gotsohosed Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 Story: I am hurt, but finally in the freaking mad stage now, it is about f@#%$ time. Wife was screwing around with another guy for several months. I found out and confronted her. Took a lot to get her to admit to it. I already new a name and places. I also know his wife's work and cell number. After hurting so bad for 3 months I just called and left a message on his wife's voicemail to call me. She is in Real Estate so she will be calling I am sure. I contacted the prick on linked in to call me if he had any balls. What finally got me flamed was my wife just wanted to start over like nothing happened and I understand that but that is not how it can work. I wrote her a letter on what I am going through emotionally and I found an article on this forum that was perfect in describing what I am going through and what she can do to help if we are to move on as a couple from this. I gave the letter and article to her and left for work as I wanted her to read them and think about it before she goes into defensive mode. So she calls me after and tells me she loves me and does not want to lose me and blah blah blah. She has been very vague on the affair so I ask her what happened in this city and she right away lies. I know the answer but she does not know that. We get into the how can I trust if I keep getting lies. Finally she says I don't want to hurt you so I don't want to get into it just know I love you. So that is what got me so upset as to contact the other guy and his wife. I am not looking forward to ruining this ladies life but I know for a fact that this guy is a serial cheater and any human being deserves better than that. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 You'll get no static from me on telling the AP's wife. As a matter of fact, regardless of your motives, it amounts to a simple act of decency. There's no reason why she shouldn't have all of the facts at her disposal to make some necessary decisions in her life. She may be grateful, or she may tell you to get f*cked. Her reaction and what she does with the information is on her. Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 His wife needs to know, she is at risk, who knows where his pee pee has been. Do not have unprotected sex with your wife until she has the full slate of STD testing done, some STD's take 6 months or more to show up from time of event. The humiliation of testing is a good future deterrent, shows them the reality of their actions(they always lie about using protection). As you say, he is a serial cheater, she needs to know, too bad that wasn't enough to stop your wife being another notch in his belt. Expose, expose, expose, there has to be a consequence for her destructive behaviour. You still need to talk to a lawyer and understand your rights. If she is still lying about the affair and continues to deceive you than she is still in it and choosing to protect herself and other man over your pain. Draw your line in the sand and do not back down, she needs to know that there are no other chances if you don't get the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
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