Heartache Posted February 2, 2001 Share Posted February 2, 2001 when a long term marriage is on the verge of ending , and the only way to fix it is for the person to heal their emotional wounds,(WHICH TAKES ALOT OF TIME) but the selfish husband doesn't want to wait ,cause He Has Needs, (like I don't ) and he doesn't seem to get the fact that what he has done to us cuts so deep in my heart that I have wanted to end my life, How can it ever get better ? What do I say to him to make him understand how afraid I am to let him back in to my heart ? He thinks I am being selfish ? BY THE WAY I THINK HAVING AN AFFAIR IS NOT BEING HUMAN BUT BEING .........SELFISH ! (devil makes ya do it) ITS BECAUSE OF SELFISHNESS THAT YOU DON'T THINK OF THE CONCEQUIENCES !! OR ABOUT THE PEOPLE YOU WILL HURT. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 2, 2001 Share Posted February 2, 2001 Yes, I suppose the devil has something to do with it. Your husband does not hold the exclusive franchise on selfishness. I would say there's a social epidemic of it out there. Everybody's wanting THEIR NEEDS to be taken care of. Read the personal ads. Have you ever seen even ONE PERSON say what they were willing to do for the person who answered the ad or who they chose to date?...no, they publish a whole laundry list of "needs", things that will make THEM happy. It's a terrible shame your husband is this way. You don't have to explain anything to him and you don't have to let him back into your heart. I am assuming you have tried in every way possible and you have fallen on deaf ears. Unfortunately, your husband was born with little empathy or insight. There is no magic formula for making someone see something when they are so closed to it. And, not even for a second should you let this royal jerk even cause you to remotely consider taking your life. No matter how bad things seem at the moment, they will be better. Right now, you need to be strong and LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF. If you don't look out for yourself, who else will? I realize the devil is mostly responsible for your husband being a jerk, but I remind you the devil does his/her best work on human beings. Yes, absolutely, the devil makes human beings selfish...and others he makes into fast food junkies. Link to post Share on other sites
David Posted February 3, 2001 Share Posted February 3, 2001 You wanting your husband to act a certain way is selfish too! You sound hysterical. I'm sorry about your marriage, but don't blame the devil. There is no such thing. We'e all very selfish. Even humanitarian and "selfless" acts are selfish in the sense that people do them to make themselves feel better. Tell me one thing which is not selfish! Link to post Share on other sites
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