laylay305 Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 i've been talking to this guy from okcupid, and after our first chat, he said "i really look forward to talking to you again!" i didn't hear from him the next day, so i initiated contact and messaged him. he ended up giving me his number and we texted for a good 5-6 hours. at the end of the conversation he said "let's talk tomorrow!" but he hasn't contacted me. is he waiting for me to contact him or is he just not that interested? Link to post Share on other sites
OhThatGirl Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 You initiated the first time. He was the one that said "let's talk tomorrow" so he should initiate. Don't make it too easy for these guys eh? It helps weed out the interested from the uninterested before you give them too much of your time and energy. You don't want to end up on a date with a guy that's only there because you made it incredibly easy for him. If you responded to his "let's talk tomorrow" with some sort of confirmation like "yeah let's do that" then he's gotta step up and make contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Author laylay305 Posted March 26, 2014 Author Share Posted March 26, 2014 i typically let guys do most of the initiating most of the time. my response last night was "i don't know how it got to be so late. talk to you tomorrow. night". i agree, he should be the one to initiate. it just gives me the impression he's not that interested. Link to post Share on other sites
OhThatGirl Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Maybe. Maybe not. See how it goes. Did he ask for your # or did you ask? He's from OLD so likely he's also talking to a couple other women. Interest may rise and fall as those women rule themselves out (or in)... Waiting game. Sounds like you know this though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author laylay305 Posted March 26, 2014 Author Share Posted March 26, 2014 we were messaging, and he brought up getting together to meet in person, then told me it would probably be easier to figure it out via text and gave me his number (this was last night). we never actually did end up determining a time/place to meet, either. i don't know. i think i have a pretty good grip on the ins and outs of OLD, but this has not been what i typically experience. Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Doesn't seem like he's that interested if you had to initiate the conversation. If a guy doesn't follow through on a promise to "talk to you tomorrow," assume that he's just not that into you. If he was really interested, he would have asked you for your phone number, then called you to schedule a date to meet in person. Guys who are interested in you won't make up excuses and won't go silent. Don't chase him either. Let him pursue you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 I guess it's hard to tell in the early stages because people are never truly invested early on with anyone. It could be that he said those words and then something came up in his personal life and he didn't get a chance to talk. I mean I find it difficult to get emotionally attached because I am always talking to several people at once. I don't know if I feel something until I talk to them in person. The ball is in his court. Don't make it too easy for him. People never appreciate anything that's too easy. It's human psychology. At the same time, it shouldn't be too hard. Do you know what I'm getting at? Example: I've been talking to this guy on okcupid. Have to admit my being shallow and taking an instant liking to him based on his looks, but, digging deeper, I realised that he's just not the one for me. He comes across as pretty blasé when I speak to him. He also told me he wanted to meet up this weekend just gone. I said I needed to see a webcam pic to know whether he's legit. He sent me one and I sent him one back (just a picture of my face) then there was a big gap with no communication (despite his expressed interest in meeting me last week) and finally he has replied to my message. Another thing he did was give me his number rather than ask for mine (suggests to me that he wants me to do the running) so I've flagged that up. So to reiterate, yes definitely the ball is in his court. Don't send him another message unless he keeps it going. That way you'll keep your dignity. You shouldn't need to chase a guy if he's into you. Remember that what's meant for you won't go past you 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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