gwe21 Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 Sorry for a long post but need to get this off my chest. Ive been married for 10years and only got married because I thought it would be best for our son. Ive never lover her in fact I couldnt stand to be around her. She is very lazy and very stubborn. I always felt I deserved better. So about 1.5years ago I met this woman that changed my life. I cant stop thinkin about her. I truly love this woman and she feels the same way. There has never been any sexual relations with her either. She brings out the best in me and I love that. So I brought up a divorce with my wife and she used sex as a weapon. Well finally I moved out for a while and she changed but all her lazy ways and keep coming back. She also will never listen to one idea I have even though some of them saved us a ton of $ she still thinks of me as stupid well rhats how I feel anyways. So what does everyone think? The marriage counseling was a waste of time also. Link to post Share on other sites
farsidejunky Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 You love this other woman? Are you sleeping with her and then complaining your wife is using sex as a weapon? How far has your relationship gone with the OW? Also, it sounds an awful lot like you are placing all of your marital woes on your spouse. What did you contribute to the problem prior to the start of your EA/PA? And the marriage counseling was a waste of time because it only works when both want it to. I don't see any indication in your post that you really want to remain married to your wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gwe21 Posted March 29, 2014 Author Share Posted March 29, 2014 If you read it all you would have seen there is no sexual relations with OW. What is ea/pa? Her laziness was always there. She would come home and sit in bed and watch tv. I would do 90% of the cookin cleaning and work about 50-60hrs a week for almost 10 years. Marriage counseling didnt work cause the guy would only say "have you said that to her" when that doesnt always work. Plus she didnt like going and thought it was me that needed to go. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 Personally I was sweating reading those long posts. Four paragraphs and less than 1000 characters pretty much sums up your marriage, you should be with the woman who really must love you. My exH is happy I set him free too, and my life has been better because of it too. Some people just weren't meant to be together. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
farsidejunky Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 Sorry for a long post but need to get this off my chest. Ive been married for 10years and only got married because I thought it would be best for our son. Ive never lover her in fact I couldnt stand to be around her. She is very lazy and very stubborn. I always felt I deserved better. So about 1.5years ago I met this woman that changed my life. I cant stop thinkin about her. I truly love this woman and she feels the same way. There has never been any sexual relations with her either. She brings out the best in me and I love that. So I brought up a divorce with my wife and she used sex as a weapon. Well finally I moved out for a while and she changed but all her lazy ways and keep coming back. She also will never listen to one idea I have even though some of them saved us a ton of $ she still thinks of me as stupid well rhats how I feel anyways. So what does everyone think? The marriage counseling was a waste of time also. This is the entire initial post that I can see. Which is funny because it clearly conflicted with your warning about the post being long. Is there more? What is ea/pa? EA=emotional affair PA=physical affair I misunderstood the sexual relations part in somehow equating it to what you are going through with your wife. But the relationship with the other woman either is, or has all the makings of, an EA. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gwe21 Posted March 29, 2014 Author Share Posted March 29, 2014 Sorry most forums im on people complain if they gotta read over 1 paragraph. If you want me to post more I will. Just not from my phone its a pita to do for me. Anything specific you want to know? Link to post Share on other sites
RonaldS Posted March 30, 2014 Share Posted March 30, 2014 Are you sleeping with her and then complaining your wife is using sex as a weapon? How far has your relationship gone with the OW? It's sort of annoying when people don't bother reading more than two lines of the OP. Seriously no excuse for it, and it happens CONSTANTLY in these forums. If you have time to reply, you have time to read the OP. Link to post Share on other sites
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