Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 I'm a "conqueror mentality" too. When last girl broke things off (for an ex, presumably) I just reminded myself of how it all went: *Was sitting in a bar one night, watched three girls walk in. Wanted badly to speak to the middle (gorgeous one), waited almost two hours for that chance, took it, got her phone number (in the middle of the girls convo - very tough), called her, dated her, got to know her, took it to intimacy, plus had lots of good memories that can't be taken away. And a damn good story that I'm proud of, and can do it again. Yes, exs are just a good memory. "met her at my last semetre. She told me she cant see board and started asking me stuff. Then we went on date. First time i kissed a girl at first date. Also first time i slept with a girl in second date." We had ups and downs. It was tiring but joyful ride. Link to post Share on other sites
Breadimus Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 I know you're trying to help, but WTF is wrong with you!!!!! Hi, your point is well made and I noted that my comments are crude. Let me remind you how ever that this man by the end of the relationship was himself treated like a 'bomber jacket'. That is fine, every one every where deserves to be happy and should always seek the best partner for them. The sooner he realizes that the better. Nor should his worth be determined by what another sees in him. Nor should he worry about what others do, it is wasted energy. He feels better, I hope, and my thoughts were laid out crudely for emphasis. I am not hasking him to forget the incredible journey he has with his ex, but to look for a new journey to have with another. Link to post Share on other sites
leesc90 Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 I really hope you're being ironic. hey confusedhumanbeing. you gave me some great advice before under an older username i used. im very curious in speaking to you about my situation if you are open. please let me know! Link to post Share on other sites
Author youcanever Posted April 2, 2014 Author Share Posted April 2, 2014 Hi, your point is well made and I noted that my comments are crude. Let me remind you how ever that this man by the end of the relationship was himself treated like a 'bomber jacket'. That is fine, every one every where deserves to be happy and should always seek the best partner for them. The sooner he realizes that the better. Nor should his worth be determined by what another sees in him. Nor should he worry about what others do, it is wasted energy. He feels better, I hope, and my thoughts were laid out crudely for emphasis. I am not hasking him to forget the incredible journey he has with his ex, but to look for a new journey to have with another. Today i focused on my work fully. I guess my medication is focusing on work & studies. Feeling better. Not caring. Positive but kind of chaotic. Link to post Share on other sites
TheNoBSBuddhist Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 You need to go towards what I have seen termed here as 'peaceful indifference'. In other words, to the point when you see her being kissed by another man, and you have no reaction to that, one way or the other. Link to post Share on other sites
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