Celleste Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 My sisters ex’s seduced me Since I’ve became single three of my younger sister’s ex’s (two of them were ex fiancés) contacted me. All three of the ex’s tried to sexually seduce me. With disgust I told all of my sisters about what happened because it was highly possible that they were going to reconnect and date their ex’s in the future. I was relieved that two of my sisters moved on to date other men. One of my sister’s decided to not move on and is recently engaged to her ex fiancé who btw seduced me TWICE (they wasn’t together at that time) AND another one of my sisters soon before they decided to be engaged. I’m against this engagement because I think he is perverted and that my sister can do A LOT better. I’m not comfortable around her fiancé because I catch him always watching me. Several times my sister caught him staring me while they were spending time together. Even his father is coming on to me which they believe is funny like it’s a joke. I’m appalled. Isn’t this dysfunctional? Disgusting? I feel that my sister is desperate and that she believes she can’t do better. Recently when she met her fiancé’s family for the first time. They told her that his biological sister told his mom that he tried to seduce her as well. Why would his family tell my sister something like that upon their first meeting? I told her to investigate it and get to the truth but she refuse to believe it. Why would his sister who mysteriously disappeared btw lie about something like that? Am I overreacting or being too judgmental? I’m get so sickened when she talks about marrying this man. I don’t even want to be around him.
MuffMan6969 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Dang...You must be really hot for all these people to be "suduceing" you...Do people "suduce" you in real life also?
Radu Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Did they seduce you, or did they attempt to seduce you ... because there's a world of difference between the two. 1
Author Celleste Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Did they seduce you, or did they attempt to seduce you ... because there's a world of difference between the two. One did actually try to seduce me the other two were just attempts. Why should their be a difference? They used to **** my sisters and asked for their hands in marriage. It's disgusting either way.
Candy_Pants Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 One did actually try to seduce me the other two were just attempts. Why should their be a difference? They used to **** my sisters and asked for their hands in marriage. It's disgusting either way. "Try" and "attempt" are synonyms. There is a difference between "trying to seduce", and "seducing", since the latter means he/they were successful, and you slept with him/them. 2
stillafool Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Basically, did you date or sleep with either of your sister's ex boyfriends? We need to know the answer to this in order to answer your question properly. 1
Radu Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 One did actually try to seduce me the other two were just attempts. Why should their be a difference? They used to **** my sisters and asked for their hands in marriage. It's disgusting either way. If they had seduced you, i would have told you that it takes 2 to tango and you are just as guilty as he is and overall a lower form of life, somewhere between a maggot and a worm. If they just tried, it's bad ... but not as bad as the above, and from your posts it was understood it was the above.
Imajerk17 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Yeah I'm confused as to what happened too. I mean, did you have sex with any of your sisters' exes or not? If you did have sex with any of them then you're really as much to "blame" as he is.
Author Celleste Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Basically, did you date or sleep with either of your sister's ex boyfriends? We need to know the answer to this in order to answer your question properly Hell no I didn't slept with them. Is the written disgust in my post not noticeable? I would never do anything like that. The point I’m trying to make it this. He is a pervert yes? So isn't it odd to YOU that my sister would want to marry a man like this? His family told her that he was accused of seducing his sister upon the first time meeting her. Is that not a red flag or am I overreacting? 1
gaius Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Yes it's a huge red flag, yes you're right to be disgusted, and sometimes people only see what they want to. Heck maybe they like that he's into you on some level, feel like they've one upped you by taking him for themselves. 2
stillafool Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 What did your sister say when you told her this guy had hit on you and your other sister? That alone should have disgusted her.
preraph Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I'm sorry you're going to be stuck in the middle of this. Your sister is very unwise for staying with this unethical sleazy perv and your whole family should be rallied round trying to prevent it! You need to make it clear you don't want him or his creepy dad anywhere near you. She's being a fool. You need to call them out publicly every single time either of them makes you uncomfortable until they get the message. 1
Silly_Girl Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 One did actually try to seduce me the other two were just attempts. Why should their be a difference? Seduction is a two-party activity. One attempts to seduce, the other can accept or reject their advances. I think there is some confusion in the wording used. For example, above you say 'one tried, the others were attempts'. That doesn't actually make grammatical sense to me. However, you seem to have clarified later that at no point did you welcome or reciprocate any advances. And you have brought attention to the behaviour of these men. There is no more you can do. And you can't make relationship decisions for your sister. I know it's frustrating...! 3
darkmoon Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 (edited) he must be gorgeously irresistible, I think he will be a philanderer til his looks go, sad all round Edited March 27, 2014 by darkmoon
Author Celleste Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 he must be gorgeously irresistible, I think he will be a philanderer til his looks go, sad all round He is not at all gorgeous or irresistible.
Author Celleste Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 What did your sister say when you told her this guy had hit on you and your other sister? That alone should have disgusted her. She looked surprised and confronted her fiance' about it. He admitted to coming on to my sister and I. He explained to her what happened (which I'm sure was a lie) and my sister moved on like it never happened. I have no idea what he said to her or why she thinks his behavior was no big deal.
Author Celleste Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 I'm sorry you're going to be stuck in the middle of this. Your sister is very unwise for staying with this unethical sleazy perv and your whole family should be rallied round trying to prevent it! You need to make it clear you don't want him or his creepy dad anywhere near you. She's being a fool. You need to call them out publicly every single time either of them makes you uncomfortable until they get the message. I feel the same way. It seems like my sister made up her mind that she is doing the best thing by marrying him. I can try to have a heart to heart talk with her. I have to make sure I express myself in a way it doesn't negatively affect our relationship.
preraph Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Yes, it's difficult. Tell her you love her so much and just don't think this is a good guy for her or anyone else because he has no boundaries or loyalty and that he probably can't stop it because his dad is the same way and he thinks that's normal. 1
Radu Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 He'll make a great father figure ... here's a shocking thought, what if they have girls, pretty girls ...
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