Arieswoman Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Sugarkane, The same principles apply, whether it's friends or lovers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 9, 2014 Author Share Posted April 9, 2014 It's really hard to be always told to do the right thing on here, if the dumper never does. Always one rule for the dumpers and one rule for the rest of us. The only thing you will rub in his face is this: AM NOT OVER YOU. Even if I say I am and show you videos photos and my bank account plus how damn hot I am now and yeah I found someone better then you. If u have even 2 of these keep working to have rest or at least 5 of them not keep working to show someone who dumped u how his opinion still means a lot to you. Come on girl have some dignity and pride Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 9, 2014 Author Share Posted April 9, 2014 I've never broken NC, which is rare on this site. And how many posts where ridiculously a dumper contacts YEARS later. She might as well at this point. Nothing is going to get through to her, she's been stuck on this, or situations resembling this, forever. Maybe she has to learn the hard way how foolish this enterprise is. Link to post Share on other sites
Thomas the Red Fox Posted April 9, 2014 Share Posted April 9, 2014 No offense, but if you keep losing people by taking the high road, then I have a very strong inclination that your idea of the high road differs greatly from most peoples. P.S. -- LISTEN TO WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING. YOUR EX DOESN'T CARE. IF MY EX CAME ABOUT AND STARTED SPOUTING OFF, I'D THINK SHE WAS JUST INSANE, AND THAT THE BREAKUP HELPED ME DODGE A BULLET. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 9, 2014 Author Share Posted April 9, 2014 Thats really easy for you to say. I'm sick to death with doing the right thing, when no one else ever did in my situation. Not one person. You don't get it, the same advice applies no matter if it's your ex boyfriend or an ex friend. The word "ex" is all-encompassing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 9, 2014 Author Share Posted April 9, 2014 I'm not insane thanks. I don't lie, cheat and use people for kicks and never apologize even years later. And that makes me the psycho? My idea of taking the high road is the same as everyone else's. I've never broken NC like 9/10 people on here. Unlike everyone else on here who ignores NC! No offense, but if you keep losing people by taking the high road, then I have a very strong inclination that your idea of the high road differs greatly from most peoples. P.S. -- LISTEN TO WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING. YOUR EX DOESN'T CARE. IF MY EX CAME ABOUT AND STARTED SPOUTING OFF, I'D THINK SHE WAS JUST INSANE, AND THAT THE BREAKUP HELPED ME DODGE A BULLET. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 9, 2014 Author Share Posted April 9, 2014 I'll never understand it because I wasn't brought up to lie, cheat, use people and dump people cruelly out of the blue. No apology even years later. Need to do something?? What are you talking about?? The OP is in no such situation to try and get back at an ex boyfriend ESPECIALLY since they have been done for a while now, she has a NEW guy, and just recently had a child. What good will ANY of that do except make her look crazy and just waste time since he doesnt care anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 9, 2014 Author Share Posted April 9, 2014 Why dumpers do and that's always ok? There's hardly anyone on this site that actually does hardcore NC and that's always ok. I completely agree which is why she should do it. Since this is an ongoing theme for the OP and she seems obsessed, maybe she should go ahead and lay it all out there so the old bf can tell her he thinks she is crazy and take out a restraining order, and the new one can see what an obsessive loony he has a child with. Nothing about this Behavior, especially since she has a newborn baby is healthy and if she continues down this path of holding onto resentment and a need for revenge, the new bf will determine correctly that she isn't over her old bf and he is just the schmuck who is being her rebound. She clearly is still in love with her ex. They brought a child into this.....let her pour her heart out and let this thing finally be dealt with since she can't seem to control her anger or get over a man who had so little regard or care for her. Knock yourself out, OP. I am pretty sure you might lose everything for one stab at making someone who doesn't care about you feel like you are a pathetic loser by confronting him with your new baby and bf. Obviously, if you were really over him and happy, you wouldn't be this obsessed. The disrespect you are showing your current bf and your child is unfathomable...when new life and a supportive man can be trumped by an old flame who threw you away, it is time for you to let your bf know so he isn't some cuckhold to your obsession. Sincerely, you need some help because you have a baby with another man and you are obsessed with the old one to the point where you make these threads disregarding the blessings you have in your life now. SMH, Grumps Link to post Share on other sites
