Tell me I've done the right thing.

[halfalive]

My back story is long, so here's the short version for those who don't want to search for it: had an affair with a married coworker about a year ago. It crashed and burned in an awful way after we had made plans to leave our spouses and be together.

 

After that, he got divorced and I'm still (unhappily) married. A couple of months after I left my job, he contacted me to apologize. After that it was on and off NC and just more heartache for me. The last time I broke NC was because I was having a really rough time and felt that I needed him for emotional support. He was cold and heartless and blew me off. So I thought that was the end of it.

 

Well, last week he contacts me to "see how I am". I called him out on his BS, And he straight up admitted that all he wanted was sex from me. No apology, no "I still care about you". I can not even convey how crappy that makes me feel about myself and I'm left feeling like all he ever did was lie to me and play me. I fell in love with this man and I still can't make those feelings go away.

 

So anyway, I sent him several harsh messages telling him that he is an a****** and that I hope he realizes what he has done to everyone around him someday. (And I really wasn't that nice.) I ended it by telling him to never contact me again, something neither of us has said. I'm feeling guilty for what I said and how I said it but I'm starting to realize that he has some serious issues, that he is a pathological liar and master manipulator. I realize I'm being too vague with my story to convey that, but I want to be careful for anonymity sake.

 

In short, I'm just looking for some support as I have none in my "real life".

[Cocochai]

My back story is long, so here's the short version for those who don't want to search for it: had an affair with a married coworker about a year ago. It crashed and burned in an awful way after we had made plans to leave our spouses and be together.

 

After that, he got divorced and I'm still (unhappily) married. A couple of months after I left my job, he contacted me to apologize. After that it was on and off NC and just more heartache for me. The last time I broke NC was because I was having a really rough time and felt that I needed him for emotional support. He was cold and heartless and blew me off. So I thought that was the end of it.

 

Well, last week he contacts me to "see how I am". I called him out on his BS, And he straight up admitted that all he wanted was sex from me. No apology, no "I still care about you". I can not even convey how crappy that makes me feel about myself and I'm left feeling like all he ever did was lie to me and play me. I fell in love with this man and I still can't make those feelings go away.

 

So anyway, I sent him several harsh messages telling him that he is an a****** and that I hope he realizes what he has done to everyone around him someday. (And I really wasn't that nice.) I ended it by telling him to never contact me again, something neither of us has said. I'm feeling guilty for what I said and how I said it but I'm starting to realize that he has some serious issues, that he is a pathological liar and master manipulator. I realize I'm being too vague with my story to convey that, but I want to be careful for anonymity sake.

 

In short, I'm just looking for some support as I have none in my "real life".

 

Just a warning... I've told my XMM to never contact me again and he still did once he felt things cool off..

 

I'm sorry your going through this. People always say when a person tells you who they are, believe them. Now you know what his true intent was behind the emotional ties you have with him.

 

I'm not sure why he would actually tell you that but look at it as a wake up call..

 

Btw, not sure I understand what you mean by what I bolded.

 

 

Oh never mind... I thought BS stood for betrayed Spouse.

[Popsicle]

Nope, he deserved it.

[halfalive]

My back story is long, so here's the short version for those who don't want to search for it: had an affair with a married coworker about a year ago. It crashed and burned in an awful way after we had made plans to leave our spouses and be together.

 

After that, he got divorced and I'm still (unhappily) married. A couple of months after I left my job, he contacted me to apologize. After that it was on and off NC and just more heartache for me. The last time I broke NC was because I was having a really rough time and felt that I needed him for emotional support. He was cold and heartless and blew me off. So I thought that was the end of it.

 

Well, last week he contacts me to "see how I am". I called him out on his BS, And he straight up admitted that all he wanted was sex from me. No apology, no "I still care about you". I can not even convey how crappy that makes me feel about myself and I'm left feeling like all he ever did was lie to me and play me. I fell in love with this man and I still can't make those feelings go away.

 

So anyway, I sent him several harsh messages telling him that he is an a****** and that I hope he realizes what he has done to everyone around him someday. (And I really wasn't that nice.) I ended it by telling him to never contact me again, something neither of us has said. I'm feeling guilty for what I said and how I said it but I'm starting to realize that he has some serious issues, that he is a pathological liar and master manipulator. I realize I'm being too vague with my story to convey that, but I want to be careful for anonymity sake.

 

In short, I'm just looking for some support as I have none in my "real life".

 

You are right, great points!

 

Lol, no I meant bull**** by that.

[Popsicle]

Nope, he deserved it.

 

"It" being getting sacked out.