BC1980 Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 Jeez, why would you do that to yourself? That sounds like an awful conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bison67 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 Im actually happy i did, got rid of any false hope i was holding onto and now i can finally move on for real. Yes it hurt like hell, but it gave me the true reality of the situation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mj89 Posted March 18, 2014 Share Posted March 18, 2014 I recently wrote a thread on here a few days ago about my chances of getting back with my ex and stumbled upon this, and let me share you my experience. I became pushy, in fact a few days ago she told me she was interested and was focusing on herself, and that she was in fact seeing someone. I spilled my heart out for her and told her how everything would change, and I am a changed man. A lot of our issues was my PTSD, I never hit her or anything. I became separated from everyone, including her. I became a different man and the one man she did love disappeared. I didn't know how to deal with it and she was so helpful to me, but I couldn't open up, it was just a hard time for me. I broke up with her and moved. She texted and called me, but I wasn't ready. She fell in love with somebody else during the year we were away but broke up because she wasn't comfortable with how in love he was towards her, bottom line it sounded like she wasn't ready and she ended up moving. She's seeing somebody now, and I did pour my heart out and I was pushy. I've changed so much, I haven't dated anybody since we broke up, and now I feel much better as a person, more happy. I felt like I was the same Me that she fell in love with, she was single. I was and I thought it would be the best time. We even had a conversation on the phone the other day and it felt different like we both knew we changed. But she chose the other guy, am I devastated? Yes because I feel like I am back to me, and I told her how I wanted us to communicate better. It hurt seeing her message "I just don't feel that way about you anymore", but I respect and accept that. It is very apparent were both not ready for that, especially myself. I plan on doing the only thing I can do-- move on. Don't stand there and plan on getting back together down the road... Because it's highly unlikely. Plus you'll find someone, it's just hard to see it now. It will be better in the long run, and perhaps years from now when we are much older and wiser we will be at peace with our former lovers. I have a few exes I am good friends with now being older but even than I don't court feelings for them anymore. Go live your life, and let her find her way. Break ups and good byes are tough but it isn't the end of the world. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bison67 Posted March 18, 2014 Author Share Posted March 18, 2014 Thanks for sharing your story. After my last talk with my ex a few days ago which was 3 months post BU and after 7 weeks NC im pretty sure ill never hear from her again, im gonna move on. I could tell in her voice and the way she talked to me she has no emotions towards me and is seeing someone else. I have learned my lessons and couldnt make the same mistakes again. Just met her when i was to young and immature to treat her how she deserved. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted March 18, 2014 Share Posted March 18, 2014 Im actually happy i did, got rid of any false hope i was holding onto and now i can finally move on for real. Yes it hurt like hell, but it gave me the true reality of the situation. Well, if that's what it took, I'm sorry. I'd be utterly humiliated, but I hope you can move on now. Anyway, don't call her again okay? Stay NC. Link to post Share on other sites
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