GarrusVakarian Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 My wife of two years cheated with a 50 year old married man 20 years her older. I found out at the end of September last year. She ran off to her parents and pretty much been there ever since. First few months were really tough. But kind of reached the conclusion, the wife I knew is dead and buried and she has been brainwashed!. She had told me when she called it off, she was going to let me go so I could move on a few times. But she has done anything but let me move on. We own a house together, which I would like to keep. But she only communicates with me via email. I send her an email with all the figures relating to house. She takes two weeks to come back. I reply another 1-2 weeks later, ill get a response. this been going on since Feb. I have been moving on with life. But the other week she says she wants 10k. I offer her £7.5k she refuses as I thought she would. I can raise the £10k, she wants. But I have told her, that if she agrees its a full and final offer and she cant come back later after more money. I want it legally binding. I also said, once you have agreed I am filing for divorce. Again almost a week later still no response. What the hell is she playing at?. She tells me to move on, but she drags the whole thing out?. She only moved her clothes out at the end of Feb!. Five months after it all kicked off. Sadly as she is paying half the bills, I cant chuck her remaining stuff out. But it feels like she is really drawing things out and for no reason. Its only hurting her financially. She has to pay £700 a month in mortgage and bills. Surely she would want shot of it all?. What is she playing at?. Anyone else had a similar experience?. Was it because I said I want a divorce?. I have offered her what she wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 I assume you haven't gotten a lawyer and filed for divorce. I say that, because that is why she is dragging it out. It's not uncomfortable for her yet. You're probably trying to have a nice guy divorce and the two of you will work out all the details. But because you haven't filed and put the wheels in motion, nothing is uncomfortable for her and she doesn't have to do anything today. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GarrusVakarian Posted March 28, 2014 Author Share Posted March 28, 2014 I assume you haven't gotten a lawyer and filed for divorce. I say that, because that is why she is dragging it out. It's not uncomfortable for her yet. You're probably trying to have a nice guy divorce and the two of you will work out all the details. But because you haven't filed and put the wheels in motion, nothing is uncomfortable for her and she doesn't have to do anything today. A lot of people are saying no wait until she signs house over. If you do it before she will just be difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 A lot of people are saying no wait until she signs house over. If you do it before she will just be difficult. Incase you haven't realized, she's going to be difficult either way. You may as well get your own lawyer and file so your rights are looked after. Otherwise you might be back here two years from now in exactly the same situation. No changes because she hasn't had to actually do anything. Link to post Share on other sites
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