bluegreen Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 : ))) Got a love us witty girls 2 Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Thanks.... For all. It was the most hardest thing in my life, it still is. I think some part of him wants to be saved, but he doesn't knows how to help himself and I can't change that, even if I love him. I did laughed at what Kali said, but inside. He might scream that he wants to be saved don't ya dare fall for that !!!! Its not your job to save him even if you have skills for it its not simple as that. He will not change until he stops blah blah and actually does something. But can you really ever really EVER trust him again ? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mondmellonw Posted March 27, 2014 Author Share Posted March 27, 2014 If he showed what his is saying with long term actions, yes. But how will I know this now? Will he be patient? .... I dunno.... I don't think so. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 No Mond. He won`t. Take care. If he showed what his is saying with long term actions, yes. But how will I know this now? Will he be patient? .... I dunno.... I don't think so. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Walk away sweetie no RUN away for crying out loud do it. Gather those little heart broken pieces and run like devil is chasing you. U see he is devil !!!! Could be cute handsome funny lost in that way little boys are never mind all that He is your down fall child thats all you need to know and remember. You say but I love him I can hear those thoughts in your head. Once again what is a use of that do you love to cry and hurt to ? Start bumping your head on wall it will hurt just the same and point we are trying to make he can never ever change ENOUGH to be good for you. Thats whole issue here do you understand that ? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 This would be a tragically bad idea. Don't be the sucker at the table -- though I'm guessing you are going to take him back. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mondmellonw Posted March 27, 2014 Author Share Posted March 27, 2014 Walk away sweetie no RUN away for crying out loud do it. Gather those little heart broken pieces and run like devil is chasing you. U see he is devil !!!! Could be cute handsome funny lost in that way little boys are never mind all that He is your down fall child thats all you need to know and remember. You say but I love him I can hear those thoughts in your head. Once again what is a use of that do you love to cry and hurt to ? Start bumping your head on wall it will hurt just the same and point we are trying to make he can never ever change ENOUGH to be good for you. Thats whole issue here do you understand that ? I know that he must change for himself if he wants to. And yes, my head/heart, whatever tells me I love him dearly. But my reasoning says.... it's not the best thing for me and it's too late Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Mond, Simon has sage advice. This guy has prevented me from going backwards just by his comments. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mondmellonw Posted March 27, 2014 Author Share Posted March 27, 2014 Simon, Haydn. I have never been back with anyone. It doesn't matters how much I love him... Maybe I don't really care about the hooking up. But I do care a lot about alcohol. Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Mond, I hope you laughed at this. It's funny because it is true. It may hurt to laugh, but I hope you can see a little humor in this beautiful understatement. Kali, your coyness here made my day. Always a pleasure. Mond, I agree with the people here who are telling you to just let him go. He hasn't proven that he's worthy of you. He's proven that he's only worthy of AA. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Regardless of the details there are a few things that jump out that I really don't think you should ignore. -Saying you deserve much more than he can give. To me this is a blatant declaration of an unwillingness to change. Ie drinking -The drinking. If it was a problem before it is almost 100% that it will be again. -He prefers alcohol/the company of others than you. His actions after the breakup don't really tell much, other than perhaps he is insecure/needy-why else seek someone when you are still in love with your ex? The things I mentioned though, I think they are pretty important. You should be with someone that really likes you, wants to spend their free time with you. I read this type of thing so often and I don't know why people stay in these relationships. Even after 7 years with my ex he always wanted to spend all of his time with me. He had drug and alcohol issues, but always wanted me to join him, there was never a point where he didn't want me around, or preferred the company of others. I don't think people should hang on to someone who loses interest in them- it is almost a compatibility issue when it gets like that. The drinking, I am not sure, it can get really bad, and it can be ok. But if you had a problem with it before, don't expect that to change. And if it does change be aware that social lives and what not involve plenty of drinking so it would be highly likely the change is only temporary. Other than that it sounds like he is a little manipulative- and that he feels like I deserve much better than what he can give me now... he feels like I won't forgive him for the hooking up with this person I knew, and that he feels (very) judged by me. He also said he will really leave that new relationship if he was sure I love him, but he doesn't feels like I do, he feels I am too exigent. I don't know, I could be wrong, but I just picture a guy who drinks a lot, who is with someone new, saying these things as being kind of.. not genuine? Or with not very wholesome intentions? If it were me, I would be ignoring and getting on with my life. