KevinC Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 Hi guys While cleaning out my skype of my ex's messages and stuff i saw this message from her facebook i think. Can anyone who knows spanish translate this for me plz google translate is not very clear. si te ama, te lo demostrará. si te extraña, volverá. si realmente le importas, lo intentará otra vez. si no hace nada, olvídalo Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 If he loves you, he will show it to you. If he misses you, he will return. If you really care about him, he will try it again. If you do nothing, forget it --> Spanish Translation | Spanish to English to Spanish Translator Link to post Share on other sites
Author KevinC Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 **** guys im confused as hell right now, what should i do, should i breack nc and ask her about it? Thinking about sending her an email??? Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 **** guys im confused as hell right now, what should i do, should i breack nc and ask her about it? Thinking about sending her an email??? No way. That's the lamest breadcrumb I've ever heard of. That is a weak attempt at manipulation. That's it... NC all the way!!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 No................ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Arabella Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 If he loves you, he will show it to you. If he misses you, he will return. If you really care about him, he will try it again. If you do nothing, forget it --> Spanish Translation | Spanish to English to Spanish Translator That's not quite correct, and it changes the meaning completely... If he loves you, he will show it to you. If he misses you, he will return. If he really cares about you, he will try it again. If he does nothing, forget him. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KevinC Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 Thanks Arabella Ugh really wish i hadnt seen that now i think i might break... Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 Thanks Arabella Ugh really wish i hadnt seen that now i think i might break... If she wanted to be with you, she would. Quit stalking her. Thats it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 Thanks Arabella Ugh really wish i hadnt seen that now i think i might break... Best to not to read to much into it. Some woman post everything on Facebook they think is beautiful. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 **** guys im confused as hell right now, what should i do, should i breack nc and ask her about it? Thinking about sending her an email??? Oh dear God don't do this. If it meant anything, I'm guessing she'd translate it to English. But this would be one of the most stupid breakings of no contact I've read about. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KevinC Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 I wasnt stalking her and she didnt send this to me, i was deleting our conversation on skype, she isnt even in my contacts but the conversation was still there and thats phrase was at the top of next to her pic and stuff Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 I wasnt stalking her and she didnt send this to me, i was deleting our conversation on skype, she isnt even in my contacts but the conversation was still there and thats phrase was at the top of next to her pic and stuff Then block her off skype. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KevinC Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 Then block her off skype. She dosnt even have skype its from facebook wich is integrated in skype and she is blocked on facebook before you ask Link to post Share on other sites
Mr.Pine Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 Hi guys While cleaning out my skype of my ex's messages and stuff i saw this message from her facebook i think. Can anyone who knows spanish translate this for me plz google translate is not very clear. si te ama, te lo demostrará. si te extraña, volverá. si realmente le importas, lo intentará otra vez. si no hace nada, olvídalo Thanks Bonjour, monsieur. Is Peel Pub still around? How about Queue de Cheval on Mountain St. and Le Bifthèque in St. Laurent? Damn I miss Montreal. Ok, now, on to your dilemma... How do you know that was even written with you in mind? How long ago did you break up and how long have you done the NC thing? Tabarnouche! It doesn't matter. You're itching to break NC. Don't do it. And for what appears to be the lamest reason probably ever. This is what you call a negative breadcrumb. You are grasping at straws. Ne pas être faible. D'un québécois expatrié, je serai très en colère si vous le faites. Restez fort, mon frère. Link to post Share on other sites
legion113 Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 What do you think that's going to show her if you answer her? 1. You're still checking out her stuff 2. You took the time to translate it (ie work) 3. You assumed it was for you. Bottom line, you'll be a sap. If she really wanted you, it would have been in English. I've followed your story Kevin, don't break down now, you'll be back to day one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 I wasnt stalking her and she didnt send this to me, i was deleting our conversation on skype, she isnt even in my contacts but the conversation was still there and thats phrase was at the top of next to her pic and stuff Wait, didn't she dump you? Or am I wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 Hi Kevin, I know you are upset right now thinking that this message is directed at you, but please slow down, breathe, and remember that it's from Facebook, where everyone posts a bunch of random, often dramatic, stuff designed to get attention and cast themselves in a certain light. Chances are, it is not directed at you, especially since you don't know Spanish. And the off chance that it is, it's the lamest possible gesture. She broke up with you, right? If so, then it's HER job to reach out in a clear way if she wants to talk to you. Not post some over-the-top status update that screams, "Look at me!" Sending good thoughts, M. