Do your looks reflect your personality?

[melell]

I feel like the way I look really reflects my personality like I have a very 19th century Helena bonham carter face/ look and my personality is really old fashioned,I only like old things,romantic etc.

 

Do we become like this because of how we look?

or does the personality just fit the look ?

I feel like I was always just like this,but the other day I saw a girl who had my old fashioned look but she was some kind of rockish punk type girl so maybe I don't know.

 

Do you feel your looks reflect your personality

 

My look is pretty erratic, I see things I like for whatever reason, will wear it one day, and something completely different the next.

 

Personally I don't fit into any particular 'type', and I don't think my personality does either.

 

I have observed countless people who change their style in dramatic ways long term-to some people it may like like they are morphing to fit in with a particular group of friends and what not, 'trying to be something', but I think it is either people trying out new things to see what they like, or, for instance, have heard a certain type of music and want to reflect something they like- so even if it changes constantly it is still reflecting their interests/personality somewhat.

 

I don't find it too surprising when people don't fit their look at all, I think they are just really playing around. 80% of my friends have a punk/rockabilly/psycobilly look- as if they are at a gg allin concert but just walked off the set of american graffiti :/ only 10% of those people I would considered having personalities that are true to their look.

 

It actually kind of sucks, I look ridiculously preppy compared to them, and feel pretty uncomfortable with how I look while with them. Glad I am in England though- all fashion seems a little off beat in one way or another

 

Looong post sorry.

[FitChick]

my mother thinks I have reasons to be jealous? Why?

Why don't you ask your mother and sister what those reasons are?

[gaius]

Considering how surprised people are when they see my pics or hear my voice online, I'd say that my looks aren't reflective of my personality.

I think I saw a picture of you one time and you actually looked sweet and very feminine. Not at all like the formidable, opinionated arguing force I had pictured.

 

People are usually surprised by how young I am if they haven't seen me in person. They think I'm mature and old! Despite my love of funny words like penis and boobs. Which works out for me because I usually get the hots for women older than myself.

[gaius]

Glad I am in England though

I thought East Sussex meant you were in New Jersey. I'm surprised already.

[TAV]

More than once I've had the (rather disturbing) comment: You are actually quite intelligent. So no, my looks don't reflect my personality. I’d neither put my hair up in a bun nor wear glasses though . I have a sarcastic kind of humour that does not correspond with my sweet face either but if you look closely you will see the mischief in my eyes Sometimes it's an advantage that looks are deceiving; it can be nice when people at work underestimate you. If there is one thing I'd like to change about my looks it's the fact that you can read every emotion on my face. No matter how much I try to keep a poker face, it never works. I won't be winning any Oscars soon

[tbf]

I think I saw a picture of you one time and you actually looked sweet and very feminine. Not at all like the formidable, opinionated arguing force I had pictured.

Must I look like a battle ax, in order to have a brain and know how to assert myself?

[gaius]

Must I look like a battle ax, in order to have a brain and know how to assert myself?

I was a little afraid of you when I first got here. For like the first two years or so. You can steamroll people with the best of them. The having a brain and being assertive description doesn't accurately do you justice.

 

If I saw the pic I did while not knowing anything else I'd expect to talk about myself and my viewpoints all night while she nodded her head and laughed at my jokes. If I ever ran into that girl in person. Which is like the exact opposite of what goes on here.

[tbf]

I was a little afraid of you when I first got here. For like the first two years or so. You can steamroll people with the best of them. The having a brain and being assertive description doesn't accurately do you justice.

 

If I saw the pic I did while not knowing anything else I'd expect to talk about myself and my viewpoints all night while she nodded her head and laughed at my jokes. If I ever ran into that girl in person. Which is like the exact opposite of what goes on here.

IRL, I've had men misjudge me based on appearances.

 

In anything work related, it used to be a form of entertainment to sandbag them by playing up the naive ditz, then making them look stupid at the optimum time. They don't make the same mistake twice.

[florence of suburbia]

I feel that my husband's life decision to perceive his body as naturally small and slight and to make himself more-so by fasting when he was still growing does not fit with the strength and masculinity of his personality and has had an impact on our sexual relationship.

[Emilia]

In anything work related, it used to be a form of entertainment to sandbag them by playing up the naive ditz, then making them look stupid at the optimum time. They don't make the same mistake twice.

I would go to meetings, almost twirling my hair and fluttering my eyelashes (ok, not quite but you get the picture) then I would start asking uncomfortable questions about some of their decisions and they were like rabbits caught in the headlights :laugh:

[tbf]

I would go to meetings, almost twirling my hair and fluttering my eyelashes (ok, not quite but you get the picture) then I would start asking uncomfortable questions about some of their decisions and they were like rabbits caught in the headlights :laugh:

 

Set the trap with leading questions so they expose their underbelly first which provides you with more fuel to trip the locking mechanism. Had one call me a cobra.

[FitChick]

I feel that my husband's life decision to perceive his body as naturally small and slight and to make himself more-so by fasting when he was still growing does not fit with the strength and masculinity of his personality and has had an impact on our sexual relationship.

In what way?

[Stay_Gold]

My looks definitely does not reflect my personality. That's kinda of a problem. Often times girls are attracted to my looks thinking I'm a certain type of guy (badboy type) but then I'm the complete opposite.

 

I think I need to change my style but then I don't like the dorky clothes or formal wear. What to do?...

