What now??

[liar liar]

Hey its me~

 

Since getting my great advice,I have not written Mr.Cyber.

 

(He is out of town with his family) But today he wrote me...twice! I was GOING to delete them (to remain focused and strong)but I went ahead and read them. He is so in love!

 

After everything you guys, especially Laurynn,said it began to freak me out because in his mail "he seemed" a bit looney. Going on and on about his love...can't wait for us to meet....that I am his Love....on and on ...!!!

 

I guess maybe b/c I see it so differently now?! How do I break it to him gently,so that he doesn't lose it? Do you think he would?could?...what now?

[Laurynn]

good girl, i know it's going to be tough but i'm glad to see you're really thinking about things here.....

 

well, i think that ignoring him isn't a great idea. you don't want to be cruel. though he can't possibly 'love' you, he maybe thinks he does.....so you need to be straight with him.

 

if it were me, i'd write him a letter stating you're sorry but things can't continue.....that you are both married, that both of you should be focusing on your marriages/with your respective partners, that you've realized that true love can't 'be' this way, etc. thanks him [i guess] for his friendship....but you feel what you two are doing is wrong, dishonest and pointless. really make your position clear....leave no room for waffling.

 

make yourself abundantly clear...and then tell him it's best that you no longer have contact.

 

well, this is what i'd suggest. hopefully the guy's not some wacko who'll have a hard time accepting this. good thing he lives in europe.

 

have you decided what you're going to do about your marriage [question mark]........are ya going to sit down and have a good heart to heart talk with your hubby and tell him how you feel about things [question mark]

 

laurynn

 

let us know how things go....okay

[Rogue]

Simply ignoring him might be the less cruel course of action. The best thing is to simply lose his e-mail or ICQ, and filter your e-mail to block his incoming mail. Or simply start a new account with your ISP.

 

The reason I say this, is because it might be too difficult for you to maintain your self-control at first, so it's better not to be exposed to too much temptation. Also, "Dear John" might simply send off a flurry of new mail between the two of you, since he would respond for sure.That would simply prolong the agony,with him maybe begging you to stay or whatnot, making the inevitable more painful.

 

If you just ignore him, however, he would keep writing to you -at first. Then he would start to write less and less as the weeks go by, then realize slowly that it's all over. But by that point, he might have been able to deal with it.Anyways, it's just a suggestion.Do what you feel is best.