Compo Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 (edited) Hi all this is the first time I have ever posted on a forum so please bear with me, I am 44 years old my wife is 38 we have been together 15 years and married for 11 two weeks ago she told me that she wanted to end our marriage no trial seperation straight forward end, we have two daughters 6 and 8 years and a 19 year old son from a previous relationship of Clair's. At first Clair couldn't give me any answers to my questions saying she didn't know herself it just didn't feel right and she had buried her feelings for so long that they all just spilled out, basically we had just drifted apart she still loved me but wasn't in love with me, our sex life was ok we always enjoyed sex but it could be weeks in between, I know there's not a third party involved. We have spoke since the reasons she given are things like I looked Mardy if she asked me collect something and if she wanted a PJ day with our girls I would go round and open the curtains they just seem little things to and the spark has gone I know people do fall out of love but I never seen this coming at all. She seems very determined to call it a day she has said a few times I know I've made the right decision and if she ends a relationship there's no going back however before the children we have split us twice for a few days at a time? I have started having some councilling following our seperation for me to try and get my head straight I have suggested it to Clair but again she just refuses saying I don't need any councilling. We are talking and staying friends I do have crossed words with each other it's a difficult time for all of us but we seem to get over it quickly. Just over two years ago my mother in law passed away she was an alcoholic my wife Clair has never visited her grave except on the day of the funeral I have asked her over the two years if she would like to go but she refuses saying I've done my grieving, I can't help thinking that she may be suffering from a mid life crisis or some form of mild depression, now I'm not saying our marriage was perfect nor am I saying that if she found out there was another issue that would sort our marriage out but it would certainly help Clair. I'm sure I've missed bits out I just wondered if anyone has any advice or been in a similar position at all? One last thing she has already starting looking into ways we could buy each other our with regards to the home etc... It all seems very quick but if she has been thinking about this for some time she will be further forward than I am. I hope all of that makes sense? Thank all Craige. One thing I did forget she told me two weeks ago monday then on the Friday she said I just want to go and jump in bed and have sex I replied with who she replied with you of course I wouldn't have sex with anyone else!! Edited March 29, 2014 by Compo Forgot some points Link to post Share on other sites
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