brokenheart94 Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 So guys, my ex gf of 2 years broke up with me over a month ago and has been dating someone else just a day after we broke up. It seems pretty serious as in she has already met his mother etc and she even says he could be the one but is that just the rebound talking? maybe or maybe not. Regardless I'm still so much in love with her and I would do anything to get her back. We haven't spoken in over a week mainly because her bf wouldn't allow her and I respect that as I don't want to be the reason they broke up. But my heart refuses to move on... One of my friends asked her if there was a chance that we can get back together again and she replied 'I dna' and that 'she needs time to think' ... What does THAT mean? She did say to my friend that she misses me but she is lost. What is going on in her mind?? agh shes so confusing... I am giving her space don't get me wrong but I was just wondering is there any chance that me and her will get back together? There are days where I give up hope on getting her back but then there are days where that hope returns and that she will eventually see that breaking up with me wasn't a good idea... I just don't know what to do. Should I continue hoping or not? I have tried doing other things to get my mind off but there are times where I just think about her new relationship and it gets me upset. Any advice anyone? It would be much helpful thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Brokenhearted94, Who cares what is going on in your ex's mind? You certainly shouldn't. She dumped you and then moved onto someone else pretty quicly. That tells me she had him all lined up while she was with you. That's not nice - are you sure you want to be with someone who can be so casual about relationships? Forget her. Focus on you. Work at being the best person you can be. Smarten up, skill-up, workout, educate yourself - anything that makes you feel good about you. Heal yourself and move on. You deserve better. Good Luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Kens8156 Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Hey man, I know exactly what you are going through since the same thing happened to me. I think there is really nothing you can do besides going completely NC... it's the quickest way to heal from your breakup. Working out has helped me a lot since it takes my mind of things. Somewhere in the back of my mind I also still hope she will realize what a mistake she made (I know her family will remund her of what a good guy I was) but they need to realize by themselves. The only way you can help her realize what she has done is to disappear completely out of her life so that she has to deal with the enormity of a life without you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokenheart94 Posted April 2, 2014 Author Share Posted April 2, 2014 Sorry for the late reply, yh i havent officially messaged her in 3 weeks even though if i did she wont reply. Its an upsetting time right now because this saturday would have been our 2 year anniversary. Just last week my friend out of the blue asked her if she still loves me and her response was 'i know he has moved on', and eventually she replied by saying 'i dont know'. Im trrying to move on i really am, not being able to talk to her takes a real strength of mine. I'm just so lost right now :/ my head says move on, my heart says hold on. Link to post Share on other sites
HeartinPain Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 You need to let go and move on. I know it is very difficult, but there is nothing you can do but move on. She lined him up and left you for the new guy. I was in the same situation and I know how bad it hurts to be replaced so quickly. The best thing you can do for yourself is let go of hope and go complete NC to heal. You need to ask yourself why you want to be with someone who would do this to you? If she did come back, I really doubt you will be able to completely forgive her for being with someone else. You dodged a bullet. Trust me, you are better off. Someone who loves you would not leave you for someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokenheart94 Posted April 27, 2014 Author Share Posted April 27, 2014 Hey guys sorry its been a while since i responded but ive been studying for my finals whilst at the same time coping with the break up. An update is that we havent been talking for well over 2 weeks and even though it doesnt hurt as much i still find times where i think about the memories we had and it aches alot and makes me feel depressed. To know that she went from someone who i meant alot too, to being a total stranger. She stopped replying to my messages and i stopped sending them because i wanted to give her space.. so yh its been 3 weeks. Im doing my best to keep myself occupied but as aforementioned there are times where i dwell on her and well i get depressed. Whats irritating is that she doesnt even seem to care what i do anymore and yet here i am wondering if shes ok... She likes my statuses on fb which is the only sort of contact i had of her. But its very hard. however no matter how much i try to move on, which i really am trying to do, there always going to be a part of me that is hoping she comes back which decreases as each day passes by. I hope everyone is well though Link to post Share on other sites
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