TBM Posted March 23, 2014 Share Posted March 23, 2014 My wife of 16 years and I have started the process. No kids involved. The marriage itself has been gone for a good 2 years. We've both been to counseling and we're still in the same spot. Just haven't acted on it until ... like the last few days. The agony for me is that, about a month ago, I met someone. Nothing has happened, in fact I don't know if she would even be interested. I've accepted that my marriage is over and I find myself obsessing about the other woman and hoping that she doesn't fall madly in love with someone else. I would never act on anything while still legally married but I lose sleep every night over it. Not exactly something you can discuss with anyone. I wouldn't even tell my best friend. So, I'm here. I feel like an awful person but I also haven't felt these emotions in so long. Worried and Sad. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 23, 2014 Share Posted March 23, 2014 Get the divorce finalized. Take that time for yourself to grow and learn about what errors you've made in the marriage - and how to do things differently in the next relationship. Figure out what you CAN change about yourself to be the best you can be. If she's still around, great. If she's not - there's plenty of gals everywhere. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TBM Posted March 23, 2014 Author Share Posted March 23, 2014 You are right on all accounts. It's hard because the heart wants what the heart wants and it doesn't listen to reason. Just a bad place to be and totally uncharted for me Link to post Share on other sites
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