_Saffy_ Posted January 29, 2005 Share Posted January 29, 2005 ok why do i feel weird? today my divorce has been finalised.....got the decree absolut through the post this morning. so my question is......why do i feel so weird? we would have had our 10 year anniversary this year, but have been separated for 4 years.......so i am absolutely completely positive that its over, but it feels strange, ya know like the end of an era. im feeling kinda lost or something.......despite the fact that we are friends, i know about his gf's, he knows about my relationships, and it really is all platonic. is it normal to feel this way? Link to post Share on other sites
herbalyyys Posted January 29, 2005 Share Posted January 29, 2005 sure its normal...I mean the decree makes it ABSOLUTELY OVER! You now have no ties binding you to someone .its a whole new aspect,before, you could just look at it as seperated, but now its OVER!Be free girlfriend! you have your whole world to forge new relationships and new friends...But I do know, it sort of like having a door closed in your face.should you be glad?Mad? Offended? ecstatic? Thats what you have to figure on your own.be strong, and look at it as a door closing on your past, or a chapter in a book...now you have to go to next chapter or house. Good luck to you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author _Saffy_ Posted January 29, 2005 Author Share Posted January 29, 2005 thanks hun........been a strange day all round really........kinda like i should be feeling *something* but i dont......just weird. Link to post Share on other sites
herbalyyys Posted January 29, 2005 Share Posted January 29, 2005 Its called Post Part'Em Impression !!! nah its a sort of shock, but you will be stronger for getting it over with. its so natural to feel kind of like "now what?"...I think its normal. do you have good girlfriends or boyriends-just friends-to hang out and celebrate the occassion.you'll feel better, and can make jokes over a new life.you have been seperated for so long, but are you two still in touch? Hell--- move on!!No ties to the past.if he comes into your life again,let it be on your terms.Open your heart to the possibility of a new love.Remember...we only GET what we THINK we deserve,so aim for all the things you want,and dont settle for less.Things will slowly fall into place and you'll understand. Link to post Share on other sites
Author _Saffy_ Posted January 30, 2005 Author Share Posted January 30, 2005 we have three children so we have to be in touch, it wasnt platonic at first, but now its settled into a fairly friendly relationship, which works for both of us. i wouldnt change it. my friends have been great, one told me to frame the divorce certificate.....but i dont feel like its a cause for celebration, just a normal day with a weird cloud hanging over it........ah well! new day today, that was yesterday Link to post Share on other sites
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