Thomas the Red Fox Posted April 9, 2014 Share Posted April 9, 2014 I'm not insane thanks. I don't lie, cheat and use people for kicks and never apologize even years later. And that makes me the psycho? My idea of taking the high road is the same as everyone else's. I've never broken NC like 9/10 people on here. Unlike everyone else on here who ignores NC! Look, for your own good, I'm gonna tell you... right off the bat I can tell you have deep-rooted insecurity, and anger issues... you need to seek help for this, as the only one who is getting curb stomped repeatedly is YOU, in case you haven't noticed. And I can promise, keep ignoring these internal problems, and the curb stompings will continue and you will think life is unfair, become jaded, and end up bitter. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted April 9, 2014 Share Posted April 9, 2014 That I'm with someone who isn't in love with himself only, doesn't have a superiority complex and actually treats me right. It would be great to put down a jerk. im sorry you feel this way.......because even though you you say you have this great guy you are not really happy......your ex has hurt you .......you arent over it he must have hurt you badly.........let it go .........enjoy who you are with......even if your ex did hurt you you wont feel better to hurt him or make him have regret.........it will be empty and dark.......hug your new beau..and let go of what some jerk did to you..and good luck....hugs...deb Link to post Share on other sites
redbaron005 Posted April 9, 2014 Share Posted April 9, 2014 I hate doing the right thing, when others never do. Time hasn't changed this. Interesting. If you believe a revengeful statement is the right thing, and many others here are not doing it, that means you would therefore hate to make such a statement to your ex. So, perhaps just post in the 'post here instead of contacting your ex' thread and call it a day. Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted April 9, 2014 Share Posted April 9, 2014 Sugarkane, Thats really easy for you to say. I'm sick to death with doing the right thing, when no one else ever did in my situation. Not one person. I've done the "right thing" all my life. People have lied to me, cheated on me, stolen from me, got me into trouble at work, been rude to me, wasted my time etc etc. but that's this thing called "life". I continue to "do the right thing", not because I am a saint but because I am the bigger person. I can sleep soundly at night and let others make their own poor choices. As i said on other posts, I leave revenge up to God, he is better at it then I am...... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 9, 2014 Share Posted April 9, 2014 What's stopping you? Just do it already. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatMan Posted April 9, 2014 Share Posted April 9, 2014 (edited) I'm not insane thanks. I don't lie, cheat and use people for kicks and never apologize even years later. And that makes me the psycho? I'm pretty sure that you've successfully creeped out just about everyone at this point. Acts of revenge do not quench whatever frustrations or anger people feel. And I cannot fault you for feeling really bummed out, angry, or frustrated after that relationship. I like to believe that many people have been there and understand what it's like. But people typically take things up a notch when they begin these petty acts revenge. It sounds like he'll need a restraining order against you in the future... There's a thousand ways to look at the situation. You can acknowledge whatever good times existed for a short duration and move on. You can acknowledge that you've made the choice to be involved with him, but now you then made the decision to move on to a better life. You can acknowledge your current relationship and new blessings. Instead you're so fixated on vilifying a man you once loved way after the fact. Stop being such a loser. What will you do when people outside of the internet, including your spouse, begins getting creeped out by your behavior? You're not insane. But you have no problem demonizing other people to the point of holding onto a ridiculous grudge for far too long. If you're capable of that then you've demonstrated you're capable of one day doing the same with your current spouse, or your own child... That isn't okay. Edited April 26, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 12, 2014 Author Share Posted April 12, 2014 I hardly think that someone who ends things out of the blue with f.uck off and "you can't communicate" yet dumped me put of the blue by text, would be an expert on morality and doing the right thing somehow!I'm pretty sure that you've successfully creeped out just about everyone at this point. So yeah, you're being a bit of a psycho. Acts of revenge do not quench whatever frustrations or anger people feel. And I cannot fault you for feeling really bummed out, angry, or frustrated after that relationship. I like to believe that many people have been there and understand what it's like. But people typically take things up a notch when they begin these petty acts revenge. It sounds like he'll need a restraining order against you in the future... There's a thousand ways to look at the situation. You can acknowledge whatever good times existed for a short duration and move on. You can acknowledge that you've made the choice to be involved with him, but now you then made the decision to move on to a better life. You can acknowledge your current relationship and new blessings. Instead you're so fixated on vilifying a man you once loved way after the fact. Stop being such a loser. What will you do when people outside of the internet, including your spouse, begins getting creeped out by your behavior? You're not insane. But you have no problem demonizing other people to the point of holding onto a ridiculous grudge for far too long. If you're capable of that then you've demonstrated you're capable of one day doing the same with your current spouse, or your own child... That isn't okay. