Cooking and household skills vs having a career (in a woman)

[xxoo]

Uh, I'm talking about stuff more complicated than boiling pasta and throwing chicken fingers in the oven.

 

When my ex made spaghetti, she made the sauce from scratch. Then she made a salad and did the dressing from scratch as well.

 

It was restaurant quality food.

 

My husband can do that, too

[Radu]

I'm probably gonna marry the woman that cooks my favorite cake on my b-day from scratch using whole natural ingredients.

 

3 layers, vanilla cream with banana slices in between them [siropy layers], covered in vanilla with more banana slicer and the final cover is with whipped cream.

[MidwestUSA]

Uh, I'm talking about stuff more complicated than boiling pasta and throwing chicken fingers in the oven.

 

When my ex made spaghetti, she made the sauce from scratch. Then she made a salad and did the dressing from scratch as well.

 

It was restaurant quality food.

 

 

 

There are plenty of ways to meet in the middle, in between 'from scratch' and prepackaged crap. In the summer, I start with a relatively plain sauce in a jar, and cut up and add anything that happens to be ready to pick that day. Tomatoes, peppers, zucchini. Once I accidentally threw in a cucumber; once it had all simmered, it blended right in. Proper use (not overuse) of spices makes a world of difference.

 

 

I'm still thinking a cooking class would be a great thing for you.

[MidwestUSA]

I'm probably gonna marry the woman that cooks my favorite cake on my b-day from scratch using whole natural ingredients.

 

3 layers, vanilla cream with banana slices in between them [siropy layers], covered in vanilla with more banana slicer and the final cover is with whipped cream.

 

 

Extra points for growing my own bananas? Two of my trees are six feet tall, and itching to get out of the basement!

[Candy_Pants]

I'm probably gonna marry the woman that cooks my favorite cake on my b-day from scratch using whole natural ingredients.

 

3 layers, vanilla cream with banana slices in between them [siropy layers], covered in vanilla with more banana slicer and the final cover is with whipped cream.

Have you ever made whipped cream by hand? Your future wife will be buff .

[SpiralOut]

I can do both. When I was in college and dating, I found that the cooking made it easier for me to bond with his step-mom, mother, his female friends. I love cooking. I used to get through intense study periods by taking a break to bake chocolate cupcakes. Now that I'm working, I bond with my female colleagues by talking about food or bringing in homemade cookies to share. I still work hard and study part-time courses in my spare time. In fact one of my career goals is to start making money on the side from my cooking and gardening skills.

[Radu]

Extra points for growing my own bananas? Two of my trees are six feet tall, and itching to get out of the basement!

 

 

SOLD ... if you're a 20yr old model that's 6 feet tall and has a family history of staying gorgeous into her 60's.

[Grumpybutfun]

I appreciate both, but there is something to be said for a woman who can make a house a home. It is a lost art, it seems. I am in awe of my wife's abilities to do both, as she is well rounded, however, I am extremely grateful that she is such an enormously gifted homemaker. Making a home is hard work and takes considerable skill. She is the best wife and mother in the world, and while she is also a gifted journalist, her selflessness and energies in the home make her extraordinary. She is not taken for granted but admired for making our home the best place on earth to be.

Best,

Grumps

[Radu]

Have you ever made whipped cream by hand? Your future wife will be buff .

 

Yes.

I come from a family of chemists, my grandpa's recreational activity was making moonshine in the middle of the night [with me present at 6], and my mom thought it was a good idea for me to 'help' in the kitchen.

Still, you have appliances that you can use for the whipped cream, or you can buy it from a lab that does whole natural stuff [there are still some who make it here].

I think it's much harder to make the vanilla cream; it's bloody annoying to get the right consistency.

[Candy_Pants]

There are secrets, but if I told you.....you'd want to marry me .

[MidwestUSA]

SOLD ... if you're a 20yr old model that's 6 feet tall and has a family history of staying gorgeous into her 60's.

 

I guess one out of three won't do?

 

Right now, I'm just looking for someone to list as a beneficiary.

