Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 31, 2014 Author Share Posted March 31, 2014 Yes you can! Has he given you any hints? Whats the story? Oh f*ck Ive done it!.... my heart is going like the clappers!! ha ha x TBC! X Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted March 31, 2014 Share Posted March 31, 2014 Hmm, I wanted to give you an answer based on your topic title, but apparently that's not what this thread is about at all. You should be asking what you want from this guy. Do you want to be in a relationship with him? Or do you just want an ego boost that he's interested? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 31, 2014 Author Share Posted March 31, 2014 Hmm, I wanted to give you an answer based on your topic title, but apparently that's not what this thread is about at all. You should be asking what you want from this guy. Do you want to be in a relationship with him? Or do you just want an ego boost that he's interested? No it was about that we just went a bit off topic! lol x I dont know what I wan from him but i do want to see him again x Link to post Share on other sites
Silver93 Posted March 31, 2014 Share Posted March 31, 2014 Oh f*ck Ive done it!.... my heart is going like the clappers!! ha ha x TBC! X Fair play to you, let me know how ya get on, I think it will go well for ya Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted March 31, 2014 Share Posted March 31, 2014 No it was about that we just went a bit off topic! lol x I dont know what I wan from him but i do want to see him again x OK, so you like him. But beyond that, you don't know. Why did you end it with him the first time? How long were you guys together? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 OK, so you like him. But beyond that, you don't know. Why did you end it with him the first time? How long were you guys together? Yes basically... I know Id like to see him again and see how it goes but not sure what I want further than that. We were only seeing each other for 3 months. I ended it for reasons in posts a few above x Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 Well that left me even more confused so that was probably a complete waste of time ! x Link to post Share on other sites
Silver93 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 Well that left me even more confused so that was probably a complete waste of time ! x What happened? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 He didnt seem to get what I meant by I "like" him, at first he said thats good as he wanted to be friends! I said I have just told u I like u and u send me that... I give up! lol he acted all confused and is now pressing for me to be clearer... says he doesnt get it... he cant be that thick surely ! x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silver93 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 He didnt seem to get what I meant by I "like" him, at first he said thats good as he wanted to be friends! I said I have just told u I like u and u send me that... I give up! lol he acted all confused and is now pressing for me to be clearer... says he doesnt get it... he cant be that thick surely ! x No matter how it turns out, I think you should give yourself a pat on the back for being so brave to make your move. Do you think you have to be more clearer or is he trying to act dumb so as to not have to deal with your feelings. I think you should ask him would he like to go out and if he declines then move on. Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 No matter how it turns out, I think you should give yourself a pat on the back for being so brave to make your move. Do you think you have to be more clearer or is he trying to act dumb so as to not have to deal with your feelings. I think you should ask him would he like to go out and if he declines then move on. Good luck! Thank you it took everything in me which is why Im so frustrated that I now am being pushed to say even more! x I am thinking exactly the same.. Im not sure if its an attempt to act thick to avoid it or I have just not been clear enough... I cant see why he would want me to be clearer tho if he is just acting thick... now Im really stuck because to be clearer means opening up even more and thats going to be even worse if he blows me out ! x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silver93 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 Thank you it took everything in me which is why Im so frustrated that I now am being pushed to say even more! x I am thinking exactly the same.. Im not sure if its an attempt to act thick to avoid it or I have just not been clear enough... I cant see why he would want me to be clearer tho if he is just acting thick... now Im really stuck because to be clearer means opening up even more and thats going to be even worse if he blows me out ! x At the moment you sound quite frustrated and annoyed by whats going on. If it was me I would open up and explain how you feel. If he turns you down then forget about it and move on. He is not the one for you. You WILL find your Mr right. At least you will have a definite answer so you can move on. You are so brave because this situation sounds quite hard. Good Luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 At the moment you sound quite frustrated and annoyed by whats going on. If it was me I would open up and explain how you feel. If he turns you down then forget about it and move on. He is not the one for you. You WILL find your Mr right. At least you will have a definite answer so you can move on. You are so brave because this situation sounds quite hard. Good Luck! I told him I like him and I would like to see him again now that Im more settled but thats all I know right now - he never replied... now u take your chance and I can either congratulate u or atleast Ill have someone in the friend zone with me ! lol x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silver93 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 I told him I like him and I would like to see him again now that Im more settled but thats all I know right now - he never replied... now u take your chance and I can either congratulate u or atleast Ill have someone in the friend zone with me ! lol x The problem with my situation is that the girl I like sees me as a friend (I think), im too scared to ask her out I hope you get a nice response. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 The problem with my situation is that the girl I like sees me as a friend (I think), im too scared to ask her out I hope you get a nice response. I dont think Im going to get a response now and I know he's been on his phone so thats me done x I do feel better for saying it tho because I have spent so many days wondering and atleast now I know x I know its hard for u but u really should just do it... its better than wondering and u may well get a lovely response x Link to post Share on other sites