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 12, 2014 Author Share Posted April 12, 2014 I appreciate what you're saying, but I don't believe in god. Sugarkane, I've done the "right thing" all my life. People have lied to me, cheated on me, stolen from me, got me into trouble at work, been rude to me, wasted my time etc etc. but that's this thing called "life". I continue to "do the right thing", not because I am a saint but because I am the bigger person. I can sleep soundly at night and let others make their own poor choices. As i said on other posts, I leave revenge up to God, he is better at it then I am...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 12, 2014 Author Share Posted April 12, 2014 I don't understand why saying something is that bad, to his friends. It's the truth and I've had other people do much worse to me, for much less. I never want anything to do with him ever again, but I can't forget how down right callous and bizarre that breakup was. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 12, 2014 Author Share Posted April 12, 2014 That's because I've had people do much worse to ms, foruch less. And they always came put on top somehow. It's not logical, yet I've had it happen a few times. Interesting. If you believe a revengeful statement is the right thing, and many others here are not doing it, that means you would therefore hate to make such a statement to your ex. So, perhaps just post in the 'post here instead of contacting your ex' thread and call it a day. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 12, 2014 Author Share Posted April 12, 2014 He doesn't need a restraining order. I've never broken NC, which is a rarity on this site. I even didnt join a much wanted meetup group because of this nutjob. Especially for someone that ends a relationship with f.uck off, by text out of blue., I'm pretty sure that you've successfully creeped out just about everyone at this point. So yeah, you're being a bit of a psycho. Acts of revenge do not quench whatever frustrations or anger people feel. And I cannot fault you for feeling really bummed out, angry, or frustrated after that relationship. I like to believe that many people have been there and understand what it's like. But people typically take things up a notch when they begin these petty acts revenge. It sounds like he'll need a restraining order against you in the future... There's a thousand ways to look at the situation. You can acknowledge whatever good times existed for a short duration and move on. You can acknowledge that you've made the choice to be involved with him, but now you then made the decision to move on to a better life. You can acknowledge your current relationship and new blessings. Instead you're so fixated on vilifying a man you once loved way after the fact. Stop being such a loser. What will you do when people outside of the internet, including your spouse, begins getting creeped out by your behavior? You're not insane. But you have no problem demonizing other people to the point of holding onto a ridiculous grudge for far too long. If you're capable of that then you've demonstrated you're capable of one day doing the same with your current spouse, or your own child... That isn't okay. Link to post Share on other sites
contact1 Posted April 12, 2014 Share Posted April 12, 2014 Sk I'm just curious, say you do tell your ex's friend about your new life, what exactly are you expecting to happen? For him to be full of regret and wanting to apologize for what he did? You already said yourself he was a complete a hole, guess what? He will still be a complete a hole after hearing it (if he even hears about it, and if he does, it will be skewed from the interpretation of the other person) and he still won't care. He probably wouldn't even remember your name by this point. I hope you can somehow find inner peace in your new life, with people who actually care about you and are with you while taking the high road (aka your bf and child), however I don't think you will find that peace on this forum, because you are not going to hear anyone tell you "rub it in his face" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 13, 2014 Author Share Posted April 13, 2014 I'm not a psycho, I never got any answers or any apology. I've never lied, cheated, contacted or harassed anyone, Like another dumper has done to me. Yet you'll probably keep ignoring this. Don't know why you all think it's ok for a dumper to be an Ahole for. I'm pretty sure that you've successfully creeped out just about everyone at this point. So yeah, you're being a bit of a psycho. Acts of revenge do