way. Then once the stranger is gone the convo turns to how they could never bang me, that the thought alone makes their penis wither lol. "I couldn't have sex with Phoe, she's, well... She's phoe!" It's not their fault that there's no attraction between us, it's just the way it is. Link to post Share on other sites
TAV Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 No. Tried many times, failed every time. My current boyfriend was my friend for 1,5 yrs and an absolute gentleman during this time. He was the last person I ever thought I'd have 'those' kinds of feelings for; I even called him jokingly my bro. When I was younger I had instances of falling for a guy friend who was not interested in me that way and I have had guy friends coming on to me and ruining things for good. I’ve decided I can be 'pally' with men but always keep a certain distance now. And I have found my best friend anyway and he's a decent lover too. Bonus! Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I know this because they've said so to my face. Occasionally a stranger will see me with my male friends and assume I am dating one of them, make a comment, and then the poor guy has to explain to that stranger that yes, I'm nice and a lovely person, but no, he doesn't see me that way. Then once the stranger is gone the convo turns to how they could never bang me, that the thought alone makes their penis wither lol. "I couldn't have sex with Phoe, she's, well... She's phoe!" It's not their fault that there's no attraction between us, it's just the way it is. My second friend turned stalker said the same thing at first, until he had his outbursts... Link to post Share on other sites
Medium.Lumo Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 Yes they can be friends. I have a lot of female friends. I haven't made a move on any of them but I have fantasised about almost all of them. I genuinely appreciate just the friendships though. It doesn't have to go any further than friendship. ( although one of them is possibly interested in me at the moment! ) Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 My second friend turned stalker said the same thing at first, until he had his outbursts... Well, I've yet to experience anything like this from male friends, and I've had them for years. I'm really not worried about it. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 Yes they can be friends. I have a lot of female friends. I haven't made a move on any of them but I have fantasised about almost all of them. I genuinely appreciate just the friendships though. It doesn't have to go any further than friendship. ( although one of them is possibly interested in me at the moment! ) You're just friends but you fantasize about having sex with them. That's not platonic. This is my point. A male friend is really an f buddy in disguise. If I want someone who feels sexually attracted to me, I'll just date or get a f buddy. Men and women are not interchangeable or even the same when it comes to friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 3-strong principles, but would still do it xD. *bangs head against wall* Errr how about strong principles that you still stick to, otherwise there not strong are they! I have girl mates im just great friends with and never will be - there nice looking girl & great people but I just don't like them like that. Simple. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 Yes. My boss and I are good friends. We joke that we're one another's "work spouse", but in all seriousness, I'm like his little sister. It's a platonic friendship in the truest sense of the word. And I ain't ugly... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 Yes lots of female friends for years. No problems at all. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 14, 2014 Author Share Posted March 14, 2014 (edited) Yes lots of female friends for years. No problems at all. So you never wanted to hit on any of them? Not even Fantasize about it? Also most important question, are you single? it's a big factor. If you have a partner i can understand, i wouldn't/couldn't look/fantasize about anyone while i had a partner, as a single man, stuff's different xD. This mostly applies to single men, they can't keep it toghether, have a opposite sex friend that has a partner, it's more "doable". Edited March 14, 2014 by FrostBlaze Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I've had plenty of female friends in my life who were very attractive but I never went past friendship because I wasn't romantically attracted to them. Boys think with their penis. Men use their brains. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Allumere Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 Yes, it's possible. Many of my friends are guys and there is zero attraction on either side. I had a good buddy in college that was beautiful physically and a great guy to boot. 100% straight...it never entered my mine. Zero attraction. It even came up as a comment was made to him off the cuff by a mutual friend that he took as me having interest which lead to that very conversation...and we both ended up laughing ourselves silly. Seriously, sometimes the attraction just ain't there. It would have been like a brother and sister kissing. And I ain't hard on the eyes. I do have a couple male friends that would hit anything and I am sure if I opened the door they would try but because I sensed that, they were told early on that would never be an option..yep, and still friends that even spend time one-on-one and it has never been an issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 No, i have never wanted to hit on them. I have been in RS and been single. They have remained friends. So you never wanted to hit on any of them? Not even Fantasize about it? Also most important question, are you single? it's a big factor. If you have a partner i can understand, i wouldn't/couldn't look/fantasize about anyone while i had a partner, as a single man, stuff's different xD. This mostly applies to single men, they can't keep it toghether, have a opposite sex friend that has a partner, it's more "doable". Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 yes, i consistently prove that true every day of my life, far more female friends than male friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Canucklehead Posted March 15, 2014 Share Posted March 15, 2014 Yeah, I have 2 platonic female friends for 20+ years now..... they are both single for a while now and both are quite attractive too. So yes I believe it works in my world. Its a matter of creating your own boundaries then respecting them if you value friendships enough Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted March 15, 2014 Share Posted March 15, 2014 Yes. My boss and I are good friends. We joke that we're one another's "work spouse", but in all seriousness, I'm like his little sister. It's a platonic friendship in the truest sense of the word. And I ain't ugly... That is just your take on it......what goes through his head away from work is another thing. Stuff which he will obviously not discuss with you No one is saying you are "ugly"....but then again, your description is another thread is all we have OP....The answer is H3ll NAH. Link to post Share on other sites
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