Silver93 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 I dont think Im going to get a response now and I know he's been on his phone so thats me done x I do feel better for saying it tho because I have spent so many days wondering and atleast now I know x I know its hard for u but u really should just do it... its better than wondering and u may well get a lovely response x Even though I don't know you I am so proud of you for doing it. Don't worry about him you deserve much better and he doesn't deserve you. He may yet reply and he could be your guy but don't fret, You WILL find your Mr Right. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 Even though I don't know you I am so proud of you for doing it. Don't worry about him you deserve much better and he doesn't deserve you. He may yet reply and he could be your guy but don't fret, You WILL find your Mr Right. I honestly didnt think I would but I really do not feel that bad for doing it... infact a little relieved and I would prefer silence than a great big blow out! x I really think u should take a chance, I know its scary and a gamble but honestly it could well be what she has been waiting for... if not, then u know. Its definitely better to know one way or another than wonder x Go on... u really dont have anything to lose.. Im no worse off now than I was yesterday just things are clearer now x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HappyLove Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 Because I felt he was trying to tell me what to do (he raised concerns about me going out a lot and drinking a lot but he wasnt in a relationship with me... Id been in a RS for 3 years and I just wanted to have some fun (no other men but socialising a lot and drinking a lot but thats what single people do!) it got my back up a bit and I asked if he wanted to make things official (that was really hard for me) he asked if he could have a couple of days to think (because of the same concerns he had raised) I told him things would be different if i was in a RS but at the moment Im a single person then I bailed because it took so much for me to say about making things official to be told he needs to think kinda smashed me and I ran away like a child :-( x I honestly didnt think I would but I really do not feel that bad for doing it... infact a little relieved and I would prefer silence than a great big blow out! x I really think u should take a chance, I know its scary and a gamble but honestly it could well be what she has been waiting for... if not, then u know. Its definitely better to know one way or another than wonder x Go on... u really dont have anything to lose.. Im no worse off now than I was yesterday just things are clearer now x What a jerk for playing stupid. Good for you for taking the chance! Now you can move on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 Thank you x This is turning into one sorry saga! Ive just heard back from him and Im honestly gobsmacked... I think Ive made a mistake... Im not sure I do want to be involved with him x it seems I have to justify how I have changed... WTF lol x Im not begging anyone to be with me... he should have seen beyond it all x Link to post Share on other sites
HappyLove Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 Ok, calm down take a deep breath in...and out. Ok, honestly he has every right to ask you what has changed. You SAID you "ran away like a child". Seems you were playing some mind game that backfired. Now if the roles were reversed and he did this to you I think you'd be right to ask what's different this time. Nobody wants to waste their time. Maybe you hurt his feelings before and he has a right to be cautious. The fact that he wants to know more is a good sign that maybe this could be resolved. It's time to stop texting though. NO MORE TEXTING! Your last text to him should be 'I'd really like to talk to you about this and answer any questions you may have, let's meet over coffee and talk.' And when you meet up don't tell him you like him just say I enjoyed our time together before and hope we can try again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 Please stop talking sense lol x u are right but I had a couple of concerns with him & I'm not making him sell himself to me.. He's not even mentioned wanting to work it out or misses me etc.. I feel like I'm stripping myself bare for someone that could well go "nah" this is so difficult x Link to post Share on other sites
HappyLove Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 Please stop talking sense lol x u are right but I had a couple of concerns with him & I'm not making him sell himself to me.. He's not even mentioned wanting to work it out or misses me etc.. I feel like I'm stripping myself bare for someone that could well go "nah" this is so difficult x No you're not! You're taking a chance with a guy who's still on your mind after you broke it off. It's THAT simple if he turns out to be a Prince or jerk could go either way but you're looking to give it a chance. What you are doing is putting your big girl undies on and taking life by the horns instead of laying back and not ever taking a chance. This isn't about being perfect or who's the better one. May work out may not but at least you tried. It's you being mature. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 I didn't read through all the posts. But if a guy likes a woman - he likes to know that. If a guy doesn't like a woman - he still likes to know it (boosts his ego). To me, you can't lose. Just tell him what you feel think. It's not like you have anything to lose at this point... Link to post Share on other sites
Valen Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 So my question is... how do u men feel when a woman says she likes u? x Happy! Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 2, 2014 Author Share Posted April 2, 2014 I wouldn't explain to him how things had changed I just said he either wants to do this as I do (from scratch) or he doesn't but I can't put anymore into this. Said I felt like I was on trial when he has given me Nothing to work with he then ended it which got my back up as he would have let me strip myself bare to be blown out.. We ended up having a big row so I guess it's done now.. Even if I had have explained he was going to pick on the one thing I wouldn't have said.. He's not a decent person & I'm pretty sure I got played & was right when we broke up that he is back with his ex.. I was just on the back burner x I was pretty harsh in my last message stated exactly what my take was & he ran off.. Truth hurts x Link to post Share on other sites
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