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What's the difference with flirt and banter? How do you distinguish the two? And does being friends mean no flirting, only playful banter/teasing?

 

I once met a guy whom I considered a friend only (I was in a LDR and he knew). I don't have much guy friends so this was something new for me. We talked a lot and hanged out quite a bit (I didn't think of the hangouts as "dates"). Two weeks later he confessed that he likes me. :confused: What?! I only thought of him as a friend. It wasn't like I was all over him, touching him, holding hands, etc. All I ever did was talk and laugh with him... Did he read my "playful remarks" as "flirting"?

 

How do you mark the boundaries? What makes flirting "flirting"? Discuss :)

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PegNosePete

Why do you feel the need to put such precise labels on things? It doesn't work that way. This is not an exact science. If you feel someone has crossed the boundary then you should tell them how their actions make you feel.

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It is a hard thing to easily define. What one person feels is teasing and banter is explicit and/or flirting to others. My husband and I are both flirty people by nature and both have twisted senses of humor. I am sure that many people on the outside of our playful conversations with friends of the opposite sex would definitely be labeled as flirting.

 

If you are worried about it being taken that way, I would definitely make sure there is no touching, that could be looked at as something else. I would stay away from any conversation that could be misconstrued as sexual or flirtatious.

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