How can I man up and stop the hurt/fear

[gotsohosed]

I found out my wife, been together for 13 years married for 7, been flying around the country with other men and sleeping with them cor over a year. She will not admit to it and is rather cocky too. I ha e been holding this in and not bringing it up for 3 months. I ha e been finding more information everyday. I stopped looking because I am sick of it. I feel fairly certain she stopped when I first brought it up but who knows. She seems to want to start over and work on our marriage and it feels like I have my wife back. I live being married and I love her but I will not be able to go on with her. Tomorrow I am going to bring it up again and see if she will at the very least admit her misconduct but I know sbe won't. It is really just a segway for me to tell her I can't be her husband anymore. What makes matters emotionally horible for me is she is so beautiful and outgoing plus she just got a new job last night where she will be part owner of a company and be a millionaire. This such a sore spot with me. I left a great job to move out of state and help bring her kids up. I bave been struggling with a small, very small business and working hard for little money. Kids go to college she will most likely move and be wealthy and I get stuck. I am in my high 50s so my recovery time is gone. The money I had is gone. It is so sad for me. It seems impossible to get over all the unfairness. Nice guys finish last. That is me. I hope I can survive this meaning I do not feel very confident in the fact that I will be able to handle the day to day. I don’t have friends here. I an very scared for my own mental bealth. I am in a very dark spot. I do what I can to stop tbe downward slide like take herbs, exercise, and eat right. I vuess I am just so jeolous of everyone doing so well and I am not and it does not look like a very bright future. In my head I just see her in her beauty on a waterfront house enjoying life while I will be close to homeless. How did I allow myself to get in this position. Sorry for the rant. And sorry if there are mispelling. I am typing this on a cell phone through tears in my eyes

[TaraMaiden]

Stop all this playing.

See a Lawyer, and file for D, straight away.

[hurts1968]

I found out my wife, been together for 13 years married for 7, been flying around the country with other men and sleeping with them cor over a year. She will not admit to it and is rather cocky too. I ha e been holding this in and not bringing it up for 3 months. I ha e been finding more information everyday. I stopped looking because I am sick of it. I feel fairly certain she stopped when I first brought it up but who knows. She seems to want to start over and work on our marriage and it feels like I have my wife back. I live being married and I love her but I will not be able to go on with her. Tomorrow I am going to bring it up again and see if she will at the very least admit her misconduct but I know sbe won't. It is really just a segway for me to tell her I can't be her husband anymore. What makes matters emotionally horible for me is she is so beautiful and outgoing plus she just got a new job last night where she will be part owner of a company and be a millionaire. This such a sore spot with me. I left a great job to move out of state and help bring her kids up. I bave been struggling with a small, very small business and working hard for little money. Kids go to college she will most likely move and be wealthy and I get stuck. I am in my high 50s so my recovery time is gone. The money I had is gone. It is so sad for me. It seems impossible to get over all the unfairness. Nice guys finish last. That is me. I hope I can survive this meaning I do not feel very confident in the fact that I will be able to handle the day to day. I don’t have friends here. I an very scared for my own mental bealth. I am in a very dark spot. I do what I can to stop tbe downward slide like take herbs, exercise, and eat right. I vuess I am just so jeolous of everyone doing so well and I am not and it does not look like a very bright future. In my head I just see her in her beauty on a waterfront house enjoying life while I will be close to homeless. How did I allow myself to get in this position. Sorry for the rant. And sorry if there are mispelling. I am typing this on a cell phone through tears in my eyes

 

 

 

Love to be able to help you mate...everybody keeps telling me that time is a healer but i'm not sure!

 

Wish i could help you more...it's so hard but I am sure we will all get through it, keep posting on here, I have found so much support and help

 

good luck mate, you will be ok!

[RuralGuy]

I found out my wife, been together for 13 years married for 7, been flying around the country with other men and sleeping with them cor over a year.

 

 

Collect and keep proof of the affairs.

 

 

You are not the bad guy here. The right thing for her to have done was divorce you and then started screwing all those other guys. That she didn't says a lot about her character.

 

 

Tomorrow I am going to bring it up again and see if she will at the very least admit her misconduct but I know sbe won't.

 

 

Don't bother talking to her about it unless:

1) you have physical proof

2) you want to continue with the marriage

 

 

If you really just want out at this point, talking to her about it won't change anything.

 

 

she just got a new job last night where she will be part owner of a company and be a millionaire. This such a sore spot with me. I left a great job to move out of state and help bring her kids up. I bave been struggling with a small, very small business and working hard for little money.

 

 

You need to talk to a lawyer. It sounds like you can get alimony. I know, most men won't even try to get what they are owed, but turnabout is fair play, I say.

[mrstang69]

Sorry, nice guys do finish last. Hope you find support on here.