Abusers second chance

[3j15]

This is a thread for people that have either emotionally or physically abused their SO. I'm sharing my story, of break up to reconciliation to the inevitable end.

 

I was given a second chance after I pushed my girlfriend. I was so happy and excited to restart with the love of my life. I knew I had made the biggest mistake (I believe even worst than cheating), I owned up to my problems and I was starting to see a councilor and was starting to make positive steps towards improving.

 

Everything was great between us for about a month, the problem came when it came time to tell her friends that she was getting back together with me.

 

You see, the whole time we reconciled she kept it away from her friends that she was with me. (They see me as a crazy abusive ex). This is because right after the break up my ex went off and told them how crazy I was for pushing her and obviously pointing out the worst of me. Fair enough, I deserved it at the time.

 

My ex, was worried that all her friends would lose respect for her if she caved and gave e another chance. you know that saying, "once a cheater always a cheater" now just replace cheater with abuser.

 

Not to mention her family didnt approve of us anymore. This was the biggest factor in our break up, the fact that even her family did not support her, I knew it was going to end. It sucks but I knew I had to let her go, unless her family supports her.

 

So when the day came when she told her best friend about us maybe working things out again, all her worst fears were brought up. And she decided that she couldnt handle being seen as "that girl" and also to lose respect from her family. She ended it that night...

 

As much as it sucks, it had to happen. I love her so much, but for me to put her through that much stress, I just cant do that to her.

 

So in reality, even if I got back together with my ex, she would be in stress and lose respect from her friends and family. Not to mention they all dont like me.

 

Is their a moral to this story? Sure, don't be a dumbas* and abuse your SO.

Even if she takes you back, there is still an entire mountain to climb..... Rebuilding her trust will take time, sometimes the damage is unrepairable. But only time and distance can heal.

 

I want her to take me back. I want her to not care about what other's think and maybe swallow some of her pride and cave.

But then again that's not the girl I fell in love with, the girl I love would not give me a second chance and stick to her gut. Because I know that's what I would do.

 

Thanks for reading, thoughts opinions would be great.... the past couple days have been real tough. NC

Edited March 22, 2014 by 3j15

[894hjk]

Hold on, arnt u the guy who's GF attacked him, pushed him and strangled him? And u gently pushed her off? She had been violent in the past too.

 

Then she ran n told her friends u were an abuser N u admitted it, came on her looking for sympathy as an 'abuser' when it was self defence?

 

If that is you you are a real attention seeking dramatic prick who needs to grow up.

 

You prob like this label because for the first time in your life you have something about u.

 

Grow up

[3j15]

Hold on, arnt u the guy who's GF attacked him, pushed him and strangled him? And u gently pushed her off? She had been violent in the past too.

 

Then she ran n told her friends u were an abuser N u admitted it, came on her looking for sympathy as an 'abuser' when it was self defence?

 

If that is you you are a real attention seeking dramatic prick who needs to grow up.

 

You prob like this label because for the first time in your life you have something about u.

 

Grow up

 

 

Sorry but you got the wrong guy. I know who you are talking about I have been reading that thread as well in the abuse section.

[No Limit]

One of the reasons I joined this community was to look for advice for a mutual friend who fell in love with a girl he once bullied (or rather he supported that bullying). Too bad that 2 years later she's become the type people describe as "hot" nowadays and her smartness shows from simply talking to her. She'll study either medicine with me or jurisprudence.

 

But yeah, with that background the guy of course didn't even dare to talk to her. One time while hanging out with her I hinted him liking her and all she did was laugh and plainly call him a looser. And obviously she was right; haven't talked to him in some time now and his appearance is really... uhm. Neglected at best. Fits the girls he's dating though.

 

Moral of the story, don't be rude for no reason. And bullies are always gonna loose.