Young single women, who want to date, don't exist

[somedude81]

Get out of this mindset! Please.

 

Just join clubs and do activities that interest you. We've been telling you this over and over again. And if girls are there, great. And if not, your meeting people and building a social circle - where you will likely meet other girls.

 

I've never seen someone so damn stubborn before. You will not succeed in your plan - which should be quite obvious to you

The clubs that interest me don't have a lot of girls in them. Actually, in the meetings I went to, there weren't any women. That's why I'm asking what clubs and activities are girls more likely to be in.

 

If I wasn't interested in meeting women, I'd be in the video game, anime and the Information Systems Organization.

 

Those clubs are basically nerd central, which is fine if I already have a GF. But they are not the place to meet girls, or meet guys that know girls.

[maiden of rohan]

My school doesn't have a big Greek life. It's definitely a commuter school. Though I do admit, that if I were in a frat, I would have a much easier time meeting girls.

 

Which campus clubs and activities are girls more likely to join? I also want a club that has a lot of time for socializing. I've been to a couple of business club meetings, and they were really nothing more than a lecture and everybody left afterwards.

 

You need to build up interests that do not revolve around the sole purpose of meeting women. If you join groups for things that interest you, at least, the girls that may be there would share a common interest with you, and you could take that from there. Joining groups because you think there will be a high number of women there is pointless. Find your own identity. One that is not hinged on finding a girlfriend.

[KungFuJoe]

SD,

 

You conveniently ignore anyone who says you need to better yourself first. Why is that? Give me one reason why a girl would pick you over some other guy she knows?

[maiden of rohan]

The clubs that interest me don't have a lot of girls in them. Actually, in the meetings I went to, there weren't any women. That's why I'm asking what clubs and activities are girls more likely to be in.

 

If I wasn't interested in meeting women, I'd be in the video game, anime and the Information Systems Organization.

 

Those clubs are basically nerd central, which is fine if I already have a GF. But they are not the place to meet girls, or meet guys that know girls.

 

Join those groups. Seriously. Not everything in your life has to be geared towards finding women. Building an identity, and a life is an attractive quality for when you *do* meet women. A woman will be able to look at you and say you have your own interests and your own life.

 

As of now, I think you come across as someone that would be quite needy in an R simply because your whole life revolves around women.

[organizedchaos]

Join those groups. Seriously. Not everything in your life has to be geared towards finding women. Building an identity, and a life is an attractive quality for when you *do* meet women. A woman will be able to look at you and say you have your own interests and your own life.

 

As of now, I think you come across as someone that would be quite needy in an R simply because your whole life revolves around women.

 

Another thing we've been telling him over, and over, and over again. But he refuses to acknowledge the advice from people with vastly more experience than him. And we're telling him this to get him to his ultimate goal!

[somedude81]

SD,

 

You conveniently ignore anyone who says you need to better yourself first. Why is that? Give me one reason why a girl would pick you over some other guy she knows?

In case it's not obvious, I'm ignoring all off-topic posts.

[pickflicker]

Join those groups. Seriously. Not everything in your life has to be geared towards finding women. Building an identity, and a life is an attractive quality for when you *do* meet women. A woman will be able to look at you and say you have your own interests and your own life.

 

As of now, I think you come across as someone that would be quite needy in an R simply because your whole life revolves around women.

 

Exactly. I don't go to pub trivia because I want to meet men, I go because it allows me to flex my intellectual muscles (and impress everyone with the music questions).

 

I don't play guitar because I want to meet men (although, it hasn't hurt!), I do it because I WANT to.

 

SD wants to meet women. That's it. No wonder the pool is so shallow, when that's all you're focused on.

[somedude81]

Join those groups. Seriously. Not everything in your life has to be geared towards finding women. Building an identity, and a life is an attractive quality for when you *do* meet women. A woman will be able to look at you and say you have your own interests and your own life.

 

As of now, I think you come across as someone that would be quite needy in an R simply because your whole life revolves around women.

You're right. Not everything in my life has to be geared towards meeting women. There has to be balance. And that means, that I must also be doing things to meet women.

