I think my girlfriend may have a secret relationship with her brother in law?

[Lacrashinscreed]

We have dated on and off for five years. She is 21. A year older than me.

 

Recently her sister got married. Her sister and brother in law are both 35.

 

Right after her their wedding my girlfriend went on a trip to the zoo with her brother in law. Originally he was supposed to take his wife but she had to work at the last minute so he took my girlfriend instead.

 

Few months after this her sister was evicted. Her and her husband came to stay with my girlfriend and her family for about a month. During that month my girlfriend canceled our plans several times. Saying that her brother in law would tell on her if she went out so she had to stay home and clean.

 

I also came over once during this month for a gathering. My girlfriend was cooking and so only dressed in shorts and a tank top. She stopped in the living room to watch tv with us for a second and lifted up her shirt to wipe her face real quick. Her sister FREAKED out and screamed at her to stop prancing around naked.

 

She has also insinuated that her brother in law does not like me. Said that he is so sweet (to her sister. seemed to put more emphasis on the sweet part though). And she also insinuated that he was buff and had what she thought was a "perfect body"

 

Since her sister and husband have found a place my girlfriend complains that her sister is rude to her a lot. When I ask why she claims there is no reason shes just rude. She even gets depressed about it and cries.

 

Recently she has also started complaining that her brother in law is rude too. Saying that he is cold to her for no reason.

 

this guy hands around their family a lot. I see her sisters once a month if that. This guy hangs out with them everyday of the week 24/7. Always coming over. At every family event. And he tends to take pictures with his arms around both of my girlfriends sisters. But whenever him and my girlfriend are in a pic together they never touch and seem to be trying to stand away from each other.

 

I haven't approached her with this because I AM known for being a bit paranoid/insecure. I have no proof so I try not to dwell on things. I took her virginity and she seems to be as faithful as they come. I also can't imagine her doing something so evil to her own sister. Then again idk because everyones human.

 

This still is in the back of my mind a lot. And whenever she talks about hanging out with them, or her sister being rude to her again all these thoughts come rushing forward. But I have no proof and if I ask her she'll probably think I am perverted lol.

 

Any opinions on this situation

[pickflicker]

Maybe they don't really like one another. I don't really like my cousin's husband. He's a bit of an arrogant, superficial, bullying twat, much like my cousin's father - she's someone Freud would have loved, actually.

 

I make polite conversation with him, but I don't make a habit of spending too much time with him. When I do, I talk superficial subjects and keep away from his incessant questions about my personal life.

 

I don't know about a secret affair. What I do know, is that not liking members of your family can be stressful for some people - after all, family are the people who are supposed to have your back, no matter what.

 

Why not instead of immediately thinking that she's cheating (and I don't know, she may be, but that's not for me to say), you talk to her about the distressing relationship with her sibling?

[Pineappls]

They may think you are perverted? Hmm why would they if you are not like that normally?

 

And im happy you know that she is a human too.

But i dont understand the boundaries that are stepped on in all of this.

Why would you ever replace a wife for her sister. Like if she cant go, your

girlfriend should have not go with him!!!

Because like you said they are human too. And its not her job to have fun alone with her husband.

 

And how can she even desire to walk like a slut around other men in the house?

A descent girl would choose intentionally to wear more disant clothes.

And this is why you should not live with others when you are married.

Because they only bring drama , intentionally or not.

 

You said the perve comment about yourself.

That makes me think that you may be thinking like that too about your gf.

Maybe there is noting like that between them.

 

But if you want you have to have a serious talk with her about your concern.

Just to see her reaction.

But if you know you love to have perv thoughts, dont waste the girls time with foolish talks. Just respect her.