not quench whatever frustrations or anger people feel. And I cannot fault you for feeling really bummed out, angry, or frustrated after that relationship. I like to believe that many people have been there and understand what it's like. But people typically take things up a notch when they begin these petty acts revenge. It sounds like he'll need a restraining order against you in the future... There's a thousand ways to look at the situation. You can acknowledge whatever good times existed for a short duration and move on. You can acknowledge that you've made the choice to be involved with him, but now you then made the decision to move on to a better life. You can acknowledge your current relationship and new blessings. Instead you're so fixated on vilifying a man you once loved way after the fact. Stop being such a loser. What will you do when people outside of the internet, including your spouse, begins getting creeped out by your behavior? You're not insane. But you have no problem demonizing other people to the point of holding onto a ridiculous grudge for far too long. If you're capable of that then you've demonstrated you're capable of one day doing the same with your current spouse, or your own child... That isn't okay. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 13, 2014 Author Share Posted April 13, 2014 Because in more than one relationship I get told I'm too quiet. Yet I always get dumped out of the blue, with zero conversation about this ever. No one ever communicates this. The dumper always has a fallback girl/ backup plan. It is bizarre I've never contacted and the dumper has never contacted. contacted/Sk I'm just curious, say you do tell your ex's friend about your new life, what exactly are you expecting to happen? For him to be full of regret and wanting to apologize for what he did? You already said yourself he was a complete a hole, guess what? He will still be a complete a hole after hearing it (if he even hears about it, and if he does, it will be skewed from the interpretation of the other person) and he still won't care. He probably wouldn't even remember your name by this point. I hope you can somehow find inner peace in your new life, with people who actually care about you and are with you while taking the high road (aka your bf and child), however I don't think you will find that peace on this forum, because you are not going to hear anyone tell you "rub it in his face" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 13, 2014 Author Share Posted April 13, 2014 I'm not a loser. I haven't resorted to lying and cheating and then turning everyone against someone, just for kicks. UOTE=ThatMan;5633188]I'm pretty sure that you've successfully creeped out just about everyone at this point. So yeah, you're being a bit of a psycho. Acts of revenge do not quench whatever frustrations or anger people feel. And I cannot fault you for feeling really bummed out, angry, or frustrated after that relationship. I like to believe that many people have been there and understand what it's like. But people typically take things up a notch when they begin these petty acts revenge. It sounds like he'll need a restraining order against you in the future... There's a thousand ways to look at the situation. You can acknowledge whatever good times existed for a short duration and move on. You can acknowledge that you've made the choice to be involved with him, but now you then made the decision to move on to a better life. You can acknowledge your current relationship and new blessings. Instead you're so fixated on vilifying a man you once loved way after the fact. Stop being such a loser. What will you do when people outside of the internet, including your spouse, begins getting creeped out by your behavior? You're not insane. But you have no problem demonizing other people to the point of holding onto a ridiculous grudge for far too long. If you're capable of that then you've demonstrated you're capable of one day doing the same with your current spouse, or your own child... That isn't okay. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted April 13, 2014 Author Share Posted April 13, 2014 I never want to ever go back to him ever again. But can't get over how traumatic that experience was. Been told to f off out of the blue, with no answers and then been frozen out by everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
flight E Posted April 13, 2014 Share Posted April 13, 2014 I no budist or a religious person but I think you should let nature take its course. Someday you are going to stumble unto this ex. Nothing planned orchestrated or arranged and he will see how well things went for you. Don't wait for the day, it will happen I believe, when you don't expect it. He will see you. Notice you true indifference towards him. Then you will have your revenge. Funny enuf, you don't even know if u've already had the revenge. Just because he hasn't told you doesn't mean u avent had it. But if you haven't am sure you will. I can understand the need for revenge and it doesn't mean you still in love with him but let go and forgive him. You should discuss it with your new bf if he is such a great guy he will understand and it will draw you closer Link to post Share on other sites
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