GarrusVakarian Posted March 21, 2014 Share Posted March 21, 2014 (edited) Hi All For those of you have not read my posts. I came out of a 10 year relationship in September last year. Was married for two years. Four weeks later I found out she was having an affair with a 50 year old married man. I can’t believe how quickly time has moved on, she ran off back to her parents where she has been ever since and wouldn’t deal with the situation and would barely speak to me. I have been in the house we bought together since. I tried at the beginning of Feb to see where I stood, where she told me we never had anything in common and never did. We only got together because we thought we could be happy!. If we tried again, we would both drastically have to change who we are as people?. I asked her if she wanted a divorce, to which she wouldn’t answer?. Anyway at that point I thought to myself this is pointless and I was wasting my time. Since then I have focused on moving on with life and getting out there again. I have tried to reduce any contact with her to a bare minimum. Have changed my number etc, so she can’t get hold of me. But we have to sort our shared house, which I want to keep. I have not seen her in almost two months and she has only messaged me a few times on email. I don’t want to see her and want to avoid any contact where possible. Thing is she seems to be dragging things out. She only moved all her clothes out at the end of February!. She e-mailed me beginning of March to say she wants £10k to sign house over. I offered her a figure close to that. But I have heard nothing back since then. Marriage is over, I don’t really care about that anymore. But why is she dragging her heels over everything?. It’s at the point now where I think, shall I spur her into action by filing for divorce?. At present she does not seem to be in any hurry to do anything. Thing is she is still paying £700.00 each month for the mortgage and the house. Surely shewould want to get out of all of this asap?. Whole thing feels like she is trying to pull the strings still. Will filing just aggravate the situation or would it spur her into action. Because to be honest. I just want her gone now.I want to be able to get on with life. I have asked her the divorce question afew times, but she won’t answer the question Edited March 21, 2014 by GarrusVakarian Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted March 21, 2014 Share Posted March 21, 2014 She is dragging things out because she doesn't want to accept what she has done and she now realizes how sh*ty her new life is going to be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted March 21, 2014 Share Posted March 21, 2014 She is dragging it out because she can. She's at home with her parents, rent free, and nothing is forcing her to make any decisions. So yeah, if you're moving on, that means you NEED TO MOVE ON. File for divorce. That will force her to actually do something. If she does nothing, then that is actually a decision she makes in the process because the court won't wait forever for her. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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