Should I give up or keep trying???

[nat1838]

There is a guy who works for the same company that I do (different departments) I have liked him ever since I met him when I first started there. He and I have a lot in common. He is extremely shy. He rarely talks to anyone, but he talks to me all the time. Well I asked him out a a few weeks ago. He turned me down saying that he got burned last time he tried to date somone who worked at the company, and he doesn't know if he wants to try mixing business and pleasure again. I know all of this to be true, because I know the woman he went out with and she just "dropped" him out of the blue because they were so incompatible. He thanked me for thinking about him, and he is still just as happy to see me as he always was. The other problem is he is 39 and I am 24. That is not a problem for me because I am looking for an older guy anyway because I have a much higher maturity level than others my age. I always have. I just am not sure how to break the age barrier with him, and after the turn down, I don't know if I should continue trying. I really think it could be a worthwhile venture, he and I could be really great together. He is everything I have always been looking for. I am just not sure what to do.

 

What do you guys think? Should I continue to try? and if so, How?

[ReluctantRomeo]

Hmmmm. Normally my advice would be to leave it after one rejection. But in this case - the shyness etc - you could always try doing fun one-on-one stuff with him, see if he agrees. Maybe it will blossom into something. My 2 previous girlfriends got me this way! Sneaky, eh?

 

But don't put all your eggs in one basket. And don't get too emotionally involved without commitment - he may just be emotionally unavailable.

 

If all else fails, give me your address I'm not 39 yet, but I could do the shy thing for you

[alphamale]

usually if a 24 yr old female basically threw herself at a guy who is pushing 40 this would be a no-brainer for the man.

 

if he said no then i would give it up unless u thing there is a good possibility he is playing hard to get.

 

see, he has 15 yrs more experience thatn you do and probably knows that by rejecting you he has made you even MORE interested in him.

 

and, just one sidebar NAT1838... all 24 yr olds think they are mature beyond their age. in actuality, none of them are. you'll figure this out in about 10 yrs.