omisty Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 My husband and I have been separated for 6 months. I left him because he was controlling, telling me who I can hang out with, what I can wear, accused me of cheating, I had time limits when I could be home and when I was out he would call me all the time to check up on me. He has been attending anger management since the separation and we have been getting along. We have two kids together so we see each other when it comes to them. He asked me to see if we could start dating and maybe in the future reconcile. I agreed but at the same time I recently started dating a new guy whom I really like. H doesn't want to date anyone while we are seeing each other. I'm not so sure I want to give up this guy because I want to see where it goes, however, I am up for the option of giving H another chance. I told H about the other guy and he stated that If I want to see this other guy that we will not date until I decide what is going on with him. I'd like to date both at the same time. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 My husband and I have been separated for 6 months. I left him because he was controlling, telling me who I can hang out with, what I can wear, accused me of cheating, I had time limits when I could be home and when I was out he would call me all the time to check up on me. He has been attending anger management since the separation and we have been getting along. We have two kids together so we see each other when it comes to them. He asked me to see if we could start dating and maybe in the future reconcile. I agreed but at the same time I recently started dating a new guy whom I really like. H doesn't want to date anyone while we are seeing each other. I'm not so sure I want to give up this guy because I want to see where it goes, however, I am up for the option of giving H another chance. I told H about the other guy and he stated that If I want to see this other guy that we will not date until I decide what is going on with him. I'd like to date both at the same time. Any advice? Ditch the OM. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 See how things go with the new one... the ex will always be there... x Link to post Share on other sites
Movingforward2 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 Ditch the OM. The guy is the father of your kids and if you are agreeing to "give it a try" it will never work if you do date both. There are always other fish in the sea, but not another fish that you had kids with. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author omisty Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 I guess my concern is, the OM is very nice, my ex was controlling and I am not sure that he has actually changed. I am afraid to drop the OM if there is a possibility of it working out for my ex whom there may not be a possibility of him changing. He seems to have changed but I think it may be because we don't live together and he cant control me now. Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 I guess my concern is, the OM is very nice, my ex was controlling and I am not sure that he has actually changed. I am afraid to drop the OM if there is a possibility of it working out for my ex whom there may not be a possibility of him changing. He seems to have changed but I think it may be because we don't live together and he cant control me now. Everybody is "very nice" when you meet them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author omisty Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 I understand everyone is very nice when you meet them but I also understand my H can be very nice and appear to have changed but hasn't. Maybe I should give H the benefit of the doubt. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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