newchapterofmylife Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 Here is my story. I was a happy housewife until two weeks ago without any sign, I was served with divorce paper. He doesn't want to have kids, or buy a house or any responsibilities at all as a married man. He hates everything and he does not want to have any social life with me at all. We moved a lot because of his jobs. Now I am all alone in a big city. He just left and took our only car away from me. He didn't pack his toothbrush or any clothes. He told me he was going to spend the weekend with guy friends, then never came back. I collapsed when I saw the citation and was depressed for like one week. Then I decided to continue on with the divorce. We have been miserable for a while and now it is time to cut my losses. He refuses to call me or receive my calls or talk anything expect the legal aspect of the divorce. So I answered his citation, dropped off one cope at his attorney's office and emailed him suggesting we should schedule a meeting to discuss about property division. It could be emails or online chat, it doesn't have to be in-person. He used to be very responsive when it is about finance or bills or anything facilitating divorce process. Now it has been two days and he is still not responding to my email! What kind of evil mind game is he playing! He wants a divorce, he filed one. Now I am giving him one and then what? Still no communication??? I am so pissed right now and it is just so him. When everything is getting better, he will find life boring and try to fight it. Textbook passive aggressive personality. Now what should I do? should I just wait for him to response? Can I contact his attorney????What's he thinking??? Link to post Share on other sites
Janesays Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 There is ZERO reason you two need to communicate at all. From now on, communicate strictly through your lawyers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author newchapterofmylife Posted March 16, 2014 Author Share Posted March 16, 2014 I will represent myself. We have less than 20k and now I just want to get out this as soon as possible. We have been married for less than 3 years and there is really not much to fight for. I am just mad at him, the way he handles this situation. I used to trust him completely and it turns out he is just another lying SOB. He is a coward and liar. I lost my respect for him and that's the main reason I decided to continue with divorce even he makes good money and I sacrificed my career and now have to bust tables to support myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Janesays Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 I will represent myself. That's a mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
mikei880 Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 Like Jane says, find an Attorney. At least go talk to one for a consultation, normally that is a freebie. You'll have an idea what to expect as things move along. Possibly in your city there are a group that does pro bono work... it seems your STBXH has checked out emotionally, sorry to hear that, been there. Lean on friends and family , good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author newchapterofmylife Posted March 24, 2014 Author Share Posted March 24, 2014 Hey, some update He contacted me last weekend for the first time and asked whether I need some "intermediate help". I asked him what he meant and after 30 mins pause, he offered me to take over the car. I think it was his trick to coax me into signing the move-out notice so he does not have to pay the rent any more. Then he realized that I already signed. I told him I don't want the car but would appreciate it if he could drop off my stuff. I offered him to pick up his things around the apartment and I told him I wouldn't be around when he is here. He texted me back for my schedule but I didn't respond him. I am still very angry at him. I don't think I love him any more. I don't see anything of urgency I need from him, or him from me. He told me he would send me a proposal of property division last week but I see no paper so far. What do you guys think I should handle this situation? He promised to pay the remaining rent and we live in Texas. Money is nice and I don't want to reduce my living standard too much. I don't see any reason to talk to him except bills....Don't get me wrong. I was so thrifty to save money for us to buy a house and this is what I get. I am awake! Link to post Share on other sites
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