Author leesc90 Posted May 1, 2014 Author Share Posted May 1, 2014 Well maybe because now you have to go back to square one: dealing with the break up. And then you find yourself topping it off with false hope and rejection. That's rough. yeah.. i should have known better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author leesc90 Posted May 31, 2014 Author Share Posted May 31, 2014 its been 4 months, with two breaks in NC. one in which she strung me back (kissed me, made it seem as though she wanted me back) and then threw me away again. and another in which i just was weak and called her saying i missed her. Foolish i know, but my question is: I've known this girl ten years.. dated for three. objectively i feel she is the perfect girl for me... (minus the fact that she doesnt want me). She checks off every box that i desire in a partner. How do i cope with the knowledge that i seriously will not find another partner with this degree of attributes that i like? I know the common advice people give is that, you dont know that and there are definitely better people for you. But i really dont think so. I've dated a lot, and she made me immensely happy and finally thought i had found the one. feeling weak today guys, any advice would be great. thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 Since she's not making you and only you her TOP priority - there's no reason to hand her all YOUR power any longer. She's mean the way she pulls you back in to feed HER ego - then hurts YOU the minute you show her any attention by being kind. Just don't do it! Get busy dating other gals - gals that will APPRECIATE your kindness and effort. Remember = she's just mean. That's coming from a woman! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lifegoezon Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 Sorry if this sounds harsh but it's ridiculous to think there is only this one woman out of all those you will meet in your life who can make you happy and 'meet your criteria'. But you're never going to meet them while you're hankering after this one. She's done with you. It doesn't matter that you still think she's 'the one'. You're not her 'one'. Get over it. You can be happy again if you try to move on. It's not easy but it IS possible. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 its been 4 months, with two breaks in NC. one in which she strung me back (kissed me, made it seem as though she wanted me back) and then threw me away again. and another in which i just was weak and called her saying i missed her. Foolish i know, but my question is: I've known this girl ten years.. dated for three. objectively i feel she is the perfect girl for me... (minus the fact that she doesnt want me). She checks off every box that i desire in a partner. How do i cope with the knowledge that i seriously will not find another partner with this degree of attributes that i like? I know the common advice people give is that, you dont know that and there are definitely better people for you. But i really dont think so. I've dated a lot, and she made me immensely happy and finally thought i had found the one. feeling weak today guys, any advice would be great. thanks. You will.....You're just hurt currently. You'll be fine and find someone else. That's really all that needs to be said. She obviously doesnt care enough to be with you again. Even after a "slip up", it just made it worse. You'll get there. Just give it time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FortunateSon Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 its been 4 months, with two breaks in NC. one in which she strung me back (kissed me, made it seem as though she wanted me back) and then threw me away again. and another in which i just was weak and called her saying i missed her. Foolish i know, but my question is: I've known this girl ten years.. dated for three. objectively i feel she is the perfect girl for me... (minus the fact that she doesnt want me). She checks off every box that i desire in a partner. How do i cope with the knowledge that i seriously will not find another partner with this degree of attributes that i like? I know the common advice people give is that, you dont know that and there are definitely better people for you. But i really dont think so. I've dated a lot, and she made me immensely happy and finally thought i had found the one. feeling weak today guys, any advice would be great. thanks. I think you need to ask yourself, if she was really your "perfect" girl, wouldn't she at the very least want you? All those other qualities of perfection are irrelevant if she doesn't want you. It is now infatuation, be aware of that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author leesc90 Posted May 31, 2014 Author Share Posted May 31, 2014 meh.. i guess i figured after 4 months of me trying to forget about her, i would begin to see otherwise. but she just has so many qualities that are incredibly rare to come by in the combination that they are. ive been going on dates, thinking of ex's but man.. shes somethin special. i know im gonna get flamed hard for this post, but i need to be honest with you guys on what im thinking. Link to post Share on other sites
FortunateSon Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 Don't beat yourself up, after 4 months it is still understandable to have those feelings. I am close to a year, post BU and still have them on occasion. Link to post Share on other sites
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