hurts2death Posted March 24, 2014 Share Posted March 24, 2014 is that you? thats weird now. haha ,sometimes i think of you.your choice was respected thats why i dropped from the world(or your world) guys is this breaking nc? I've been browsing these threads for the past few days and though I've gained a lot of great insight, I do feel worse and worse about my situation. I hope I can get some great advice... I dated my ex boyfriend for roughly 2 years. We went through the honeymoon phase, we got used to each other, and a few months before the BU I like I was tolerating it. He's a great guy, very loving and kind to everyone, etc. I thought that this was the guy I would marry someday. I started to get GIGs. I wasn't seeing or talking to anyone, but wanted to do something new. So after I broke up with him about 1.5 months ago, I went out on dates with a couple of guys. Of course getting to know new people was fun, but I felt deep down something was missing. I wouldn't say I was comparing, but the guys lacked that special chemistry I had with my ex BF. My ex BF hasn't spoken to me at all. He could be dead and I wouldn't even know it. Okay... a bit exaggerated, but that should show you how much I don't know what's going on with him. I feel guilty about breaking his heart. The saying "you don't what you have until it's gone" is hitting me very hard. I don't know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
forgetmenot75 Posted March 24, 2014 Share Posted March 24, 2014 With all do respect please read your own signature. Read her story!! I clearly stated if she has serious intentions to contact the guy. Be reasonable. And yes. An ex is an example of what you shouldn't y ave in your life anymore but she dumped him and now she regrets it. She is not the dumpee. Read the no Con tact rules. Beck a i insist. If you're serious and love him go for it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
forgetmenot75 Posted March 24, 2014 Share Posted March 24, 2014 is that you? thats weird now. haha ,sometimes i think of you.your choice was respected thats why i dropped from the world(or your world) guys is this breaking nc? Omg hilarious! Are you the ex? Did you send the flowers? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
limbophase Posted March 24, 2014 Share Posted March 24, 2014 Guys do it too. I was awesome to my ex, would have walked through fire for him but that wasn't enough. All I wanted was his love and I had it until he suddenly decided to take it back. Good people get left every day while their dumpers live it up. The end! You're absolutely right! Guys are capable of doing that, and you know what, those guys are D-Bags. You deserve so much better than that crap singme2sleep, and I sincerely hope that an amazing guy walks into your life and treats you right. I know he'll come for you one day. When you find him though, don't let what you D-Bag of an ex did to you ruin a great thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliBabe Posted March 24, 2014 Share Posted March 24, 2014 So Becca, Any further communication? Did you text him or call him asking again for him to please contact you back? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BeccaCurts Posted March 24, 2014 Author Share Posted March 24, 2014 So Becca, Any further communication? Did you text him or call him asking again for him to please contact you back? I was about to yesterday night. I was so nervous and afraid. I ended up reaching out to one of his close friends asking what I should do to get in contact with him. Like I said, my ex is very strong willed and will not do something he doesn't want to do. His friend said that right now isn't the right time. I gotta reach him somehow. Link to post Share on other sites
singme2sleep Posted March 24, 2014 Share Posted March 24, 2014 We must remember that taking out our anger on Becca isn't a substitute for taking it out on our actual exes. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliBabe Posted March 24, 2014 Share Posted March 24, 2014 I was about to yesterday night. I was so nervous and afraid. I ended up reaching out to one of his close friends asking what I should do to get in contact with him. Like I said, my ex is very strong willed and will not do something he doesn't want to do. His friend said that right now isn't the right time. I gotta reach him somehow. "I gotta reach him somehow." This right here is the right attitude Becca. If you want him, you go after him. (Esp since you are the dumper). Text him, call him and leave a message and be very clear about what your intentions are. If he has any feeling at all left for you (which is possible since it has only been 1.5 months) then he will respond. Maybe not right away as to make you wait a little but again, any feelings left, he will. It is worth a try. Please keep us posted. Good luck! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
singme2sleep Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 You're absolutely right! Guys are capable of doing that, and you know what, those guys are D-Bags. You deserve so much better than that crap singme2sleep, and I sincerely hope that an amazing guy walks into your life and treats you right. I know he'll come for you one day. When you find him though, don't let what you D-Bag of an ex did to you ruin a great thing. Aww thank you, that is truly such a sweet thing to say :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 I was about to yesterday night. I was so nervous and afraid. I ended up reaching out to one of his close friends asking what I should do to get in contact with him. Like I said, my ex is very strong willed and will not do something he doesn't want to do. His friend said that right now isn't the right time. I gotta reach him somehow. My 2 cents: If his friend told you now isn't the time, then now isn't the time. It's not something you want to think about, but you need to... maybe he's found someone else? Take it from me, there's nothing worse than having someone who broke your heart try to come back only after you've found someone else and are actually moving on. Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 Read her story!! I clearly stated if she has serious intentions to contact the guy. Be reasonable. And yes. An ex is an example of what you shouldn't y ave in your life anymore but she dumped him and now she regrets it. She is not the dumpee. Read the no Con tact rules. Beck a i insist. If you're serious and love him go for it. Hey no need to explain who dumped who, I KNOW THE NO CONTACT RULES. Just gave her my honest opinion. You obviously disagree, that's ok we're all friends here. Link to post Share on other sites
forgetmenot75 Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 Hey no need to explain who dumped who, I KNOW THE NO CONTACT RULES. Just gave her my honest opinion. You obviously disagree, that's ok we're all friends here. Of course. I know the contact rules too, almost to the perfection (sadly ) but we need to be flexible here. Not everything is black or white, there are several shades of grey in the middle. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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