 

For example, I could join the Information Systems club, and then join the "Women issues where we welcome men too" club.

[somedude81]

Exactly. I don't go to pub trivia because I want to meet men, I go because it allows me to flex my intellectual muscles (and impress everyone with the music questions).

 

I don't play guitar because I want to meet men (although, it hasn't hurt!), I do it because I WANT to.

 

SD wants to meet women. That's it. No wonder the pool is so shallow, when that's all you're focused on.

Did you miss the point where I said that if I did only join the clubs that interest me, I absolutely would not meet any women?

 

Hell, there are no girls in my major concentration.

[pickflicker]

Did you miss the point where I said that if I did only join the clubs that interest me, I absolutely would not meet any women?

 

Hell, there are no girls in my major concentration.

 

Maybe not, but you'd be a bit more interesting than you are now. A guy with no hobbies, no passions, no drive? Who thinks having a woman is more important than a job, and passing calculus? Bye bye. I wouldn't even look twice, even if he had the abs of that Jon Snow bloke in that Pompeii film.

[maiden of rohan]

You're right. Not everything in my life has to be geared towards meeting women. There has to be balance. And that means, that I must also be doing things to meet women.

 

For example, I could join the Information Systems club, and then join the "Women issues where we welcome men too" club.

 

Personally, I'd only attend groups that I was interested in, not infiltrate them for the sole purpose of picking up men. They have singles-groups for that, and say, joining a women's issues group with the sole intent of hitting on women, is probably not the smartest thing to do.

[KungFuJoe]

In case it's not obvious, I'm ignoring all off-topic posts.

 

No...it's pretty obvious. Just like most things in your life, you ignore what's most relevant and just focus on the shiny red boobs...I mean objects.

[somedude81]

Maybe not, but you'd be a bit more interesting than you are now.

Really?

 

I'd be more interesting to women if I was in the Information Systems Student Association? Same thing for the Gaming Club?

 

Honestly, do you think girls in college would even give a damn?

[pickflicker]

Personally, I'd only attend groups that I was interested in, not infiltrate them for the sole purpose of picking up men. They have singles-groups for that, and say, joining a women's issues group with the sole intent of hitting on women, is probably not the smartest thing to do.

 

Exactly, I didn't take up guitar because I wanted to meet more guys. I took it up because I knew I'd regret it if I didn't.

 

The point is, it doesn't matter if you have the same differences to your mate, just that you have interests.

 

For example, my non-negotiable is a guy who is interested in music. I don't care if it's completely different to mine, it's the passion that is the most important.

[Anela]

In case it's not obvious, I'm ignoring all off-topic posts.

 

The posts aren't off-topic.

 

Will you try one thing that's been suggested? Like a new meet-up next week, or the week after? The purpose isn't to meet women, it's to make friends... or that's what I thought. People to spend time with, and eventually, those people might know a woman who is well-suited to you.

[somedude81]

Personally, I'd only attend groups that I was interested in, not infiltrate them for the sole purpose of picking up men. They have singles-groups for that, and say, joining a women's issues group with the sole intent of hitting on women, is probably not the smartest thing to do.

That's why I used the tongue in cheek name of "Women issues where we welcome men too."

 

There are a lot of clubs and topics that could interest me but I don't want to go to them if girls won't be there.

 

As for singles-groups for that. No there aren't any singles groups for people under 40.

[pickflicker]

Really?

 

I'd be more interesting to women if I was in the Information Systems Student Association? Same thing for the Gaming Club?

 

Honestly, do you think girls in college would even give a damn?

 

Are you interested in those things? Do they give you happy brain feelings? Do they stimulate you?

 

YES! Girls give a damn that you're interested in something. That you're passionate about something, even if they aren't. It's not the hobby, it's the passion.

 

As an brief poll, if guys and girls on this thread think that I'm right, please chuck me a like on this post. We'll see what the group thinks.

[maiden of rohan]

Really?

 

I'd be more interesting to women if I was in the Information Systems Student Association? Same thing for the Gaming Club?