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KevinC Posted March 17, 2014 Author Share Posted March 17, 2014 Yes she broke up with me on jan 29th, been NC since feb 14th. I am trying to clame down right now and havent responded. I know its her job to reach out and stuff and she wrote that on facebook wich i have blocked her its by pure chance that ive seen it. I dont think that in 1 1/2 months she has met somebody else fallen in love broke up and wrote that for him but anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 Please do not break NC. You will destroy all the hard work you have done. It's so not worth it. And, delete anything that may get these types of messages to you. You must be 100% NC. That means no messages sent or received. Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 Yes she broke up with me on jan 29th, been NC since feb 14th. I am trying to clame down right now and havent responded. I know its her job to reach out and stuff and she wrote that on facebook wich i have blocked her its by pure chance that ive seen it. I dont think that in 1 1/2 months she has met somebody else fallen in love broke up and wrote that for him but anyway. Right, I am not saying it's directed at another guy, but it could also be just a way for her to be self-dramatizing to the world at large, a way to cast herself as the victim even though she is the one who broke off the relationship. My point is that social media is generally attention-seeking nonsense that has little to do with reality. The truth is that it's on her to mend fences if she wants to, not send out passive-aggressive hints into cyberspace, if that's what this is. She broke it, she needs to fix it. Keep breathing and talking to the folks here. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr.Pine Posted March 18, 2014 Share Posted March 18, 2014 I dont think that in 1 1/2 months she has met somebody else fallen in love broke up and wrote that for him but anyway. Why do you even care if she has? Usually when a woman breaks up with a man, it's been brewing for weeks or months. She was probably in the infancy stages of cobbling a relationship together before finally dropping the dumping ball in your listless lap. You've been in NC since Valentine's Day. That is admirable. Continue. You shouldn't give the idea or notion of her seeing someone else a passing thought. It's none of your business and you don't need to know. Knowing will only bring back your healing to square one, which it obviously did with that silly FB post of hers. Bottom line, her life is of no concern of yours. Block her from all avenues and go cold NC turkey. It's the only way. This is coming from someone who is going through this whole brouhaha at the moment. Vive le Québec libre! Bill 101! Je me souviens! Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted March 18, 2014 Share Posted March 18, 2014 (edited) Yes she broke up with me on jan 29th, been NC since feb 14th. I am trying to clame down right now and havent responded. I know its her job to reach out and stuff and she wrote that on facebook wich i have blocked her its by pure chance that ive seen it. I dont think that in 1 1/2 months she has met somebody else fallen in love broke up and wrote that for him but anyway. Ok, then if that's the case, then this: If he loves you, he will show it to you. If he misses you, he will return. If he really cares about you, he will try it again. If he does nothing, forget him. Is completely irrelevant to your situation regardless if she's met someone else. And goes to show she's a selfish b**** It's not your job to show her you love her. She dumped you. It's not your job to return because you miss her. She dumped you. It's not your job to try again. She dumped you. It's not your job to do anything. She dumped you. Get it??? Edited March 18, 2014 by organizedchaos 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted March 18, 2014 Share Posted March 18, 2014 Well, I hope no one will be angry with me. I think you should consider calling her, meet her and talk to her a real conversation. This NC doesn't help you much right now. Yes I know the rules but sorry, If after two month it didnt help a bit, why not try something else? Because those who support NC always at any term - What will they say if after 2 years you will still be missing her not over her yet? they will tell you "wait another year" as if we live for ever and years are unlimited resources. If you are stunned by this sentence in spanish, it proves you didnt make any progress. So, call her, meet her. What on earth can possibly happen? what apocalypse are you afraid of? The worst scenario is that you will be in the same spot as now, but I hardly imagine that. Most chances that you will feel a lot better. even if she will treat you like ****, it will help you to move on. One thing I think for sure - Now you have no control of yourself. get up and get some control and stop trying to fake "moving on" while you're not! Talk to her. not by mail, not by phone or SMS. only a meeting. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 18, 2014 Share Posted March 18, 2014 KevinC I sense you're feeling extremely fragile at the moment, and honestly, you need to try to let a little time pass, before you make a complete nerk of yourself and do something you may regret. I hate to contradict people, but everything the above post suggests, I would strenuously advise against. Rather than risk ripping the wound open (further) you need to take a deep breath, and switch your focus onto yourself. They were words. They mean nothing; they're poetic, romantic and sugar-sweet, but as anyone who's ever watched a romantic movie will tell you, what appears on paper or celluloid is fantasy, and far from real life. It's idyllic and designed to pull on the heart-strings, but the reality is far from what that message conveys.... Drop it, forget it, move on, and focus on yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted March 18, 2014 Share Posted March 18, 2014 KevinC Rather than risk ripping the wound open (further) you need to take a deep breath, and switch your focus onto yourself. Well. everyone speaks according to his life experience. I really dont know if my advice will make things better or not. But I certainly familiar with cases that breaking NC lead people from misery to happiness, sharp and clear. So no one in the world can say with certainty that this option (breakin NC) is 100% chance to be wrong. especialy when my opinion is that his wounds are anyway still open and there is no risk here. Its good that he can see Two opposing views and take the best decision for him. I advice him to listen to his gut. Link to post Share on other sites
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