[MuddyFootprints]

I can do both. When I was in college and dating, I found that the cooking made it easier for me to bond with his step-mom, mother, his female friends. I love cooking. I used to get through intense study periods by taking a break to bake chocolate cupcakes. Now that I'm working, I bond with my female colleagues by talking about food or bringing in homemade cookies to share. I still work hard and study part-time courses in my spare time. In fact one of my career goals is to start making money on the side from my cooking and gardening skills.

 

This is my first year growing veggie plants for the retail market as a sideline to our regular operation. If I can be of assistance, let me know!

[Radu]

There are secrets, but if I told you.....you'd want to marry me .

 

Water bath, regular mixing, good thermometer ... if i remember correctly it needs to be kept at 60 degrees Celsius.

You can use one of those boiling vessels with 2 walls and void/water in between them.

The key is uniform heat absorption and good control over the temperature of the water.

The smaller vessel should be thinner and not one with thick bottom.

 

I've had lab assignments that were easier than making vanilla cream.

[SpiralOut]

This is my first year growing veggie plants for the retail market as a sideline to our regular operation. If I can be of assistance, let me know!

 

Cool! How did you get retailers to take in your produce? Do you need to meet specific guidelines? I am looking to start with something very small. I grow so much basil and other herbs that I was thinking to sell it somewhere. Failing that, I was thinking to maybe make some jellies with it or some other product like bread dipping sauce that I could ask local stores to carry.

[FitChick]

I'd rather have a man who cleans than one who cooks. I love to cook but hate to clean. Marriage made in heaven!

[ASG]

Uh, I'm talking about stuff more complicated than boiling pasta and throwing chicken fingers in the oven.

 

When my ex made spaghetti, she made the sauce from scratch. Then she made a salad and did the dressing from scratch as well.

 

It was restaurant quality food.

 

Yesterday I made pasta and chicken. It was diced chicken, so had to fry it in the pan. Threw in some chopped onions and a bit of curry powder. The result was AMAZING!!

 

Not everything is a lasagna cooked from scratch. It doesn't have to be.

 

2 years ago I tried a recipe for cod that is traditional in my country. I made it for a get together with friends. It came out great! But it took me HOURS to make. I'm not gonna be doing something that takes a long time every day!

 

But it doesn't have to be bland either!

Pasta bakes are easy and quick. Rice as well, and you can make so many different types of rice it's unreal.

[kiss_andmakeup]

Uh, I'm talking about stuff more complicated than boiling pasta and throwing chicken fingers in the oven.

 

When my ex made spaghetti, she made the sauce from scratch. Then she made a salad and did the dressing from scratch as well.

 

It was restaurant quality food.

 

I do both of those things (pasta sauce and salad dressing from scratch). Neither is even remotely complicated. I promise.

[fortyninethousand322]

I'm not an expert in a kitchen but do some stuff and can find my way; though at times I might order delivery if I wanted something that requires way more work. As for my major (tourism and business management), I'll be done by Oct-Nov 2015. I plan on establishing my own business afterward.

 

When it comes to a LTR or marriage, would most men choose:

 

1) A woman that though only graduated from HS she's an excellent cook and has great household skills or

 

2) A woman with mediocre-average cooking and household skills (depending on who she's being compared to; if he expects elegant dishes and a great home decorator then I suck and is not what I excel in) but career minded and who likes travelling?

 

Sometimes I have a feeling that woman 1 can override 2. I've seen certain women that might not even know basic history or very limited vocabulary when talking (might even hate reading books) but have excellent cook and household skills somehow land a man easier than type 2 with not as great as woman 1 in those two aspects even if she were as smart.

 

Real life example:

One of my father's relative was once dating a gf who was majoring in law school and his mother didn't like the girl. The mother would go on telling him who she missed his ex gf Sandra (a woman who is poor and uneducated but with a great cook).

 

In the end, he end up dumping his smart gf and going got married to Sandra.

 

I'd prefer woman #2. I'd prefer to do my own cooking anyway, and I couldn't care less about home decorating. Travel with me and enjoy learning about the world and we're good.

