Mountainsandstars Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 My lowest moment by far was after giving birth to his baby and then watching her die, that he didn't even acknowledge it. I registered just to say how heartbreaking this must have been and how sorry I am for your loss. I hope you find true happiness. The MM is a truly bad person. 2
C00kie Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Maybe a little off-topic, but I was thinking (and maybe all xOW or even OW can relate): I think this is a woman thing and I hate it: feeling guilty for everything. If we don't reply to their messages, or reply very briefly, we tend to think "Oh, maybe I was rude, maybe I was unfair on him, he's been sweet and all," bla bla, as we don't want to feel that it's our fault things didn't work out. However, if we do reply in a nice way, we may end up thinking "what did I do that for? I'm so stupid. He doesn't deserve that. Argh, I'm an idiot". Lol. Nonsense. 1
still_an_Angel Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 gosh... this thread says it all... * forever tapping the refresh button on my email to check if he has replied to my email * continuously checking breaking news if it was his car that was involved in an accident when he goes out if town * moving appointments because he suddenly has "free time" to spend with me * putting on my brightest voice when he calls to advise that he has to cancel because something has come up * saving his voice messages on my phone so i can listen to his voice whenever i want It sux to be the OW.. but all of mine is nothing compared to what Hope Shimmers went through... i feel your sorrow Hope...
Patna Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Maybe a little off-topic, but I was thinking (and maybe all xOW or even OW can relate): I think this is a woman thing and I hate it: feeling guilty for everything. If we don't reply to their messages, or reply very briefly, we tend to think "Oh, maybe I was rude, maybe I was unfair on him, he's been sweet and all," bla bla, as we don't want to feel that it's our fault things didn't work out. However, if we do reply in a nice way, we may end up thinking "what did I do that for? I'm so stupid. He doesn't deserve that. Argh, I'm an idiot". Lol. Nonsense. I so identify with this! OMG!
Cocochai Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 How do you deal when they try to contact you when your clearly ignoring and moving on with your life. Off topic but for whatever reason I'm struggling with this...
inappfriendly Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Him saying, ad nauseam, the platitude "It is what it is".First of all, No Duh, you idiot! Second, if you don't like whatever IT is, change it. Life doesn't just happen to you. It IS what you make it. I do NOT miss his whiney, passive submissiveness. Be a MAN, not a victim, for cryin' out loud! 1
Nothisgirl Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Him saying, ad nauseam, the platitude "It is what it is".First of all, No Duh, you idiot! Second, if you don't like whatever IT is, change it. Life doesn't just happen to you. It IS what you make it. I do NOT miss his whiney, passive submissiveness. Be a MAN, not a victim, for cryin' out loud! Yes! The "I can't" do anything "right now" drove me crazy I finally said "you CAN you CHOOSE not to" he agreed. But stated it was temporary. Temporary indeed, but he'd have let that go on as long as I allowed it. Also, I was so tired of being his confident...he came to me first about everything..work, business, kids...I was the first person he talked to about everything..I finally told him I was tired of having the responsibility of being his "girlfriend" without the benefits. Incredibly frustrating and the epitome of eating cake in my eyes 1
Hope Shimmers Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 I registered just to say how heartbreaking this must have been and how sorry I am for your loss. I hope you find true happiness. The MM is a truly bad person. Thank you so very much. It means a lot. I hope you will continue to post.
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