Charisma Posted January 29, 2005 Share Posted January 29, 2005 Hello all, I'm wondering if anyone can offer me some advice. Several months ago a fellow that I was seeing called off our relationship due to conflicting problems in his own life. I've done my best to cope with the situation but am still finding it difficult to see him. We work together so it makes it hard to avoid him. Every time I see him I can't help but feel a little down but I never let it show through. It's developed to the point where it interferes with my own work. Even though I wanted this friendship/relationship thing to work out it didn't and I want to move past this. It appears it was easier for him. How can I gain the strength to feel comfortable at work again and except the situation. Link to post Share on other sites
ion Posted January 29, 2005 Share Posted January 29, 2005 Have you starting dating again? If somewhere in the back of your mind and heart, you feel there is still a chance, you might think it's possible something could happen. If this is the case, then the wound of breakup never gets to heal properly and the pain festers. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
justgenuine Posted February 3, 2005 Share Posted February 3, 2005 Charisma, I know exactly what you mean - I'm in the same boat. My girlfriend broke up with me several months ago and is now seeing someone else. I'm still really cut up about it, and find it really hard to see her. Here are some of my thoughts on the situation: It's bound to be easier for him to be around you and be friends because he called off the relationship. In many ways he might feel more comfortable in this situation than he was in the relationship if he didn't feel it was right for him. As for finding strength, you're still the same person he was attracted to in the first place, so you've got lots of reasons to be confident and secure. It's tough when you're feeling down (I find it extremely difficult), but I think it's important to keep your self-esteem up and not be intimidated. Also, love-wise, I find it really helpful to remind myself that it will happen again! Someone else will come along and hopefully another wonderful relationship will begin. Finally, I think it's really important not to rush yourself. A lot of people think that I should be fine with her now that a fair bit of time has gone by, but I'm not and there's no point pretenting I am. If you really are going to be friends with an ex-partner, it needs to be genuine and not something that's forced because you feel that's what's expected of you. Give yourself plenty of time. Hope some of that was of some help. I don't claim to give great advice, just rambling a bit really! Good Luck. Hope we both come out of this nasty situation in one piece! Link to post Share on other sites
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