How to get an interesting life

[dmmm]

I'll admit, I'm boring. My life is boring.

 

I'm 29. No friends, very shy, no social skills. Waste each day watching tv. Work online with no interaction.

 

What can I do to become interesting? Perhaps a stupid question but it's serious.

 

I feel like I have no personality at all. So when I do talk to people I have nothing to talk about because I have no "life".

 

I don't really have any interests. Nothing inspires me or makes me want to get out there and do something etc.

[preraph]

You can't have an interesting life if you don't go do things. Maybe you'll develop an interest if you just try different things. You need to try everything and see what sticks. Read, do volunteer work, try everything there is to try, and it doesn't matter if you go do that alone. Just get out and go do things.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Well, the first step in recovery is admitting you have a problem so BRAVO!

 

Seriously, you appear to be fairly self-aware and seem to have identified the obstacles that prevent you from having an interesting life. What exactly is the problem?

 

I suppose I'm more interested in finding out how you'd define interesting? And why do you want a more interesting life now?

 

Unfortunately there isn't an easy to follow connect-the-dots guide book on how to BE more interesting and therefore LIVE an interesting life. Like most everything in life, you can't have it without putting in the effort and doing the work. You get out of it what you're willing to put into it.

 

Hmm...let's see...

 

To start with, I'd try to limit your television and/or computer time if at all possible. It's just too easy to plop yourself down in front of a screen and next thing you know, 8 hours has passed you by! It only proves to be a huge distraction and major culprit to avoiding the "work" you need to do to start the process of finding an interesting life.

 

Second, with the time you've now gained from not watching so much TV, take some time and think about some of the things that USED to inspire you and see if anything sparks. There had to have been something from your childhood or early years that you found enjoyable.

 

Third, I think preraph made an excellent suggestion about doing some volunteer work. It would be a great way to get out, meet others and feel good doing something to benefit someone else; aka good karma and that is always a good thing It might also help you develop some social skills and get you primed for bigger and better things.

 

Fourth, there are many books out there that can help with how to start conversations and keep them going. I would visit your local library (and I mean, get out and actually visit a place where books are on paper and not online!) and spend some time perusing the self-help section and anything else that might seem interesting to you. If you're online most of the day, taking time to read the latest news on MSN or CNN might help keep you abreast on what's going on in the world from world politics to the latest kitten video that went viral!

 

Sometimes making a conscience choice of HOW you spend your time, even time alone can make the difference between being boring and one-dimension to interesting and well-versed and can go a long way in building a good foundation to work from.

 

Good luck!

Edited March 29, 2014 by Michelle ma Belle

[shet]

Leaving the house is a good start. Getting some physical exercise, get the juices flowing, lift the depression. Volunteering somewhere perhaps. Then, I would work on getting a job not at home. Convenient no, sociable yes. Quite frankly, once you have a job outside the house, and some means of physical exercise, you have as much as most people have going on in their lives.

 

Also consider shaking things up a bit. Buy yourself some new, good wardrobe. Go out somewhere for lunch occasionally. Hit up anyone you have any excuse to do so to do something, walk a dog, get pizza, catch up. I'm sure you've heard of meetup.com as well. Scour the groups, avoid the "dating" ones but feel free to ensure there are women in the ones you like, because I think you need that. I'm willing to bet this is something you fear about yourself because you're single. That's not got anything to do with being boring or interesting. Go listen to men and women talk. The raddest, coolest most awesome tubular alternative sports douchebag can only talk about his sweet bike and the waves he caught last weekend for a short while before that too becomes boring. Within 3 minutes he'll be down to talking about Game of Thrones, his cat, why he loves enchiladas and the weather tomorrow just like the rest of us.

[CarrieT]

I'm 29. No friends, very shy, no social skills. Waste each day watching tv. Work online with no interaction.

 

What can I do to become interesting?

 

#1. Throw your television away.

