People are treating me so differently after losing weight

[CadeYeager]

So as stated in the title, nearly everyone has been treating me differently ever since I lost weight. Friends, family, and even women.

 

Friends want to hang out more, and those "acquaintances" are now wanting to catch up.

 

Family just respects me a bit more.

 

But now onto the women. I've never been great with them, hell I have a bit of social anxiety. But lately I've had many more stares, more smiles, and interactions.

 

So my problem is adjusting. I'm having trouble with it.

[Notsure_9]

Things will get easier. But it does take some adjusting I don't know about you but it seems to me like I get more attention now from everyone and I never have and still don't like attention being focused on me. But ive tried to adjust to it the best I can and just go with it. I just try to be happy with the accomplishments! Good luck with everything!

[melell]

It really bothers me that people are like this. Especially as far as friendship goes- I truly don't believe aesthetics should have any impact on friendships.

 

I haven't been through the same circumstances but I can say that I am uncomfortable with attention of most sorts. And I can imagine going from not having it to having it would be unsettling too. You will get use to it though

 

congrats on making positive changes too

[gaius]

A lot of people in your situation end up gaining the weight back because they've just had enough but there are coping skills you can develop. Often I walk around with a cranky puss on ny face. Which seems to keep away 95% of people. The other 5% can usually be gotten rid of by being boring and formal. It's like your 500 pounds all over again without the massive grocery bill and negative health effects.

[contact1]

Sadly this is such a true concept, people will never admit it, but when you go from being overweight to slim, people just treat you differently. It's the same with men who are short vs tall, taller people get treated better. Congrats on improving your health, that should the may thing and reason for losing the weight, for yourself and for your health

[suladas]

I found it weird to, I lost a bit, and honestly kept thinking "is it really that much different, I don't see it" But for me it was just the constant thing of everyone noticing and bringing it up but in a good way. Even people I knew business wise who you'd never think would notice or comment did. It did make me feel somewhat uncomfortable because I don't like a lot of attention, but at the same time it made me feel good for the compliments. I mean, at 6'6" I went from roughly 270 to 230, and a decent amount of the compliments weren't even at my lightest, I never seen the massive the difference. I mean when I seen friends from high school I hadn't seen in like 3-4 years and I was around 300lbs then, ya that's a huge difference.

 

I did gain it back actually, nothing to do with the attention though