 

Honestly, do you think girls in college would even give a damn?

 

It's not the "interest" that is important. It is the fact that you have an interest, a life outside of her, that is important.

 

My ex loved the local soccer team. I couldn't care less about them. He also loved coaching children in soccer. I, too, couldn't care less. It was still appealing that he had his own interests that he involved himself in, and his own identity beyond "us."

[Anela]

Are you interested in those things? Do they give you happy brain feelings? Do they stimulate you?

 

YES! Girls give a damn that you're interested in something. That you're passionate about something, even if they aren't. It's not the interest, it's the passion.

 

As an brief poll, if guys and girls on this thread think that I'm right, please chuck me a like on this post. We'll see what the group thinks.

 

Yes, I agree with you!

 

SD, you mentioned cooking. A lot of women love it when a man can cook. Try taking a class - just to learn to cook, not to pick up a twenty-one-year-old.

[KungFuJoe]

You guys are barking up the wrong tree by telling SD to go to meet up groups.

 

His problem is still going to be the fact that he has nothing to offer a potential girl.

 

It doesn't matter how many girls he meets...numbers are not the issue. He lives in an area that has a TON of women of ALL types. I know because I live in the same area as he does and trust me...meeting women is NOT the issue.

 

His issue is simply that he can't attract them.

 

But I guess that's off topic and irrelevant so I'll switch back on topic real quick and say maybe you should join the Chess Club. I hear women dig chess.

[somedude81]

Are you interested in those things? Do they give you happy brain feelings? Do they stimulate you?

 

YES! Girls give a damn that you're interested in something. That you're passionate about something, even if they aren't. It's not the hobby, it's the passion.

Interests/hobbies and passions are two completely different things. You appear to be using the terms interchangeably at first and then started to focus on passion.

 

Yes I'm interested in video games, anime, surfing, guitar, technology, animal rights, salsa and ballroom dancing etc.

 

I'm not passionate about any of them.

[Anela]

You guys are barking up the wrong tree by telling SD to go to meet up groups.

 

His problem is still going to be the fact that he has nothing to offer a potential girl.

 

It doesn't matter how many girls he meets...numbers are not the issue. He lives in an area that has a TON of women of ALL types. I know because I live in the same area as he does and trust me...meeting women is NOT the issue.

 

His issue is simply that he can't attract them.

 

But I guess that's off topic and irrelevant so I'll switch back on topic real quick and say maybe you should join the Chess Club. I hear women dig chess.

 

That's why I suggested cooking - it's a start.

[MidwestUSA]

SD, what happened to the guitar playing? Just curious.

[maiden of rohan]

That's why I used the tongue in cheek name of "Women issues where we welcome men too."

 

There are a lot of clubs and topics that could interest me but I don't want to go to them if girls won't be there.

 

As for singles-groups for that. No there aren't any singles groups for people under 40.

 

Do you not see why that is a problem? You're intentionally bypassing perfectly good opportunities to develop a life/hobby and potentially make friends, because you do not think girls will be there. It shouldn't matter. You should go because the event interests you, and if girls are there, and you find yourself attracted to one, grand. If not, you're still attending something interesting and fun.

 

Stop allowing your desire/obsession for a girlfriend to dictate your life. Be your own person, do your own thing and in doing that, and in getting your stuff together, you will open yourself up to more opportunities. And if it doesn't happen right away, least you'll have a circle of friends and a couple of hobbies to keep you busy.

[pickflicker]

You guys are barking up the wrong tree by telling SD to go to meet up groups.

 

His problem is still going to be the fact that he has nothing to offer a potential girl.

 

It doesn't matter how many girls he meets...numbers are not the issue. He lives in an area that has a TON of women of ALL types. I know because I live in the same area as he does and trust me...meeting women is NOT the issue.

 

His issue is simply that he can't attract them.

 

But I guess that's off topic and irrelevant so I'll switch back on topic real quick and say maybe you should join the Chess Club. I hear women dig chess.

 

I'd love to learn how to play chess, but I need someone patient enough to explain it to me, because when I lose, this happens:

 

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