 

#2. Do something dangerous. Considering you said you have no interests, this could be your chance to really go outside the box: take Tango lessons, learn rock-wall climbing, join a reading club that involves reading something you would never consider reading.

 

Realize that all the above things involve talking and interacting with other people and that is the point. For you, any one of those things would be dangerous and would be good for you.

 

Granted, you might not necessarily enjoy any one of them, but they would be different and that is what you need!

[skydiveaddict]

 

I don't really have any interests. Nothing inspires me or makes me want to get out there and do something etc.

 

Start doing everything you are afraid of.

[Sweetnothing]

Meet people who enjoy getting out and doing stuff. My life is 100x more interesting when my friends are around. We're all pretty impulsive and spontaneous. We'll go from sitting on the couch to abruptly deciding to take a road trip or go hiking or bar hopping...anything!

 

The good news for you is that young guys tend to be all about group activities. Go to a pool hall and ask to play. After a few beers you'll have a new group of friends. I work at a bar and I see it happen all the time. It's such an easy way to approach people. Everyone's relaxed and wants to have fun.

 

Definitely start working out. You have way more energy when you do cardio a few times a week. You don't need to spend forever on a treadmill (unless you want to) get a bike and find some bike trails. Try a new trail every week! You might find a cool waterfall or wild animals.

 

Try new stuff until you find hobbies that fit your interests.

 

I took a ton of classes for different things and some were fun, some were lame, but I found out I really love yoga, spin class, kickboxing, and occasionally running 5ks for charities.

 

Traveling is fun too and always gives you lots of stories. Travel to a country that not a lot of people go to.

 

Most importantly though you gotta be optimistic. If you're positive and happy you're more aware of fun opportunities instead of thinking "nah that's not for me"

[CopingGal]

Dmmm, the internet is a wonderful place to start. You CAN connect with people. You CAN. You don't have to live your life completely alone.

 

You CAN do interesting things on the internet. You don't have to spend your whole life in isolation. Let me help you. You can do all kinds of things on the internet. You can help others. I'm reaching out to you.

[OnwardandUpward]

dmmm - i am 49 and if i could have life over - if i could be your age - here is what i would do

 

1. i would go on a rollercoaster ride

2. i would bungee jump

3. i would parachute

4. i would go to a a country and explore it for a week or two

5. i would never say i can't

 

i guess what i am trying to say is feal the fear and do it anyway

 

there is noone that has something to say, there is noone having a fantastic life and there is noone haveing a boring life - it is all about perception

 

what you see as fantastic someone esle who is living it - may see it as frantic and what you see as boring - someone else might see as peaceful

 

It is just perception

 

Go do the one thing that you are totally terrified of doing.

[Peacock_Tail]

Leaving the house is a good start. Getting some physical exercise, get the juices flowing, lift the depression. Volunteering somewhere perhaps. Then, I would work on getting a job not at home. Convenient no, sociable yes. Quite frankly, once you have a job outside the house, and some means of physical exercise, you have as much as most people have going on in their lives.

 

Also consider shaking things up a bit. Buy yourself some new, good wardrobe. Go out somewhere for lunch occasionally. Hit up anyone you have any excuse to do so to do something, walk a dog, get pizza, catch up. I'm sure you've heard of meetup.com as well. Scour the groups, avoid the "dating" ones but feel free to ensure there are women in the ones you like, because I think you need that. I'm willing to bet this is something you fear about yourself because you're single. That's not got anything to do with being boring or interesting. Go listen to men and women talk. The raddest, coolest most awesome tubular alternative sports douchebag can only talk about his sweet bike and the waves he caught last weekend for a short while before that too becomes boring. Within 3 minutes he'll be down to talking about Game of Thrones, his cat, why he loves enchiladas and the weather tomorrow just like the rest of us.

 

That was so funny and true.

[L1ght]

Any life where a person is very passionate about something will surely create an interesting life no matter what the situation is. Follow the passions that are unique to you...the further you push those passions the more doors that will open over a given period of time.

Sounds simple? I think it is.