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mondmellonw Posted March 27, 2014 Author Share Posted March 27, 2014 Regardless of the details there are a few things that jump out that I really don't think you should ignore. -Saying you deserve much more than he can give. To me this is a blatant declaration of an unwillingness to change. Ie drinking -The drinking. If it was a problem before it is almost 100% that it will be again. -He prefers alcohol/the company of others than you. His actions after the breakup don't really tell much, other than perhaps he is insecure/needy-why else seek someone when you are still in love with your ex? The things I mentioned though, I think they are pretty important. You should be with someone that really likes you, wants to spend their free time with you. I read this type of thing so often and I don't know why people stay in these relationships. Even after 7 years with my ex he always wanted to spend all of his time with me. He had drug and alcohol issues, but always wanted me to join him, there was never a point where he didn't want me around, or preferred the company of others. I don't think people should hang on to someone who loses interest in them- it is almost a compatibility issue when it gets like that. The drinking, I am not sure, it can get really bad, and it can be ok. But if you had a problem with it before, don't expect that to change. And if it does change be aware that social lives and what not involve plenty of drinking so it would be highly likely the change is only temporary. Other than that it sounds like he is a little manipulative- and that he feels like I deserve much better than what he can give me now... he feels like I won't forgive him for the hooking up with this person I knew, and that he feels (very) judged by me. He also said he will really leave that new relationship if he was sure I love him, but he doesn't feels like I do, he feels I am too exigent. I don't know, I could be wrong, but I just picture a guy who drinks a lot, who is with someone new, saying these things as being kind of.. not genuine? Or with not very wholesome intentions? If it were me, I would be ignoring and getting on with my life. ...You're goddam right. Thanks for your reality check. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Do i need to break our my A game arse-kicking, or all we all good here? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mondmellonw Posted March 27, 2014 Author Share Posted March 27, 2014 lol. We're good. It is weird. I thought that something was off. "pickflicker comment is missing". Thanks. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 I know that he must change for himself if he wants to. And yes, my head/heart, whatever tells me I love him dearly. But my reasoning says.... it's not the best thing for me and it's too late Then stick to it like glue. That's all we want for you 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mutualove Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Show him "the one" using your finger. HINT:The middle one;) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Show him "the one" using your finger. HINT:The middle one;) Allow me to add using both your hands !!!!!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mantlefan Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 I don't know, sometimes all that effort to raise a finger is more than some of the exes in this world are worth. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 And how right you are Ohhhh it feeels better then chocolate or even O to actually not be able to say that but mean it to right ? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mondmellonw Posted May 12, 2014 Author Share Posted May 12, 2014 So, he wanted to be friends and even when I told him I would think about it (don't judge me, please... ok, maybe you should) I later decided to tell him I was never going to be friends with someone whom treated me so poorly. Never. He got a little defensive, said he wanted to end in "good terms". Wich he never did when we broke up. He literally threw **** on my face that day. I don't want to be angry all the time, but his attempt to be "friends" made me feel that way. I asked him to don't talk about me with his cheating ex. Some may think this was useless..., but I am worried about her. I don't know anything good about her. She sleeps around, drinks and is a very dramatic and immature kind of person. And my ex wasn't the one to tell me all of this, except of course for the cheating part. Since I live in a small town, all people know everything. Well... She's been stalking me. She sometimes pokes me on facebook, and since I don't poke back, after some days she blocks me. She unblocks me and repeats the pattern of poking-blocking-unblocking. lol I know this sound silly, but I also have seen her on the streets and it seems to me she wants to make contact, of course I am not interested on her (or him) at all. I erased my FB account and will leave it like it for a while. I've been doing good since then. Link to post Share on other sites
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