 

HAHA...This SUMS ME UP PERFECTLY TOO!!!

 

My looks/style definitely DOES NOT match my personality. Like you... I have to say that my facial features, hair, clothes style, walk and demeanor are "TYPICAL BAD BOY PERSONA".

 

I am southeast asian with fairly light skin but I have more of a exotic/mix look to me. I have been called mexican, native american, samoan and all the other asians. When I was younger...I used to dress like a skater/surfer (still do sometimes) and all my asian friends would call me "white boy".

 

Like you...I HATE DORKY/PREPPY type style clothing i.e. Abercrombie, Hollister, Polo, GAP and so on. As of now...my current style and persona is URBAN OUTFITTERS. I am into the Leather Motorcycle jacket with a hoodie, skinny jeans/khakis, leather boots or chuck taylors, rayban sunglasses and a gatsby news boy cap type look.

 

And like you...its a major PROBLEM. Haha lol =). Most of the woman I have been with say they fell for my looks and bad boy persona...but after getting to know me...they end up finding me as boring, nice and just overall good and end up NOT LIKING me anymore.

 

My hobbies/interests are masculine/bad boy...I am very outdoorsy. I love to snowboard, fish, skateboard, hike, camp, firearms, party, clubbing, motorcycles, DJing, Hiphop/rap music and just about ANYTHING a typical american man should like. I do it ALL BABY!!!...but it still DOES NOT help.

 

I used to think that it was a GOOD THING. You know...like brad pitt...dresses and acts bad boy but deep down inside...is just overall nice/admirable (could be debated/subjective). I used to think that girls like it if you can be a bad boy when out...BUT can also impress her too with your "good boy" personality when she decides to take you home to "DADDY" . BUT APPARENTLY NOT!!!\

 

If you can find a solution for the both of us...Please let me know...haha lol.

[thefooloftheyear]

Ive been called imposing and serious looking by people who dont know me...Im a big guy, have some tats and look pretty rugged I suppose...

 

*shrug* ...I dunno....I am a pretty serious person when I am running my company, but I can be relaxed and witty when I am in the company of people that know me and in a casual environment...Im not a talker, though...

 

TFY

[Woggle]

Not really. I am 35 and I still look like I could be in college. People always guess my age at around 23. I don't look like the hardboiled and honest kind of person I am.

[serial muse]

I think people tend to underestimate me based on looks...like you, Woggle, I look pretty young for my age. And more than that, I suppose I can have a bit of a wide-eyed look, and I'm quiet, which seems to make people think I'm naive and perhaps a bit malleable, adding to the young-seeming thing.

 

But I'm quite sharp and extremely stubborn really. I think that surprises people when they come to know me. It's not really an issue at work - colleagues know me, and in other professional settings where I'm interacting with people I can tell pretty quickly when it's time to lower the voice, clip out the words, and possibly even trot out the PhD to assert my authoritae.

 

It was a bit more of an issue in dating, though. The disconnect between my looks and personality isn't intentional but I think it certainly confused potential dates -- attracting the wrong sorts of people for me rather than the better fits.

 

As a side note, that is why OLD was actually a good thing for me, and I suspect for others like me as well. Cold approaches in person were invariably frustrating for both parties.

Edited April 10, 2014 by serial muse

[Targetlock]

well i'm tall, thin, with a slightly boyish face (i'm always mistaken for younger) and nice eyes (well i always get told they are) and personality wise i'm awkward, geeky, reserved but caring and slightly effeminate in nature.

never thought my looks reflect my nature though.

 

 

To argue against that some of the most beautiful people can be the most horrible and vice versa.

[Imported]

I guess my facial features is kinda on the feminine side. You're not going to mistake me for a girl or anything like that, but I can see my face for what it is. Plus side, I don't bald at all, no receding hairline, nothing. My body shape, in my own opinion, is mesomorph. There was a time I was lost and tried getting big, but after some feedback from women and rethinking everything, I changed my goals for my workouts and now maintain a slim, somewhat muscular body.

 

My personality? I don't know. I really don't. Sometimes I am one way, sometimes I am another way. A lot of times, I am a reflection of what I am seeing from the person in front of me.

 

Compound that by; Am I with a girl that I am happy with and thinking I just lucked out beyond all belief finally and she is it? Or am I just with a girl that is pretty cool and I am happy enough to be with her, but she's not it. Or am I in one of my dark doom and gloom phase where everything just sucks!

 

I dunno. I am sure my personality in general just sucks. I do have "*******" tendencies. A lot of times, I try to be nice, but I am not always good at being nice. But I remember when I was in love and seriously the whole world seemed to open up and I flowed with it and everyone in it perfectly. Nothing pissed me off. Until that one thing she did pissed me off.

[Tayla]

Nope. Physical appearence comes off as petite and genteel. Quiet, reserved.

Lines on forehead( denotes anger lines) ( which I rarely exhibit in real life)

Yet in a group setting , I tend to liven the group up or ask posing questions.

First impression feedback from others has been, you seemed:

 

A: Private person

B: Reserved .

After getting to know and exchange information , the results are, 'you aren't anything like I Presumed'. funny,witty, delightful, gracious and down to earth. reckon, the judging the book by the cover holds little water for some of us.

 

I love reading, so when I meet someone I often think are they fiction or non fiction, self help or no help, historical or futuristic! Sporty or Ohh Lordy! So far I have been on target with how folks come off when I first meet them, thus why I don't check out certain genre's in the library.