Lyn77 Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 I am Mid thirties, single divorced mother. Everyone around me is married, all of my family, friends & coworkers. I have only one girl friend who is single. I am starting to give up hope. I am dating, puting myself out there, I am attractive & have good qualities. Anyone else feel stuck like this? I am not desperate, but have been single for 2 years (well dating and having casual sex since then) and finally ready to meet a great guy. What do you do in this situation? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 I was married at 20 and divorced at 25. I went through the rest of my 20s just dating. I went through my 30s in a long-term relationships, but nothing worth a ring or a commitment. Same with my 40s. At 49 years of age - just a few months ago - I got married for the second time. You are only in your 30s and have only been single for two years. Life is far from over, my friend. Yes, you will probably marry again, but there is no big rush, is there? Unless you want more children? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lyn77 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Share Posted March 20, 2014 Congrats on your marriage! Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 I am not desperate, but have been single for 2 years (well dating and having casual sex since then) and finally ready to meet a great guy I really don't mean this as judgemental and condescending as its going to sound, but Karma can be a bitch and often times that "great guy" isn't going to be waiting there patiently with a dozen roses in his hand all ready to to welcome you with open arms just because you decided you were ready for legitimate relationship after screwing around for two years. You attract what you are. A relationship-oriented "great guy" probably isn't going to be all that impressed that you are now ready to settle down and settle for someone to treat you decently after you've been having all your fun and excitement with every Thom, Dick and Harry in town for two years. Decent relationship-minded guys that treat women well tend to look right through women out casually notching their bedposts for years in lieu of women who are already relationship material. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lyn77 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Share Posted March 20, 2014 I understand! I have been single for five years since my wife left me. Divorced officially for three and a half. Don't give up hope. I will make a suggestion though, if you want to find a great guy consider cutting out the "casual sex". I am a dude and there is a difference between a woman who a man wants to sleep with and a woman he wants to get to know and marry. Develop the relationship and determine if someone is even right to marry. Don't give away the house when someone only wants to visit. Thanks! Wow..appreciate your insight..I should clarify..i've had casual sex as in 3 partners, 2 of which were ongoing friends with benefits situations..but I defintely agree with you..this won't help me get closer to a real relationship, which is why I called it off..Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
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