[kiss_andmakeup]

Quick homemade marinara sauce:

 

-Add 1-2 tbsp olive oil to sauté pan over medium heat. Add chopped onion, dried Italian seasoning, red pepper flakes, salt/pepper. Saute until onions are translucent.

-Add minced fresh garlic (1-2 cloves depending on how much you like). Saute one minute.

-Add diced tomatoes (canned or fresh - I prefer canned because of the juice that they come in) and 1-2 tablespoons of tomato paste. Saute 5 minutes. Add fresh basil.

-If you like a chunkier sauce, leave as is or blend half the tomato mixture. If you like a smooth sauce, blend the whole mixture until smooth.

-Simmer on the stovetop, stirring occasionally, and adding salt/pepper to taste.

 

The end.

 

Hint: sites like allrecipes.com and foodnetwork.com have zillions of recipes - and they have reviews where users who tried the recipe can report on how it tasted. Choose a recipe with 4 or more stars out of 5 and go. Any literate person with internet access should be able to cook a decent meal.

[Woggle]

I would only expect this from a woman if she expected me to be a provider and be the man. Traditional goes both ways.

[Got it]

I don't know why it is either or and why both parties can't cover these things. I bring in the money, I cook, and help with other household areas. We do have someone clean for us (though every other week so with a puppy and other pets more cleaning is needed), and do the farm work for my horses.

 

So I will cook a fantastic meal, muck stalls, stay hay, and bring in the bacon.

 

But I can win the game "how long can you stand dishes in the sink" every time.

[dragon_fly_7]

I'll admit that what I'll truly won't do is cook for 10+ guests or if we're talking about a big family reunion. No way. That requires patience and you really have to love the art of cooking. Yeah, I'm lazy for that and it doesn't interest me in that manner.

Cooking sometimes for a bf, myself or my parents ok I'll do that. Not every day though.

 

However, if it was for a business, esp on an famous restaurant and it pays good then ok.

[dragon_fly_7]

2 years ago I tried a recipe for cod that is traditional in my country. I made it for a get together with friends. It came out great! But it took me HOURS to make. I'm not gonna be doing something that takes a long time every day!

If it's something that's going to take me that long, I'll just do it for myself and my parents. I might do it for a bf once if he's worth my time and dedication...he would have to be very special in order for me to be stuck in the kitchen for hours. Definitely will not do that to his whole family nor other guests.

[Radu]

Quick homemade marinara sauce:

 

-Add 1-2 tbsp olive oil to sauté pan over medium heat. Add chopped onion, dried Italian seasoning, red pepper flakes, salt/pepper. Saute until onions are translucent.

-Add 1-2 fresh onions diced

-Add meat, chicken breast cut in long fingers, a little safron and white wine

-Add minced fresh garlic (1-2 cloves depending on how much you like). Saute one minute.

-Add diced tomatoes (canned or fresh - I prefer canned because of the juice that they come in) and 1-2 tablespoons of tomato paste. Saute 5 minutes. Add fresh basil. --- just the basil here

-If you like a chunkier sauce, leave as is or blend half the tomato mixture. If you like a smooth sauce, blend the whole mixture until smooth.

-Simmer on the stovetop, stirring occasionally, and adding salt/pepper to taste.

-at the end add the whole grain pasta

 

This is marinara sauce ?

 

The bolded part is what my sister and i used to add to it.

[Els]

I've observed a variety of guys with different preferences; and some of them actually prioritize *gasp!* things that aren't even covered in the opening post! Who knew that there was more to a relationship than money and housework.

 

Snark aside, really, it depends on the guy. Be yourself, and seek a compatible partner. Self improvement is great, but you should do it because you want to, not because you want a partner. Beware, also, the guys who want a woman to do most of the housework but also split the bills. That usually speaks to a selfish disposition.

 

(My guy doesn't cook often because he doesn't have much time anymore, but he's amazing at it, having done so everyday as a student. He's a purist, and hates premade sauces. He makes a mean carbonara from scratch )